Estrangement Grief: Anyone else going through this?

Posted by annedodrill44 @annedodrill44, Jun 14, 2021

We are experiencing estrangement from a daughter and her family. It truly feels like a death in the family without traditional closure! Is anyone else going through this? Can share details if there is a group to share with.

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delia74 | @delia74 | Dec 17, 2024

In reply to @colleenyoung "@mwgrissom1916, I'm sorry to hear that you and your grandson are estranged - so far apart..." + (show)

Estrangement is defined not by a tape measure but rather by being shut out, cut off, not wanted...

marcia101 | @marcia101 | Dec 22, 2024

My son and I were estranged most of his adult life. Once he cleaned up from his addiction, we started to form a new relationship but not talking often. You couldn't say much to him without him starting an argument or yelling at me.

At 35 he got a girlfriend who believed in the latest trend in therapy which is if you think a person is toxic (who knows how they define it) then you just cut them out of your life. I agree if that person created havoc with alcohol or violence, but this was not the case in our house.

He got back into drugs and wrote me a terrible email last year and this year he died of a drug overdose. I had hoped one day we'd have some kind of relationship but now it's final. We will never know why he made his decisions or what happened, no way to apologize or reconcile.

The loss is brutal and there is no where to turn in my town. My family knew him so they understand the situation, but it's hard to describe to others. We all lost out on so much we should have had.