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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”

Posted by tryingtimes10 @tryingtimes10, Dec 31, 2024

My husband was diagnosed with MCI in 2019. He is pretty independent, just forgetful of time, dates, location of places, anything electronic & events from our life together (we’ve been married 52 years). It’s all just getting to me. I find myself wanting to be alone so I’m not continuously reminded of these changes. Because my friends/family are out of state, working, or involved with their own families, I really have no one to talk to so I’m seeing a therapist twice a week to deal with the sadness, anger, grief I have over his condition. I just wonder if other women find themselves in this position & how they are dealing with it.

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jeanadair123 | @jeanadair123 | 11 hours ago
In reply to @trishaanderson "@jeanadair123 I agree. I've been so busy attending to my husband's needs, wants, and happiness that..." + (show)
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@jeanadair123
I agree. I've been so busy attending to my husband's needs, wants, and happiness that I've put all my own needs, wants, and happiness aside.
I've started doing a few things around the house that make me happy and make our home more pleasant again. Even though he hates having workmen in or around the house.
I hope your new furniture has been delivered and that he has settled down.

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@trishaanderson He seems to but I still have everything in containers normally everything has its place. My girlfriends always laugh and say what’s the next project? 😁 I think the Lupron shots make him more irritable but after a month he seems to calm down. But I have to say with the MCI, cancer and fractured back he is doing amazing and he’s always telling me he’s happy, that’s worth the weight in gold.

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rubyredkate | @rubyredkate | 5 hours ago

So very lonely when they don’t react to my laughing at a book or a movie on my laptop. Doesn’t seem to care that im enjoying myself. Yet he laughs and makes silly jokes with friends or even strangers. Today was not a good day. Memory from moment to moment was tiny, expressions are few, looping over a job that he wants done now, but we can’t do it yet because we don’t have the right paint. Jobs that need completed he won’t begin, so strange. Im praying tomorrow will be a better day.

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rubyredkate | @rubyredkate | 4 hours ago
In reply to @lkbous "@judimahoney Thank you for your help. I sort of do the tracking, but it’s in my..." + (show)
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@judimahoney Thank you for your help. I sort of do the tracking, but it’s in my phone, in emails to myself and on pieces of paper, definitely not organized!
But that brings me to another point, I really hate that the medical profession expects us to talk about everything our cared for person does that is off or odd or problematic. It’s so uncomfortable and unkind.
Again, thank you for your ‘care’, it means a lot.

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@lkbous
My husband resents me saying anything that contradicts him to the healthcare workers. I do remind him before we leave that i may have to jump in because its vital to his health that they have facts. He will agree, but when it happens i get the glares. What can you do? I’m trying to be understanding and gentle but then i mess up.
One moment at a time caretakers!“do all we can do and know thats all we can do”

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