Personality Change of Kidney Transplant Patient

Posted by cseymour @cseymour, May 13, 2018

I am at a loss. My sweet husband, who is normally very kind and gentle, has become cynical, rude and just downright hard to be around. He has ESRD, been on dialysis, and received a transplant in September 2017. He has a complex case and is facing possible loss of transplant. I realize he has been through so much and I want to keep being a supportive caregiver. However, there is a limit to what one can take. Any suggestions or strategies on dealing with someone who appears to be mad at the world?

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mentonette | @mentonette | Nov 8, 2023

I totally sympathize. My sweet hubby also had a personality change after his stroke. He gets mad at everything I say. I finally told him we have to separate and possibly divorce. That changed his attitude as he realized he can't survive without me. Drastic, I know but it worked!

t101 | @t101 | Nov 21, 2023

UPDATE... My husband is doing great after his kidney transplant and is back to work. He is his old self again.

Rosemary, Volunteer Mentor | @rosemarya | Nov 21, 2023

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@t101 - This is wonderful to hear, especially as we get into the holiday season. I know that you and your husband are overjoyed to get on with living again!
I'm sure that you and he look forward to doing together in this New Kidney Life.

With the holidays fast upon us, I invite you to join other transplant members in getting into the holiday spirit - as transplant recipients:
- Holidays: Celebration or Challenge for Transplant Families
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/holidays-celebration-or-challenge/
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Again, I am thrilled that your husband is back to his old self! Maybe you will share something about your plans or ask about any challenges that you expect to encounter at holiday gatherings.