Depression and anxiety

@sheila7a Im not on the big 3 medications as I don’t have MAC. But I remember a pharmacist telling my parent that sometimes meds don’t cause the issues that we might read about on the med info sheets or on the internet.

They have so much experience and are the experts on medications, more so than physicians. It would likely be a very good idea to consult with one or two. Others have mentioned that to you as well.

I hope you can gain weight. If you can eat dairy, then cheese, cream and even an ice cream sundae might help! There are lactose free and plant based options for certain foods too.

If you have a health food store nearby, some employees are often well trained and could suggest high calorie options. Just another idea but a dietician would create a list for you.

I have to watch my cholesterol, too.
I've been going a little crazy with the peanut butter and Chik fil a.
I have to get back to low fat.
I'll just eat more and add in some olive oil.
Stay with the protein shakes.

I’m a new member, my name is Ellen. This is my first post. I’m beginning with Depression and Anxiety
, because I really believe, that all of my co-morbidities, stem from chronic severe stress. I’m 85 years of age, and I’ve been dealing with Depression and Anxiety since my mid twenties.

Are you seeing a therapist are you seeing a psychiatrist for meds? If not you have to at least see a psychiatrist You need to be put on some meds. If you can't handle this on your own. I know what your age you probably don't want to be on meds but this is a truly difficult time. And taking it until the problem is solved will help please trust me I'm 67, and anxiety and depression is debilitating and we want to live the rest of our life as best as we can Good luck

I have anxiety and my mom at 80, has struggled with anxiety and depression since her teenage years. My dad managed her challenges until he passed, now my mom is on meds.
First question is, are you aware of your thoughts where you feel depressed or anxious?
You have been struggling since your mid-20s and now you are 85, bravo for making it to 85, managing challenges.

My suggestion, seek a therapist and don’t pursue medications. When you feel depressed or anxious, you are either thinking of the past or future. Breath, go outside, talk to friends. The key is to be present, sure meds could help but at 85, they could do more harm than good.

Welcome to Mayo Connect, Ellen! I’m hoping that you will find new friends, and the support that you need, during this time of anxiety and depression! I have been so blessed to have had the opportunity to connect with others, going through similar problems as I have, myself! Stress is a harbinger of deep emotion, and certainly can bring on depression and anxiety! I am nearly 80, saddled with a boatload, seemingly, of medically related problems, which have caused me severe anxiety at times, in some instances, and depression, at other times! After I had a grand mal seizure, that lasted a bit, and landed me in another country’s hospital, while visiting family, I became depressed, for many reasons! I woke up in a foreign country’s. hospital, from the seizure, and had to be transported across borders, in order to be transferred to an American hospital! I had a management job, where I ran a Victorian hotel, in a touristy area, to return to! So, the uncertainty, where I wasn’t allowed to drive for months, plus concerns about whether I was able to perform my duties, at the hotel, was making me depressed! Then, a number of years later, I suffered from severe anxiety when I had my first awareness of having atrial fibrillation, when I could feel my heart move around, like in distress in my chest, and then no regular pulse, it scared the wits out of me, so to speak! The patients who have also had seizures and/or atrial fibrillation, and share their stories, and concerns, in this forum, Mayo connect, have made all the difference with me, concerning coping with these and other medical problems, that I have. Good luck, and try to stay positive!

I feel like anything with the word “chronic” in it produces a rollercoaster of challenges. I am recovering from 17 mos of chronic pain which affected every part of my life…including accelerating my depression. I ended up having bilateral hip replacements and several procedures on my lower back and now I’m in recovery. I have discovered that Buddhism classes have opened my eyes to what I can control, which is nothing really. I also listen to and read slot of Kristen Neff on self compassion. In difficult times we tend to best ourselves up a lot and self compassion is a way to steer ourselves away from blame, shame, depression, despair…you name it. Also, just having a spa day once in awhile …some way to really relax, is a nice treat.

I hate to say this but everything stemsfrom our parents, mentally, physically and genetically.
Have you looked into this deeply?

@malebreastcancer47 I agree with your idea of living in the now but sometimes that is not possible if brain chemistry is not balanced. Medication has to be handled carefully but can be helpful rather than harmful. It depends on the needs of the person.

Have you talked to your doctor? Have they listened to you? If not ask for another doctor? Good luck to you and I'm so sorry you're going through what you're going through 💕