Does anyone else feel isolated and misunderstood?

Posted by sams57 @sams57, Oct 31, 2025

Hi, my name is Sandy. I’m very new to this whole thing. I’m 67, I’ve always been very active. Two years ago my husband died suddenly and it has taken me some time to figure out what I was going to do with my life going forward. I decided to put my energy into volunteering and staying busy with things I enjoy. Two months ago I was doing great, long walks, hiking, yoga, playing pickle ball 3 times a week, volunteering at a therapeutic riding stable, driving for the American cancer society. I was finally feeling good about life again and about myself. Then suddenly one day I went to do some simple stretches and noticed that I couldn’t touch my toes without pain in my sit bones. That pain continued to get worse, as I was driving it would hurt so bad that I would have spasms from my butt to my knees. At this time I was still trying to do the things that I enjoyed and I could if I took enough ibuprofen. But I knew something was not right so I went to my primary doctor. She ordered blood work for rheumatoid arthritis and one of the markers came back positive for antiCCP. She wanted me to go to the rheumatologist but I couldn’t get into one for 6 weeks. My pain increased and I started having pain in my hips, groin, shoulder blades, neck and upper arms. It got so bad that one morning I went to the ER I told him that something was really wrong with me. He did X-ray told me I was getting older, prescribed a narcotic, I told him that I had to drive because I lived alone and he said, I guess you’ll have to take an Uber. So then I went to an orthopedic doctor, he also told me that I was just getting older and I was showing some arthritis in my hips. I told him that I knew I was getting older but two weeks ago I was hiking up a mountain and felt fine.
I was finally seen by a rheumatologist and she immediately said, I think you have PMR, I had never heard of it! She started me on 15mg of prednisone, I have only been on it for 3 days and so far it hasn’t helped much but I’m really hoping that it gets better soon, this morning I was in tears and feeling very lonely. Is this going to be what my future looks like? Then I feel bad for thinking that because I know that I’m blessed and it could be worse. Thanks for letting me vent!

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Sams57. Sorry to hear you are hurting. You may be part of our little (?) club here on the Mayo Clinic Connect. If so, welcome. We all care about you. I say "Club" in jest but this is really a fantastic group. Like others have said, Ask whatever question comes to mind. Other people have made great comments about upping your dose. And remember that upping the dose without the Dr is not some sort of slight to the doctor, nor is it "illegal". You are the best person to figure out if the dose helps or not. And, as others have said, it can take a few days for your body to respond. I got lucky in that my first dose of 15 mg took away 90% of the symptoms in a mater of 6-8 hours. I also had classical symptoms of bilateral shoulder and hip pain, and elevated CRP and ESR blood makers for inflammations. That said, you might want to get the primary care Dr involved. in those blood test (CRP and ESR). The primary Dr I have is very familiar with PMR and is better than any rheumatologist that I could have where I live (rural) if I could find one to take my case in a timely manner. You said you have a positive antiCCP which is a test given for possible RA (rheumatoid arthritis). Keep after that, as it is very important marker for RA (https://www.rheumatoidarthritis.org/ra/diagnosis/anti-ccp/index.html). Also get those other inflammation blood tests I mentioned. You MAY have PMR, you MAY not. Sounds to me like that is still unsure. They really need to rule out RA. Don't worry about taking prednisone right now. It is a med used for both PMR and initially when one has RA (until other drugs are tried for it). I am also a big proponent of self education on PMR and other inflammatory conditions. Don't let the technical stuff scare you. Nobody knows everything but everybody can know something about PMR. My journey with it started last April (at 63 y.o, male) and then finally got on prednisone in the beginning of May. Started at 15 mg per day. Have had great results with it and have tapered down to 4 mg without flares or any substantial pain. I truly believe that the PMR is gone and that I am just dealing with the slow taper (heavily suggested) to avoid adrenal insufficiency issues that the prednisone creates. FYI- I have employed some other therapies such as acupuncture, chiropractic, meditation, bone broth and L-glutamine, and high doses of Omega 3 fatty acids (fish oils). These are to address the very high levels of longterm stress that I have been under for a number of years. I believe that this stress may be a crucial component to understanding why I got PMR. I think my central nervous system was overloaded and my bodily systems such as my gut were sending pain messages to my brain when there was not problems (that is a reference to the 4 years of viscera pain (diagnosed as visceral hypersensitivity) that I and no doctors could explain). Eventually my body sent inflammatory compounds such as Interluekin-6 to my muscle-tendon junctures producing inflammation which was diagnosed as PMR. That is a synopsis of MY PMR journey. Everyone has a different journey with PMR. For me, PMR was a wake up call to really do some CHILLING-OUT and address my living perpetually in the " flight or fight" state of being.

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@petermccarville
Thank you so much for sharing.
My rheumatologist changed my prednisone to methylprednisolone which is a little more potent than prednisone but she is tapering me off by 5 every week. I started with 5 pills (5mg each) for 7 days then 4 for 7 days and so on. I just finished my first week so I’ll see how it will be going down.
My CRP was 3.1 SED was 24
I’m not really familiar with these. I have my next appointment with the rheumatologist tomorrow 🤞

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Trust me once the meds start working you will have your life back.. especially since you are so active..

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