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Esophageal Cancer stage 4: How do you deal with their anger?

Posted by aknicoleg73 @aknicoleg73, Mar 16 7:11am

This year has been horrible. Jan 12 our world turns upside down. My husband had a stroke, heart attack and was diagnosed with stage 4 esophageal cancer. How do you deal with their anger?

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red77465 | @red77465 | Mar 25 3:54pm
In reply to @red77465 "Yes. almost 2 weeks ago he was hospital for Mensetry Ischemia, and severe sepsis. Came home..." + (show)
@red77465

Yes. almost 2 weeks ago he was hospital for Mensetry Ischemia, and severe sepsis. Came home did well skipped Chemo last week, was set for Chemo Wednesday and here we are today back in hospital with follicular colitis, and low hemoglobin. So they had to check for antibodies before this transfusion since he had one not too long ago. It is alot to handle. I am doing the best I can, but some days it gets really hard. I keep thinking he's gonna beat this one too. He's survived through so much. I just keep praying for peace that surpasses all understanding. He was fine yesterday, no complaints of pain or anything.

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I guess I should clarify. In 2001 he was pinned between 2 40 ton haul trucks, ruptured his Aorta from his heart spent 6 mos in ICU, 2009 he got brain cancer, tumor the sz of an egg in his cerebellum, turns out it was embryonic but made itself known at age 29... We are 45 years old and now Esophageal cancer which has metastised and tumor in his middle, lower esophagus is the sz of my fist. This one is kicking his butt though. I don't know if it's the chemo, or the Keytruda, or if it's just this cancer.

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Zebra | @californiazebra | Mar 25 4:53pm
In reply to @red77465 "I guess I should clarify. In 2001 he was pinned between 2 40 ton haul trucks,..." + (show)
@red77465

I guess I should clarify. In 2001 he was pinned between 2 40 ton haul trucks, ruptured his Aorta from his heart spent 6 mos in ICU, 2009 he got brain cancer, tumor the sz of an egg in his cerebellum, turns out it was embryonic but made itself known at age 29... We are 45 years old and now Esophageal cancer which has metastised and tumor in his middle, lower esophagus is the sz of my fist. This one is kicking his butt though. I don't know if it's the chemo, or the Keytruda, or if it's just this cancer.

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Wow, that’s a lot to go through especially at such a young age. I can see why he’s so frustrated. You’re right, he’s a survivor and he’s lucky to have you by his side. Prayers for you both.

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hondo88 | @hondo88 | Apr 4 1:58am

Lots of support groups, Christ community church elks lodge and the vfw those are my strong holds. Back ground on my self, retired 31 years federal service super happy healthy. Sore throat would not go away. Urgent care kept giving me a z pac send me home saying it’s strep throat. Nope cancer all over the place. I was raging and just destroyed inside. How and why!! Needed to find blame have a resolve support groups more than one are pulling me through. Still don’t know how it’s gonna end. But my anger and anxiety have calmed down

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Don Higgins, Volunteer Mentor | @dsh33782 | Apr 4 6:00am
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@hondo88

Lots of support groups, Christ community church elks lodge and the vfw those are my strong holds. Back ground on my self, retired 31 years federal service super happy healthy. Sore throat would not go away. Urgent care kept giving me a z pac send me home saying it’s strep throat. Nope cancer all over the place. I was raging and just destroyed inside. How and why!! Needed to find blame have a resolve support groups more than one are pulling me through. Still don’t know how it’s gonna end. But my anger and anxiety have calmed down

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@hondo88
I could not swallow anything but sips of water when I was finally diagnosed with esophageal cancer. They finally did endoscopy and found large tumor in lower esophagus. But the really good news is that I was referred to Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa near where we live, and they decided to treat me with radiation and chemo and no surgery. Now my scans are clear and I am cancer free. Have you been to cancer specialist and gotten a treatment plan yet?

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desi27 | @desi27 | Apr 16 1:10pm

It is so hard to deal with! My brother, stage 4, diagnosed Dec 2. As of April 16, 2024, He is still fighting. No chemo. No radiation! He is filling up with fluid now. But he is horrible to nurses and his wife. Nothing seems to comfort him.😑

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aknicoleg73 | @aknicoleg73 | Apr 17 1:02am
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@desi27

It is so hard to deal with! My brother, stage 4, diagnosed Dec 2. As of April 16, 2024, He is still fighting. No chemo. No radiation! He is filling up with fluid now. But he is horrible to nurses and his wife. Nothing seems to comfort him.😑

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I am so very sorry. I will pray for his peace

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