Difficulty with memory care home accepting angry dementia patient
My sister in NJ has at least medium dementia, and gets angry and spits pills or holds hands up to avoid Yucky pills. She actually takes only a chloresterol pill plus ones for her anger. My brother in law cared for her and coped with difficulty until she also got a UTI, which took getting her to the hospital sedated to diagnose. She went home, but refused the UTI pills, so ended up at a psychiatric hospital to ensure she got rid of the UTI. It seems like time to transition her to a memory care home, but he has been having trouble getting her accepted. He has clarified she only hits out at people forcing yucky pills, they have modified pills into gels and varied which foods will work to hide pills. The latest try for a home wants a third evaluation before accepting her, to see if she is consistent (ie well behaved if she's taken pills).
I wondered if anyone else had advice on transitions by their dementia family. It's been a long month of finding her a care home, and my brother in law has only been allowed to visit twice so far (masked, no touching, not best for hard of hearing, hugging sister)