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Cannot die in hospital even if you beg to.

Posted by slkanowitz @slkanowitz, May 11 6:37am

I recently went to hospital by ambulance because of intractable 10 level pain and I have had so many severe illnesses I had just had it with life and wanted to die. I’m DNR status. I begged everyone to let me go but they wouldn’t and ended up overdosing me on opioids for the pain to point I saw the tunnel of light but couldn’t go through it. They reversed the opioids with Narcan. The hospital staff determined my destiny and here I am. It’s their job to keep everyone alive no matter what you want or how terrible your quality of life will be. I guess my work here on earth is not done yet. Just consider this information if you’re ever in this situation as you will have no control of your fate in a hospital. I have seen this happen to others and it is sad we can’t make these choices for ourselves. Who knows what outcome is best. Perhaps God? Just want to plant seeds for thought for anyone in a similar situation.

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standinginfaith | @standinginfaith | May 28 3:02pm
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My father-in-law did it. He called my husband and told him, “Come now. It’s my time to go.” My husband jumped on a plane and his dad had already started VSED - alone. John got there and in 3-days his dad was gone. My FIL was a WWII vet. Perhaps his courage and conviction came from someplace much more difficult. He passed peacefully with John by his side. My uncle was passing at the same time and I was with him. It was rough.

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Ohhh.. it must have been soo rough!! What a brave man!! And a WW11 Veteran .. my Dad was a WW11 Veteran.. they save our world.. salute to him and my he rest in peace.. and prayers for you all!! God bless you!!

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standinginfaith | @standinginfaith | May 29 9:37am
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My father-in-law did it. He called my husband and told him, “Come now. It’s my time to go.” My husband jumped on a plane and his dad had already started VSED - alone. John got there and in 3-days his dad was gone. My FIL was a WWII vet. Perhaps his courage and conviction came from someplace much more difficult. He passed peacefully with John by his side. My uncle was passing at the same time and I was with him. It was rough.

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I'm so sorry for your losses..Your father -in- law was an extremely brave man!! Salute to him for his service..and may he rest in peace..My father was a WW11 Veteran also.. they saved our world!! I know it was rough to watch..my husband was a 100% DAV Vietnam Veteran who had liver, kidney and lymphoma.. he got on hospice and I took care of him for 21 days by myself (he made me promise not to let anyone see him when he was like that.. had to set my alarm every 2 hours 24/7 for about 3 weeks to give him his meds.). hospice came once a day.. atleast when on hospice the pain is controlled..very important!) I used a syringe to feed him Ensure but he quit eating about a week before he passed.. it is extremely rough to watch.. my heart goes out to you all..these soldiers have seen things we pray no one ever has to see.. so brave.. perhaps that's what makes them so strong..God bless you all!!

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lyndadoty | @lyndadoty | May 29 9:42am

How does one get over guilt for not being able to do much any more? I traveled widely, speaking. And ministering. Now I can hardly do anything.

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gravity3 | @gravity3 | May 29 1:16pm
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How does one get over guilt for not being able to do much any more? I traveled widely, speaking. And ministering. Now I can hardly do anything.

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Can you say more about why this triggers you to feel guilty instead of something else.... perhaps pride in yourself.

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Miriam, Volunteer Mentor | @mir123 | May 29 2:15pm
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How does one get over guilt for not being able to do much any more? I traveled widely, speaking. And ministering. Now I can hardly do anything.

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Productivity is great, but for me it isn't the final measure of a person's worth. I know it can be hard--but try not to judge yourself. What are you able to do? I'm guessing there might be ways to continue being of service, if differently.

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sillyblone | @sillyblone | May 29 6:43pm
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How does one get over guilt for not being able to do much any more? I traveled widely, speaking. And ministering. Now I can hardly do anything.

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Hello. The only thing I can suggest is to change your focus to something you can do.
Possibly writing a book or diary about what you did before. Reflect on the positive. Try to find an interesting way to spend your time. Talking with friend's shared experiences and a new experience might come along to bless you and satisfy you.
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Sue, Volunteer Mentor | @sueinmn | May 29 10:03pm
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How does one get over guilt for not being able to do much any more? I traveled widely, speaking. And ministering. Now I can hardly do anything.

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Just as in a book, out lives are built of chapters. My Mom taught me that the stages of life are chapters, to be lived fully, then gracefully closed so one can appreciate the next.
For example, as travel became difficult, we enjoyed smaller adventures much closer to home. Telephone conversations replaced vists with more distant friends and family. Card games and jigsaw puzzles replaced concerts.
The hardest thing was to move from being the helper to the one being helped. After we talked about this being yet another chapter, she became a very gracious and thankful receiver, with a great sense of humor about her situation.
We experienced being receivers this week as we needed wait patiently for help with a task we would have been able to do ourselves easily a few months ago. I am beginning to think about my "next chapters" and how to live them fully and gracefully.

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standinginfaith | @standinginfaith | May 30 12:44am
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How does one get over guilt for not being able to do much any more? I traveled widely, speaking. And ministering. Now I can hardly do anything.

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I have the same problem...I will pray for you!! Hugs!!

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