Defeated

Posted by dgarza @dgarza, Aug 14 3:14am

It’s been 6 years with this fatigue and pain. My life has changed so much. Lost my job while on fmla. Lost my car. Had to move in with my daughter and can’t be a medical assistant because I can only work a day or two a month 🙁
I don’t talk to anyone anymore because I feel like all I do is complain.
My family think I’m just “not taking care of myself enough”
My blood pressure is out of control and they found a aneurysm in my carotid artery 🫤
I’m only 42… long covid sucks

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Indeed it does! However ——- we are upright (most of the time), mobile (with a cane) and taking nourishment. Tis a daily struggle. At 85.5, frustrated beyond words. Daily I ask “God! Why? What am I supposed to do with this mess? What is your plan ‘cause I am not seeing a clear path forward here.” So I take it a day at a time. Focusing on the opportunities as they appear to align my choices with the Great Commandment. We Love One Another as Christ Loved Us. Love your neighbor as yourself. Sounds great. sounds overly simple. It’s not it’s a daily struggle. Find the good stay strong . Onward.

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"The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why,"
~Mark Twain
You mention you moved in with your daughter, how much of an asset are you to her and there family? Do you help out with small chores around the house,doing dishes emptying trash doing laundry keeping your room spotless another words keeping busy and be an asset. As far as you medical concerns break them done individually and take care them. Remember not everything in your health is long Covid! Ask your self what if I never had covid, would I still be dealing with these health ailments?
I had severe case of covid 1 year ago.eight days intensive care Yada,Yada,Yada. Had to learn how to walk again. My balance was off I was spinning like a top. I broke down everything that was wrong with me and started to addressing each issue. Because I'm 76 how much was covid and how much was because of my age.
Another words I stopped hanging my hat on long covid and got down to attacking each ailment and taking care of them.
So now my credo is:
In the future I have decided to take a less pro- active stance on pursuing specialists for any purpose unless an immediate life threat is involved. Will not pursue any surgeries other than in an emergency situation. Watchful wait is my stance. This approach prioritizes quality of life and prevents overtreatment.
Stay busy my friend and start living again.

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dgarza Aneurysm in the carotid artery vs Long Covid: For a 42-year-old to have an internal carotid artery aneurysm, especially if there are risk factors like atherosclerosis, presents the greater risk compared to LC due to possible stroke or rupture of the artery. The aneurysm with out of control blood pressure imo is most important to resolve.

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Indeed it does! However ——- we are upright (most of the time), mobile (with a cane) and taking nourishment. Tis a daily struggle. At 85.5, frustrated beyond words. Daily I ask “God! Why? What am I supposed to do with this mess? What is your plan ‘cause I am not seeing a clear path forward here.” So I take it a day at a time. Focusing on the opportunities as they appear to align my choices with the Great Commandment. We Love One Another as Christ Loved Us. Love your neighbor as yourself. Sounds great. sounds overly simple. It’s not it’s a daily struggle. Find the good stay strong . Onward.

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@84forward
I asked God one time in prayer: God why me? and he answered back :
Why not!
Just goes to show you he has a sense of humor just when you it most!

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Hi when i got Long C@#@3 Covid
It really suck I could only type with one finger at a time it would take me about a half hour to hour to type Just this much
Started doing the following with my wife help
1. watch what I ate
2. Went for walks after 2 years was able to walk better
3. Went to the gym
4. Sleep
It took years now Im about 85 % an I keep getting better slowly
Ps. Yes I still have some real BAD days its not allways a pice of cake
Hope this helps

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"The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why,"
~Mark Twain
You mention you moved in with your daughter, how much of an asset are you to her and there family? Do you help out with small chores around the house,doing dishes emptying trash doing laundry keeping your room spotless another words keeping busy and be an asset. As far as you medical concerns break them done individually and take care them. Remember not everything in your health is long Covid! Ask your self what if I never had covid, would I still be dealing with these health ailments?
I had severe case of covid 1 year ago.eight days intensive care Yada,Yada,Yada. Had to learn how to walk again. My balance was off I was spinning like a top. I broke down everything that was wrong with me and started to addressing each issue. Because I'm 76 how much was covid and how much was because of my age.
Another words I stopped hanging my hat on long covid and got down to attacking each ailment and taking care of them.
So now my credo is:
In the future I have decided to take a less pro- active stance on pursuing specialists for any purpose unless an immediate life threat is involved. Will not pursue any surgeries other than in an emergency situation. Watchful wait is my stance. This approach prioritizes quality of life and prevents overtreatment.
Stay busy my friend and start living again.

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@zorro12345
I cook and clean every day, I always have. I cook 3 meals a day and I have $500 in food stamps I put in the house. My oldest whom I live with is 24 and I also have a 16 year old. I took from my retirement, since I don’t figure I’ll be here much longer.. I have my blood pressure isn’t controlled .. my girls have watched me suffer and have so much empathy
But I feel so guilty because they shouldn’t have to be taking care of their parent 🫠😞

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@zorro12345
I cook and clean every day, I always have. I cook 3 meals a day and I have $500 in food stamps I put in the house. My oldest whom I live with is 24 and I also have a 16 year old. I took from my retirement, since I don’t figure I’ll be here much longer.. I have my blood pressure isn’t controlled .. my girls have watched me suffer and have so much empathy
But I feel so guilty because they shouldn’t have to be taking care of their parent 🫠😞

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@dgarza also I take my oldest to work 5 days a week and pick her up

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@zorro12345
Ask your Dr. About a drug called Ziac for your blood pressure to get it under control. I'm keeping you in my prayers brother,
Keep the faith!

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"The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why,"
~Mark Twain
You mention you moved in with your daughter, how much of an asset are you to her and there family? Do you help out with small chores around the house,doing dishes emptying trash doing laundry keeping your room spotless another words keeping busy and be an asset. As far as you medical concerns break them done individually and take care them. Remember not everything in your health is long Covid! Ask your self what if I never had covid, would I still be dealing with these health ailments?
I had severe case of covid 1 year ago.eight days intensive care Yada,Yada,Yada. Had to learn how to walk again. My balance was off I was spinning like a top. I broke down everything that was wrong with me and started to addressing each issue. Because I'm 76 how much was covid and how much was because of my age.
Another words I stopped hanging my hat on long covid and got down to attacking each ailment and taking care of them.
So now my credo is:
In the future I have decided to take a less pro- active stance on pursuing specialists for any purpose unless an immediate life threat is involved. Will not pursue any surgeries other than in an emergency situation. Watchful wait is my stance. This approach prioritizes quality of life and prevents overtreatment.
Stay busy my friend and start living again.

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@zorro12345 I cringed when I read your reply, Yes, you did well, but not everyone can I am totally unable to make myself a sandwich or reach the cabinet to get a glass for water! You speak of covid as if it is a thing of the past, LONG covid is another story, I have it, not the active virus, and I was in bed unable to get to the toilet by myself for six months. Help around the house? Hardly. Ease up

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