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A check list
Another good article from the ny times. I guess I should have a check list of things that should be changed. Like she can't be my fiduciary if I can't make financial decisions. I have successor trustees. I am cancelling her cell phone on our phone contract. I am thinking of looking for another primary care doc for her. Her current one is rather harsh. I had to work hard at a strategy last night to get her to take her pills. She hates it. Her anger has to subside and she has to give in. Giving her her pills is just an item on my check list of daily things to do and it turns into a psychological battle. Same with showering. On a more humorous note, I successfully shopped for new bras for her, something I never thought would be on my list...
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/25/well/family/dementia-diagnosis-advice.html
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@joedeb Are you doing all these tasks at one time? Wow! Impressive and overwhelming! And why is your client so angry?
Don't know why she gets angry. It has something to do with my approach, I think. If I just come in the room and say lets do your pills and I get them in front of her with a glass of water, she gets defensive. If I raise my voice she does too and gets angry. I have to give it some time and get her to relax. She has a lot of anxiety. She takes 150 mg of effexor daily to calm her down. We can really butt heads and she usually wins, so I have to change my strategy. No I think my list is just a normal list for a caregiver. She has a lot going on.
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1 ReactionHow about a small dish of ice cream or pudding after she takes the pills. Remember Mary Poppins "spoonful of sugar"
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2 ReactionsA spoon has helped! I put the pills on the spoon and it gets them farther into her mouth. Better than my big fat fingers. Will add the ice cream for both of us...
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