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Where do you want to grow old?

Posted by Colleen Young, Connect Director @colleenyoung, Sep 7, 2023

People have many options for living arrangements as an older adult, like living in a house with a group of friends (think Golden Girls), going to a 55+ community, or staying in your own house.

What are your plans? Where do you want to grow old?
or
What choice did you make? What are the the pros and cons of your arrangement?

What advice do you have for others?

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mariajean03 | @mariajean03 | Sep 29, 2023
In reply to @fromthehill "This is so sad...I wonder if you could set yourself up with a social worker thru'..." + (show)
@fromthehill

This is so sad...I wonder if you could set yourself up with a social worker thru' your doctor who could help you with connecting to some social home visits from volunteers who could take you shopping, medical visits, church or other events that wouldn't involve your husband so that you could have a degree of independence and create other more positive friendships of your own.

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No such volunteer. My Dr. is trying to hire a medical social worker for home visits but no transportation options. I know how to drive a block to a nursing home to visit a friend but has covid cases. No visitors for a month or so. Thanks.

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bonniethompson1234 | @bonniethompson1234 | Sep 29, 2023
In reply to @irinig "I’m up for being with friends a la golden girls. They really knew each other well..." + (show)
@irinig

I’m up for being with friends a la golden girls. They really knew each other well which made it a comedy.

My girlfriend said we should all get together, but a big house & move in after our partners die…great idea!! It has to be done early enough.

My neighbour for example is 91 so it’s too late to adapt community at her age.

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Who will take care of who when someone becomes immobile, incontinent, senile, etc. Make sure you each have your own Plan B.

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jethelbee | @jethelbee | Sep 29, 2023
In reply to @sueinmn "I find this interesting. Can you tell us more about the cohousing community, how you found..." + (show)
@sueinmn

I find this interesting. Can you tell us more about the cohousing community, how you found it, and how it operates?
We spend our winters in a mixed community of RV's, tiny homes, 1 & 2 BR mobiles homes. Residents range in age from their 30's through 80's. My daughters have suggested trying to form such a community up north where we live six months of the year, and would probably settle if we could no longer travel.
Sue

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See Cohousing.org for details and classified ads formals and rentals around the country. Some communities are very expensive because of the housing market they are in but that’s not true of all. We live in a 40 unit community. Parking is on the perimeter so the houses face each other across an “pedway”, and there is a village feel. We have a community house for potlucks, socializing and meetings. We join teams to manage the upkeep cooperatively. We pay HOA dues for common expenses.

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Sirref | @sirref | Sep 29, 2023
In reply to @mercuryrose "Gee, I never heard about Mayo Umbrella that offers Advance Home Care, etc. I moved to..." + (show)
@mercuryrose

Gee, I never heard about Mayo Umbrella that offers Advance Home Care, etc. I moved to Phoenix area to be close to Mayo Clinic here, but do not believe they have that program here? I do get excellent Medical care here though.

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Patients in the Phoenix area now can benefit from Mayo Clinic’s advanced care at-home model of care
September 15, 2021
https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/patients-in-phoenix-area-now-can-benefit-from-mayo-clinics-advanced-care-at-home-model-of-care/

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loll | @loll | Sep 30, 2023

One more thing to consider is finding a place where people are inclined to be welcoming, friendly, and kind toward you as a new neighbor.

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bunnybear | @bunnybear | Sep 30, 2023
In reply to @baa "I read these comments with interest and thought how fortunate some folks have options. Unfortunately, many..." + (show)
@baa

I read these comments with interest and thought how fortunate some folks have options. Unfortunately, many of us don’t. I don’t have the money for senior communities or options I would enjoy. I am alone. Bless those of you who are enjoying this stage of your life-

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@baa You are heard. I hope your participation on here will open some doors. Best of wishes.

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irinig | @irinig | Oct 1, 2023
In reply to @mariajean03 "No such volunteer. My Dr. is trying to hire a medical social worker for home visits..." + (show)
@mariajean03

No such volunteer. My Dr. is trying to hire a medical social worker for home visits but no transportation options. I know how to drive a block to a nursing home to visit a friend but has covid cases. No visitors for a month or so. Thanks.

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Being close to a home is good, being in it is another story!! Let’s pray for sudden death!! 😇

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mariajean03 | @mariajean03 | Oct 1, 2023

I am. If it's God's will. Maria.

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mariajean03 | @mariajean03 | Oct 1, 2023
In reply to @bonniethompson1234 "Who will take care of who when someone becomes immobile, incontinent, senile, etc. Make sure you..." + (show)
@bonniethompson1234

Who will take care of who when someone becomes immobile, incontinent, senile, etc. Make sure you each have your own Plan B.

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He's already becoming incontinent. Urinates every 20 minutes. He says he's dying @ home. There is no plan B. Maria.

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Scott R L | @scottrl | Oct 1, 2023

I don't care where I am, just as long as my Sweetie is with me!

That condition being met, though we live in Fort Worth, we are both from the Midwest. We miss it, but I for one can't handle those winters anymore. So we thought about Wichita, Kansas. Not the most exciting place, but we're not very exciting people, so that's okay.

It's a nice city, manageable, great people, lots to do, affordable, has a mild climate (less hot than Texas, warmer than Chicago), and really great restaurants (believe it or not).

Since becoming disabled, I don't know that I'm up to the challenge of a relocation, but maybe some day...

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