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Anyone exercising and gaining weight?

Posted by Retired Teacher @retiredteacher, May 28, 2017

I promised myself that I would have a perfect month of May with my diabetes. I thought I knew what to eat. I thought I would have blood in range. I thought if I exercised, I would lose weight. Guess what? None of this happened. I obviously ate some wrong food with still doing trial and error. My blood was never consistent--more like a roller coaster. Exercise and lose weight----not a chance; I gained. I am going to finish the promise I made to exercise every day in May---four more to go. Then I am over that misery since it does nothing. I keep a detailed record of what I eat and there is no correlation. If I eat a salad; blood's up. If I eat a sandwich, blood's up. Whatever I eat doesn't matter. So now, I don't know anything else to do. I obviously cannot control diabetes; it's going to kill me, so why even try? I've been consumed by this disease since diagnosed over a year ago. I am tired of being addicted to researching and reading and discussing diabetes. For those who can get everything in line, I commend you. I just am not one that anything is going to matter.
retiredteacher

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | May 29, 2017
In reply to @gailb "@retiredteacher, @hopeful33250, @rosemarya Dear Retired Teacher, you have been given lots of good ideas and positive..." + (show)
@gailb

@retiredteacher, @hopeful33250, @rosemarya

Dear Retired Teacher, you have been given lots of good ideas and positive support here, none of which you have accepted. That sends the message to me that you're not into succeeding in your health quest. It seems that you're complaints can never be satisfied. The game is called, "Yes but . . ." and when you're playing it, those offering help stop doing so after 2 or 3 rejections by you. That's my observation after reading all the comments here. What's needed on your part is a change of attitude and heart. You may find help with that through counseling and perhaps an antidepressant as you sound depressed, but im not a doctor.

To help your blood sugar and apparently blood pressure, you will need medications. There are many medications out there that can be used for both ailments. If one is not working, tell your doctor and he/she will try another until you find the ones that work best for you with the fewest side effects. Finding the right medication is not an exact science at this point. However, you have to be invested in really getting better, not just complaining.

You may have been a teacher, but you seem to be close-minded to listening to and learning from others in my opinion. I hope you can change for your own health and a life that is happier. If you expect perfection, you will always be disappointed as there is nothing that is perfect. Good luck to you.
Gail B. Ledesma

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Hi @retiredteacher,
You have certainly not offended anyone and we all encourage you to continue posting to Connect. We recognize with all your recent health challenges, talking with others here in this community is the one tenuous connection that you have right now. We're glad that we can be there for you. Each person moves through their health journey at their own pace. Often the first step, acceptance, is the hardest one. We are willing to meet you where you are now. We also hope with our encouragement that you will be able to get the support you need.

A big drawback in an online community like this one is that we can't see people's body language or hear the tone of their message. Gail's message is direct, and she calls things as she sees them. However, I hope that in time, you can also see that she offers support and advice. It's just not what you need to hear right now.

RetiredTeacher, I sincerely hope that you will continue to correspond with Rosemary, Teresa and others who may join the conversation. I really like Rosemary's message above:
"By the way, you are a retired teacher – so, I have to believe that you have a real strong character and a stamina for “getting it done”. What would you tell a student who was experiencing this same situation? How would you encourage him/her?"

Do you feel up to answering her great questions?

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | May 29, 2017
In reply to @gailb "@retiredteacher, @hopeful33250, @rosemarya Dear Retired Teacher, you have been given lots of good ideas and positive..." + (show)
@gailb

@retiredteacher, @hopeful33250, @rosemarya

Dear Retired Teacher, you have been given lots of good ideas and positive support here, none of which you have accepted. That sends the message to me that you're not into succeeding in your health quest. It seems that you're complaints can never be satisfied. The game is called, "Yes but . . ." and when you're playing it, those offering help stop doing so after 2 or 3 rejections by you. That's my observation after reading all the comments here. What's needed on your part is a change of attitude and heart. You may find help with that through counseling and perhaps an antidepressant as you sound depressed, but im not a doctor.

To help your blood sugar and apparently blood pressure, you will need medications. There are many medications out there that can be used for both ailments. If one is not working, tell your doctor and he/she will try another until you find the ones that work best for you with the fewest side effects. Finding the right medication is not an exact science at this point. However, you have to be invested in really getting better, not just complaining.

You may have been a teacher, but you seem to be close-minded to listening to and learning from others in my opinion. I hope you can change for your own health and a life that is happier. If you expect perfection, you will always be disappointed as there is nothing that is perfect. Good luck to you.
Gail B. Ledesma

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@retiredteacher I very much agree with Colleen that everyone processes change at their own pace. If you can give some thought to Rosemary's question about how you would counsel a student with a similar problem that would be helpful. I have a feeling that the answer to your problem is within you and you just need to discover it and then respond. Please give it a try. At Mayo Connect we are all pulling for you - even during your times of resisting the change that is so difficult for you. I look forward to hearing from you again. Teresa

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Rosemary, Volunteer Mentor | @rosemarya | May 29, 2017
In reply to @gailb "@retiredteacher, @hopeful33250, @rosemarya Dear Retired Teacher, you have been given lots of good ideas and positive..." + (show)
@gailb

@retiredteacher, @hopeful33250, @rosemarya

Dear Retired Teacher, you have been given lots of good ideas and positive support here, none of which you have accepted. That sends the message to me that you're not into succeeding in your health quest. It seems that you're complaints can never be satisfied. The game is called, "Yes but . . ." and when you're playing it, those offering help stop doing so after 2 or 3 rejections by you. That's my observation after reading all the comments here. What's needed on your part is a change of attitude and heart. You may find help with that through counseling and perhaps an antidepressant as you sound depressed, but im not a doctor.

To help your blood sugar and apparently blood pressure, you will need medications. There are many medications out there that can be used for both ailments. If one is not working, tell your doctor and he/she will try another until you find the ones that work best for you with the fewest side effects. Finding the right medication is not an exact science at this point. However, you have to be invested in really getting better, not just complaining.

You may have been a teacher, but you seem to be close-minded to listening to and learning from others in my opinion. I hope you can change for your own health and a life that is happier. If you expect perfection, you will always be disappointed as there is nothing that is perfect. Good luck to you.
Gail B. Ledesma

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@retiredteacher, I am sorry that I am delayed in responding to your recent reply. I want to ask you to continue in this conversation.

Many of us here on Connect have experienced various serious health complications in our lifetime, often without warning. And we know that there are many ups and downs to be endured along the way. As I have said in an earlier response, "You have been dealt a complicated situation. I want to say that I admire your strength in looking for help in dealing with this. You are not alone, as we are hearing more and more every day about the rise of diabetes in the population, at all ages."
Our health conditions and how we respond to them are unique and very personal for each of us. We want success for you. And we remain here to listen and to support you on your journey.
I hope that your upcoming appointments will be positive for you.
Hugs,
Rosemary

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