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depression and anger over being used by brother that took all my money did not repay any
MY brother a few yrs ago got in trouble because he didnt contribute to retirement
plan where he worked but he paid the employees retirement. this was illegal
he was looking at divorce losing his house and job and his standing as an
elected official--possible jail time. i handed him all my retirement money ===
i only had 45k recently rolled into my retirement fund. i had to pay irs a lot because
i wasnt retirement age when i got disabled. he said he would give me his land
he would inherit when our parents were no longer with us. he has not ever even
mentioned or paid any thing back to me. nor give me his land. i cannot sleep
have anxiety and hatred for him. can anyone help me get over this? i cannot afford therapy. i am 70 now and i do without proper food and live off ss check.
my brother lives high-buys exp guns gifts for his friends takes them to eat never
asks me. this squandering by him has turned me against him. he does nothing
for me. someone please give me advice about letting this gol i have a lot of anger and resentment to him. he will never pay me anything back. thanks .liz
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Hi liz What a sad situation you re in. You gave your brother your retirement money and he has been very ungrateful to your kindness.I can understand that you would be having feelings of anxiety and anger over this. If nothing was placed in writing by your brother as to the land etc that he agreed to give you I don't think that legally you have any rights to this. But in saying this and wilth no legal background myself it may be in your best interests to seek some kind of legal advice. In Australia we have legal aid and this is free legal advice, you may have something similar in the states. Please let me know how things go for you and i'm here if you just need to talk anytime. Take care Piglit
Hi Liz,
I would advice you to apply for free legal services! Hang in there dear.
Dear Ann I am so sorry to hear of your misfortune. Unfortunately; your kindness was abused.you have to try to let it go because the anger will eat you up and cause depression..I realize that this is hard to do but you must take care of yourself..you may have to detach from this relationship. Please keep intouch with me as I truly care and would like to help you. I am a good sounding board and it sounds like that's what you need right now. Do you have any friends to talk with that you trust? Sincerely. Jodi
Dear Jodi-It means lot to me that you answered. -more than you can know.
what I described is not all he took I had an expensive gun collection that I
received thro my divorce settlement years ago.Just one set of matching pistols
were featured on cover of magazine -valued at 25 k. Two weeks after my divorce--
I had no children- my brother came to my house and asked--what are you going
to do with the guns--I said --nothing---just keeping them--He said -let me lock
them up in my safe -no one can steal them. He said you may have a home invasion. Imagine this--I just went thro a bad divorce and I was definitely weak.
I had lost 90 lbs and was a bank mgr --trying to go to work. This happened 22 yrs
ago--taking my retirement money was a few years ago.
when I asked him about my guns-he said he sold them because he needed money--since he was elected to an office -and presiding over court document
also was a deputized official of the law--no one in that small town would have
helped me-he was in the office 20 yrs -until 4 yrs ago was defeated. I lived in
another state. All these yrs=I thought my guns were in his safe.Dont know when
he sold them-what year?-or anything--the model-make--and id on guns were
with the gunsl Sorry to go on and on--thank you for lending an ear. All this has
really taking its toll on me.I trusted him. With love, Ann
Hi ann Just wondering after reading your reply from Jodi whether you had taken any photgraphs of the guns over the years that may assist you to find them. Also may be a good idea to try pawn brokers within the surrounding areas. Just a thought Here if you need me Piglit
HI Piglit-- Bless you for your kind words. I just thank you so much for caring and
responding. When these things happened to me--I was the maincaregiver for
my mom that developed alzheimer disease for 7-10yrs. My priority was to take
care of parents first-me last --After mom passed away 2001--then my father
in 2003. I went to visit with him during week and on weekends. My parents were
my best friends-all I had in this world.. My father age 92 was a victim of home
invasion-I found him one Sunday morning-beaten and left for dead. He lived
for 6 months--but in horrific fear--of what had happened to him. My brother told
the police (the day I found him) that he must have had heart attack and fell around
the room. I did all kinds of investigation--found out who was trying to extort money
from my dad. I never understood why my brother didnt take over the investigation-he surely was in a capacity to( read what I wrote Jodi above) My brother said that
when he got out of office he would look into it-----I promise you--lots of people heard him say what he said. WHO WOULD TURN THEIR BACK ON MURDER
OF HIS OWN FATHER? i think there is an answering day-if not in this world-then
in the next. There is legal aid but it is not funded enough in this state and there
are priorities above mine--they didnt even talk to me about it. My brother stated
orally ( with witnessaround) that when he inherited land he would let me have
it--but he did not.
I am doing best i can, with love, ann
HI Roxie---Thank you so much for responding. I am so happy that you took
the time and forever grateful. Read my responses above. I am trying to hang in
there but I think I am getting weaker. I t has helped me SO MUCH that all of you
talked to me--Wish I could repay you all. Thank you again. With Love-Ann
Hi ann with the witnesses that overheard the conversation are any of them prepared to help you in anyway. Take care piglit
Hi Piglit--Yes=the witness would verify what they overheard.
thanks ==its good to hear from you I guess I get myself upset so that I cant sleep much.. Ann
Everybody==thanks for coffee Thank for everything
Hi Ann take care of yourself my dear, try and rest if you can and as I say fairy steps one at a time. We have a good support group here and are always here to help if you need me/us anytime. Also i find that warm milk and honey helps me relax before sleep. Take care my dear Piglit