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Anhedonia after drinking alcohol

Posted by emu567 @emu567, Nov 7, 2023

Hi I am a 28 year old woman from wales . Over the past year I have suffered from intense physical anhedonia after an episode of binge drinking . I cannot feel pleasure from sex , from physical touch from hot baths from eating from massage , from hugging my friends. The list goes on . I am upset and depressed that I can’t feel pleasure anymore . I haven’t been able to orgasm in over 2 years . I cant live like this . I am so demotivated I get no reward for anything I do . I cant have a boyfriend or a relationship because I can’t have sex because it isn’t pleasurable . I am frustrated and distressed by this . It is a huge problem in my life . I couldn’t be intimate with my ex boyfriend because I got no pleasure from touching him or even just cuddling . Please please if anyone knows of a cure for this please help . My quality of life is zero

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monica1234 | @monica1234 | Jan 7 12:53am
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@jimhd

Hi @monica1234 . Is your appointment with the new doctor coming up soon? Because of my lousy memory, I try to make notes about what I want to talk about with the doctor. Sometimes I still miss things.

When I go with my wife to an appointment, I often hear her saying things that make it sound like she's doing much better than I know she is, and I speak up. I don't know if you and she are alike in that, but I hope you'll be honest about how you really feel. Otherwise our doctors don't know how they can do what needs to be done, and it slows the treatment schedule down. Don't be shy about letting them know what's actually happening in your life.

I'll be interested to hear how it goes.

Jim

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Hi Jim.....thank you for asking! I go to my new Dr. next Wed., Jan 10th. I've got stuff written down on sticky notes....several things I really need to talk to him about. LOL one thing that worries me is that I'm a 'night owl'.....worked mostly 3rd shift jobs and even though I'm retired, I'm still in that mode. And good grief....I fall asleep maybe around 4-5:00 a.m. (kinda more like a late 2nd-shifter now)....and my appt. is for 8:15 a.m.! I'll probably just stay awake. I HAVE to see him. Oh, I tell the truth...I have several things to tell him and sometimes maybe too much, LOL but it's all going to 'tumble out'. My hubby is the one who doesn't always tell the truth....I'm just the opposite lol.....I want the Dr. to know EVERYTHING that's going on with me because I really want ANY help he can give me. I've dealt with some really depressing things for several years (like so many do) and all I want, is to feel better. I've never been like I am now....and for me, going to this Dr. is such a positive thing. So many say he really cares about his patients...he actually has not been taking any new patients for years....but since my husband has been going to him for so long (I found him at my old Dr.'s office (she retired about 5 years ago, just loved her....she was a really caring person)....and anyway, since I am 'family', he said "Sure, I'll take you." I feel lucky!! I will let you know how it goes. And I wish ALL THE BEST to you and your wife.....hugs!!

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jobycat | @jobycat | Jan 25 1:16pm

My mother passed 5 years ago and I moved in with my then girlfriend. She has beed getting worse. She is an unmedicated psychotic and I dont feel safe here. I live on ssdi and at 58 I am not strong enough to live in a shelter. I dont have a key to the front door. She will lock me out if I leave. All my stuff is in this house. She does not work and sits at home with me all day. I dont feel safe

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roberteh | @roberteh | Jan 28 4:08am
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@jobycat

My mother passed 5 years ago and I moved in with my then girlfriend. She has beed getting worse. She is an unmedicated psychotic and I dont feel safe here. I live on ssdi and at 58 I am not strong enough to live in a shelter. I dont have a key to the front door. She will lock me out if I leave. All my stuff is in this house. She does not work and sits at home with me all day. I dont feel safe

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Praying for you.

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tinydancer1978 | @tinydancer1978 | Jan 30 1:59am
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@jobycat

My mother passed 5 years ago and I moved in with my then girlfriend. She has beed getting worse. She is an unmedicated psychotic and I dont feel safe here. I live on ssdi and at 58 I am not strong enough to live in a shelter. I dont have a key to the front door. She will lock me out if I leave. All my stuff is in this house. She does not work and sits at home with me all day. I dont feel safe

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Domestic violence and emotional trauma hotlines are NOT just for women!
See if you can get help through them or perhaps try to get a case manager through social services in your area
I lived like this for years with a daughter in law who pretty much ruined my life
I am our of that family
It meant giving up everything I owned and even being excommunicated from my grandchildren
You need to get help now!
If you are not feeling safe
A hotline could get you the help you need
I will be carrying you in my heart

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Feb 8 8:55am
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@jobycat

My mother passed 5 years ago and I moved in with my then girlfriend. She has beed getting worse. She is an unmedicated psychotic and I dont feel safe here. I live on ssdi and at 58 I am not strong enough to live in a shelter. I dont have a key to the front door. She will lock me out if I leave. All my stuff is in this house. She does not work and sits at home with me all day. I dont feel safe

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@jobycat, I strongly encourage you to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline website http://www.thehotline.org/

On this website you will find a phone number to call 1-800-799-7233 or you can use the online chat and get help without saying a word. By calling the Hotline, you can work with professionals to find safety and solution that is right for you.
Please call them.

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