Where do you want to grow old?

Can you gets those knees replaced? I have perpherial Neurpathy also and two replaced hips. Life is not easy. I take neurontin to keep going.

That vacation house sounds like a plan. I am hearing that people are trying to figure out a good place to retire. We have gone west coast to east coast and are most likely heading back West to start out renting first. (Call it a vacation house). We came back here with our 3 year old pooch thinking my anxiety and depression would improve. I am on Effexor x2 every morning. I am 62 hubby is 68. I am trying to mentally block out regrets and move on in the future. I may have inherited this “crap” from my sister (bipolar) and grandfather with (depression). I know this is alot to think of. Our kids (both) over 40 may think we are nuts. it is a lil tougher with inclement weather. I am excited about our plans. . 😊
Adelheid
Ps. I am planning on writing a book about this in the near future. I hope that these issues for others as well as myself will find resolve. There is so much modern medicine out there but hopefully some new info will surface on anxiety…etc….to help.

Sounds like you are still in charge of your life, not giving up. Also you have taken action by moving where you want to. When I was depressed I finally saw that taking some action that I was resisting was the key to overcoming my depression. You are still relatively young and it sounds like you are on a good path. If the depression doesn’t lift perhaps you should see a doctor about changing meds?

A topic that is very much on my mind.....trying to learn more about cohousing. It's appealing to me for the social aspect of living in community with others who have similar values. These communities are proliferating in the US and internationally, and there seems to be a wide variety of communities to suit every budget, both for mixed ages and for seniors. A good source of info is cohousing.org, where interested people can learn more about starting a community or joining an existing one. I hope to attend their annual conference in Denver in August!

@lctpdc: This is very much on my mind lately too. I am looking for a way to increase contact with others in a town that doesn’t have a structure like say a parks and recreation department that oversees senior centers. I am doing my research and will include your suggestion. I do wonder how these any group living together manage to work after seeing one in action that was dysfunctional. I lived for a time in what was termed a “co-op” in California which was taken over by a narcissist/sociopath (in my layman’s opinion) who made it a very unpleasant place to live. I moved finally. So while wary, I still believe it could be a pleasant way to live if set up correctly.

Having lived for 5 years in a co-housing community, I'd sadly rate my experience at about C+.
Co-housing can be a good option, but explore and research in depth. Look very critically at the care given to common areas and buildings. When residents talk about co-housing, we tend to get excited talking about the ideals of the community. In reality it may be different, because people are people, and you are drawing on a very small group for the management and care of the community.
Although it violates my ideals, I think it's best to look for a co-housing community that is designed for 55+ age residents. Most of the work of caring for our community is done by a minority of 65+ residents.
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Have you found any assistance for visual issues? There are so many programs/adaptations that can help, like projecting text to your tv etc. I’m not fully familiar with all the sources but in chicago there’s Hadley. http://www.Hadley.edu which provides resources free of charge.
Maybe your local library could help you research programs. Or your state Office on Aging at https://www.hhs.gov/aging/state-resources/index.html

I am excited to share some news. We have found a rental 15 min from our son’s rental in Santa Barbara. He looked at it yesterday, and we did FaceTime. If this works out (prayer in here), we would have it by 3/1 (which isn’t too far away. We would head out with our pup on or around 3/15, again another journey. We would sell our house here with most of stuff in it. We asked about fencing over there, and it is allowed for Xyla. I feel bad for our pup and moving back. I have learned that all this old furniture is just stuff and has been dragged literally all over the country. I am nervous as we are in the 60’s and it is again a large undertaking. We haven’t rented for a while. I will continue taking my Effexor every morning. My husband is a Saint, and I don’t know how he puts up with me.
Our car plates will still be intact when we get there, I feel bad having to leave our daughter here on the East. We did get to see her a few times. She has two kids, whom we also saw. I hope that this will be a nice place to grow old.
Happy Saturday !!

I really never thought of any of this until I was 70 years old that’s when I retired

It’s ok. I didn’t think about until recently. There’s a nice feeling about being retired. So enjoy your time.