Anxiety? Need to vent

Posted by fingerlessknitts @fingerlessknitts, May 3 7:43am

Just over a month now
Shrodingders cat feeling waiting to hear results of mammogram and ultrasound

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@fingerlessknitts

I’m 70 with very dense breast tissue reg screening was scheduled for June and then I found this lump
My horse is my escape!!

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I am thinking of you while you wait. Every time I scan, I tell myself to take a big breath and blow it out forcefully. Sometimes I need to do this more than once then I can tell myself to refocus on something else.
I think the horses are so good for this, as playing with very large animals (17 hand warlander) force us to be in the moment. Stall cleaning therapy is pretty good for circular thoughts too. I like to do it in the quiet with no music or anything and allow myself to just rest my mind a bit while my horse munches on my tiny bun of gray hair.😂
Please come back and let me know when you get your results, I am waiting with you.

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Thank you everyone for your comments and concern
Had a phone consult with a dr who had the results
NON cancerous !!!!
Nothing need be done
monitor as usual

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I know there are lots of members and mentors who have knowledge and experience with this. I’m upset and need to vent. I don’t have breast cancer but both my daughters do.

Daughter #1 missed her mammogram at age 40 because of COVID (“shelter at home”). At age 41 she got her mammogram and immediately heard from her primary “I’m so sorry …..”. She had biopsies, scans and genetic testing. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer and told there was no cure. The best to be hoped for was remission to stop the spread of cancer using chemo. She is currently 43 and into her 3rd year of chemo. She has an infusion every 3 weeks and it wipes her out with fatigue and nausea for that week. Then the next 2 weeks are “ok ish”. Then the whole thing repeats. There is no end in site. She has 3 kids ages 13, 10 and 8.

I just learned that daughter #2 also has breast cancer. She called to say “I have the boob cancer”. She is 40. Her mammogram, biopsies and scans revealed Triple negative, grade 3, stage 2 invasive carcinoma. She says that she is glad it was caught early. The plan is to begin chemo on 5/13 - 24 for 4 - 5 months, then a double mastectomy with reconstruction in the fall. She has two step daughters ages 19 & 17 and a daughter age 12.

Genetic studies for both daughters showed that there is NOTHING in the family tree (mine or my husband’s) that we know of. I’ve NEVER had anything like this myself. No idea where this has come from or why. I would take this from my girls if I could. Right now I’m a REALLY angry mama / grandma and I HATE cancer.

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@cehunt57

I know there are lots of members and mentors who have knowledge and experience with this. I’m upset and need to vent. I don’t have breast cancer but both my daughters do.

Daughter #1 missed her mammogram at age 40 because of COVID (“shelter at home”). At age 41 she got her mammogram and immediately heard from her primary “I’m so sorry …..”. She had biopsies, scans and genetic testing. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer and told there was no cure. The best to be hoped for was remission to stop the spread of cancer using chemo. She is currently 43 and into her 3rd year of chemo. She has an infusion every 3 weeks and it wipes her out with fatigue and nausea for that week. Then the next 2 weeks are “ok ish”. Then the whole thing repeats. There is no end in site. She has 3 kids ages 13, 10 and 8.

I just learned that daughter #2 also has breast cancer. She called to say “I have the boob cancer”. She is 40. Her mammogram, biopsies and scans revealed Triple negative, grade 3, stage 2 invasive carcinoma. She says that she is glad it was caught early. The plan is to begin chemo on 5/13 - 24 for 4 - 5 months, then a double mastectomy with reconstruction in the fall. She has two step daughters ages 19 & 17 and a daughter age 12.

Genetic studies for both daughters showed that there is NOTHING in the family tree (mine or my husband’s) that we know of. I’ve NEVER had anything like this myself. No idea where this has come from or why. I would take this from my girls if I could. Right now I’m a REALLY angry mama / grandma and I HATE cancer.

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Did they test for genetic mutations..?

Just asking because thats how they tested me after it came back negative for gentics.

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@cmfranco11

Did they test for genetic mutations..?

Just asking because thats how they tested me after it came back negative for gentics.

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Mammogram and ultrasound is all I had

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@cmfranco11

Did they test for genetic mutations..?

Just asking because thats how they tested me after it came back negative for gentics.

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@cmfranco11 I don’t know about testing for genetic mutations. I will be sure to ask both of my girls.

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Wouldn’t testing for genetic mutations be part of genetic testing?

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Germline testing examines the DNA you inherited. Somatic testing examines the mutations in the tumor itself. They are quite different, though some cancer institutions conduct both. Germline testing is quite helpful for determining risk ( and warning relatives about their risk). Somatic testing is more helpful for determining treatment modalities.
The vast majority of patients with BRCA1 or 2 have inherited the genetic strain. Not all with BRCA develope cancer.

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@cehunt57

I know there are lots of members and mentors who have knowledge and experience with this. I’m upset and need to vent. I don’t have breast cancer but both my daughters do.

Daughter #1 missed her mammogram at age 40 because of COVID (“shelter at home”). At age 41 she got her mammogram and immediately heard from her primary “I’m so sorry …..”. She had biopsies, scans and genetic testing. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer and told there was no cure. The best to be hoped for was remission to stop the spread of cancer using chemo. She is currently 43 and into her 3rd year of chemo. She has an infusion every 3 weeks and it wipes her out with fatigue and nausea for that week. Then the next 2 weeks are “ok ish”. Then the whole thing repeats. There is no end in site. She has 3 kids ages 13, 10 and 8.

I just learned that daughter #2 also has breast cancer. She called to say “I have the boob cancer”. She is 40. Her mammogram, biopsies and scans revealed Triple negative, grade 3, stage 2 invasive carcinoma. She says that she is glad it was caught early. The plan is to begin chemo on 5/13 - 24 for 4 - 5 months, then a double mastectomy with reconstruction in the fall. She has two step daughters ages 19 & 17 and a daughter age 12.

Genetic studies for both daughters showed that there is NOTHING in the family tree (mine or my husband’s) that we know of. I’ve NEVER had anything like this myself. No idea where this has come from or why. I would take this from my girls if I could. Right now I’m a REALLY angry mama / grandma and I HATE cancer.

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Dear Cheryl:

My heart goes out to you, and my prayers are with your lovely daughters and entire family!

Cancer is such an unexpected enemy without any warning signs as it happened to us all. However, with the wisdom and strength from above, diligent professional treatments from doctors and loving care & encouragements from loved ones and strangers, surely your daughters will overcome the challenges that they face - step by step - and lead fulfilled and happy lives!

I completely understood and heart broken for your feeling of "would take this" from your girls if you could; for I lost my only son to an automobile accident years ago when he was a junior in UPENN and how I wish I could die in his place ever since! Life is a journey and we can only do our best - with the guidance from the gracious Lord - to stride on...

Sending you and your entire family love, positive spirit and prayers, Cheryl! Please know that you'll never be alone, for our loving thoughts and prayers are with you all.

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@cehunt57

Wouldn’t testing for genetic mutations be part of genetic testing?

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Dear Cherl and comrades of fighting the cancer disease:

Just put in my 2-cents: as far as I know, testing for genetic mutations is part of genetic testing. For when they conducted the genetic testing for me, they concluded that I do not have any abnormal genetic mutations against all known genes that caused cancers. I am relieved for my own relatives to know that I do not carry any genes with abnormal mutations, but here I am still with this cancer disease; perhaps caused by stress or some other factors?

Best wishes to you all! Safe journey ahead!!

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