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My grandma passed away 6 months ago and we was so close she protected me and never wanted to let me go she might of been stricked but she loved and cared about me.
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@hope4happy, I want to offer my condolences to you on the death of your dear grandma. It sounds like she loved you very much. I can tell that you miss her and the way she was 'there' for you. Today would have been my dear brothers 71st birthday. He died 3 years ago, and today has been one of memories for me. I remember all of the fun things we used to do as kids. It is hard for me when I realize that some of these special memories were just between him and me. Then I feel some sadness as I miss those times. I think that 6 months is not very long ago, and that it is understandable that you are experiencing a broken heart.
hope4happy, I would like to welcome you to Mayo Connect. I am happy that you have joined us. I know that there are other members who have lost their grandmas or someone who was special to them. You are not alone and we are here to share our experiences and to walk with you if you want us. I want to ask you a couple of questions so that others will be able to chat with you. Okay?
Had your grandma been ill before she died? Did you live with her or nearby? Or did you live far away? How old were you at the time?
I look forward to hearing from you.
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I would like to echo Rosemary's comments. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of a very special person in your life. She will always be a part of your life and in time your memories of her will be comforting.
I would like to invite you to join in a discussion group here at Connect regarding grief and loss. As you read through these posts I think you will find others like yourself. Here is the link to this discussion, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/loss-and-grief-how-are-you-doing/
Keep posting and sharing with us your memories of your dear grandmother. As you share those memories it will help you.
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My deepest sympathies on the loss of your Grandma. It sounds like she was a gem. Although you feel great pain now, as you should, your memories with be a testament of the love she had for you and you her. That love will be your memory and how delicious that will be!! How lucky you have been to have had such love and protection. As time goes on and your memories become stronger than your pain you will be able to still feel the warmth of her love. How lucky you have been to have experience the joy that she brought to your life, and although she didn't want to leave you, she knew that she could. All that love will be your strength in the days and weeks to come. Merry
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Sending you my sympathy, and understanding the loss of someone that dear to you. The love your grandma had for you, remember that every day, and try and pass it on to others. I was blessed with a caring and loving grandma too, and I try model her example with my own grandchildren.
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I'm sorry for your loss too. yea my grandma had cancer for 5 years she would take care of me when I came to her house when I was little and went to live with her when I was 13 and she raised me full time.I lived with her when I graduated too. I lived in Florida for 2 years and went back to ohio when I was 22 then at 23 I lived with my grandparents for 15 years would of been 16 but she passed away in october 25th 2017 I was 39 when she passed.
Thank you for welcoming me.
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Thank you and I still since her around like when out somewhere I feel like she is still here.
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I know just what you mean. Hold her dear.
I am so glad that you shared some memories of her with us. It sounds like she was more than a grandma, but also a parent. I can see why her loss is so hard for you.
Share with us, if you are comfortable doing so, your favorite memory of her.
@cherriann, That is a beautiful way to honor your grandmother – by modeling her example with your own grandchildren. Keep on making those beautiful memories.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Your grandmother was more than that, she was your surrogate mother, too.
People need to grieve their loss. There is no time line.
One day soon, you will no longer think of her every minute of every day.
One day soon, the images of her being ill will fade and your memories of her will be before illness came upon her.
And, one day soon, you will no longer pull up memories of her activities during her illness. You will start to think more about the fun and love you shared.
I lost my mother when I was 32. I adored her. I became hysterical when a lingering cough turned out to be lung cancer. She was a non-smoker, but she was surrounded by it all her life. She was 67 when she passed. Her death had a great impact on my physical health and emotional health.
One day, during a doctor's appointment, he explained that most of the physical issues were related to my mom's death and it would probably last around 3 years. He was right.
So, give yourself time!
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