Bi polar 1 son refuses treatment

My son spent ten days at Genrose in June 2022 following a severe two week Mania ( he was missing for over two weeks - gave away everything he owned and racked up $12,000 in debt before ending up homeless on his way to disappear into Mexico … he is usually calm, always nice - but doesnt want to work since my husband died six years ago, keeps quitting … (32 years old) and he has stopped medication and therapy - BOTH within three days of being released from Genrose. Just quit his job AGAIN - but if I talk to him ( which never goes well as he either has no problem or I am “ trying to make him feel guilty”) he could quite possibly flee again. It’s all so hard on my heart, my pocketbook and my other four children. What do I do ? Does anyone have any ideas ? Have you been in a comparable situation? Prior to my husbands passing he was a successful college graduate, athlete and worked for 3 years abroad. He came home to help… and it has t been the same since. ( twice hospitalized at Genrose - first time for bipolar -depression, suicidal - this time for Mania with delusions ). If you met him - you’d never guess. He tries so hard to control it all (white knuckle meditation) and does so well most of the time. But it’s no way for him to live and I wish for him to be independent and thriving. Would so appreciate any insight. THANKS!