I have anxiety that developed 28 months after a brain hemorrhage.
Haemorrhage happened at a Pilates class after 28 months I was ready to go back because I had 28 months of joy good exercise, healthy everything ended up being just great. I have lost my hearing in my sight and I got it all back and then boom anxiety set in right after I went to
afterward to Pilates.
It’s been 14 months of different medication‘s therapies now I’ve developed heartburn and I’m sick and tired of it. Sometimes I feel really long sometimes I feel really sick. I’ve had maybe three days in the past 14 months where I felt normal. I need help I have a doctor who’s working really hard but he’s the medical model and I have a counsellor who’s really good who’s going to try something new today but I love walking with my friends and going out for dinner with my friends and doing fun things with my husband and I’m really missing at all because the damn anxiety is getting in the way.
And now I am up so much of the night taking stuff for heartburn so I’m missing sleep
I was born in Quebec province and live in the United States as an American citizen but I am also a Canadian citizen (I am a dual). And have been to PEI a few times and it’s gorgeous with natural beauty and worth the trip if you ever are able to visit.
Hi @rusty3104, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling so lonely. I'm here. I'm listening. Tell me a bit more about what is going on so that I can connect with other people here.
You are not the 'broken' one. I am not saying your hubs is 'the broken one,' or broken either. What I will say is what he is participating in has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is his 'thing.' May I suggest forming some healthy relationships with family and friends? Find the answer to your loneliness and leave him to do 'his thing.'
Loneliness is a difficult place to be. Do you have family or friends to talk to? Are you house bound? I moved to be near family and it has not been how I imagined it would be. I rarely see my family, what is left of it, and am accused of being 'needy' when I try for more contact. Now I just take what I can get. I have no friends here. I miss the friends I have left back in my former state. We used to call each other often after I moved and now it has been nearly 2 years and I am the only one hanging on, continue to call, but they have moved on. I am not a religious person but have found church is a friendly place to meet good people. I moved from the southwest to the south and have had culture shock. Is that happening for you as well?
If you have moved to Florida it is most definately a culture shock as Florida is outgrowing it's appeal with a population explosion, housing explosion, traffic explosion and on and on. We are trying to move back to South Carolina where the people are courteous and friendly and one can breath fresh air and drive on a beautiful road with lovely trees. We are tired of Florida...Florida is NOT the south. Good luck. Church sounds like a good place to start.
If you have moved to Florida it is most definately a culture shock as Florida is outgrowing it's appeal with a population explosion, housing explosion, traffic explosion and on and on. We are trying to move back to South Carolina where the people are courteous and friendly and one can breath fresh air and drive on a beautiful road with lovely trees. We are tired of Florida...Florida is NOT the south. Good luck. Church sounds like a good place to start.
I moved to South Carolina from Arizona where there is a population explosion, housing explosion and traffic explosion, increase in crimes, illegal immigration problems, etc. Culture shock for us, too. It depends upon where you go in South Carolina. Just in the short time we have been here, out-of-state developers have bought acres and acres of the beautiful woods we saw when we were first here 1 1/2 year ago. Flattened the woods, built one HOA neighborhood with cookie cutters houses one after another after another. I rarely meet a Southern here. The few I have met are friendly and kindhearted. I want to assimilate to South Carolina, not the northern eastern state's culture, but it has taken over. I believe this is happening all over the country.
So very true. The builders are killing our forest clear cutting to build hundreds of cookie cutter homes for the thousands. Our roads are not set up for all this traffic.
in reply to @rusty3104 I am sorry to hear about your dilemma. Can you find some kind of outlet for yourself? Art? A group of women whose husbands participate in what yours is doing? A good therapist is probably in order, if you can find one. I wish I could offer you something more concrete other than support on this website, Having said this, I care about you and how you must be feeling. I suppose "we all have our issues" and your husband sounds like he has his. However, you are stronger than you think and you will persevere
Hi @rusty3104, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling so lonely. I'm here. I'm listening. Tell me a bit more about what is going on so that I can connect with other people here.
for one thing I have constant ringing in my ears & it is driving me crazy. I have lived in this neighborhood for 10 years and do not know or see or talk to my neighbors except one. She welcomed me & was divorced and still kept in touch with her husband and they have now been back together for about 2 yrs. She never stops to see me and stay and talk. She comes in at least once every few months and only stays no more than 5 minutes. I am lonely, depressed, scared, nervous and crying and shaking. I live in a house my son bought for me about 10 or more years ago. I have no friends close by, sold my care a few years ago cause I was afraid to drive anymore, spend most of my time here alone in this big house. I am shaky and scared. The ringing in my ears drives me nuts. I wish I could sleep forever cause I can sleep and not hear ringing. I cry and pace all day. No one comes to see me and my daughter lives about 30 min. away from me - is a nurse and retired but does work helping older people in their home 3 days a week, has a son here and he has 2 kids & a camper and spends time with his mother who does not live far from them. She takes me to doctors and is a tough nurse and really a sweet girl but she does not understand me and my tribulations etc. The constant ringing in my ears makes me cry most of the day. Is there anything to stop it? I am 89 yrs. old and I used to be so active & went out dancing etc. I can't drive (afraid to). Is there anything anything at all for ringing of the ears. I just bought hearing aids for $3,000.00 and they make the ringing seem so sharp. Now my church down the road is closing due to not enough people go and contribute money to it. It is a catholic church. I have lost most of my hair (wear wigs). I now have felt a big bump on the back of my head and am scared. I let my doctor know and have an appt. next week. Getting in to see dr. is a chore. They are so booked up. I have no friends to speak of - they have either died/moved to warmer climate etc. I cry most of the day. My kids have grandchildren and still working and can't see me too much. I wish my friend across the street could at least visit me every day and at lease just 10 minutes but she doesn't. I am sad and lonely. I used to go to see my favorite Elvis impersonator but he plays far from me and I can't/won't drive (no car). Where can I go? What can I do beside cry etc. Another thing I sometimes get so nervous that I am too scared to go out. I used to dance so much - but now 1 yr. later I feel wabbly dancing. Fast dancing you don't hold on to anyone - you are facing each other but no contact. I wake up with ringing ears and nervous crying and loneliness.
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I have anxiety that developed 28 months after a brain hemorrhage.
Haemorrhage happened at a Pilates class after 28 months I was ready to go back because I had 28 months of joy good exercise, healthy everything ended up being just great. I have lost my hearing in my sight and I got it all back and then boom anxiety set in right after I went to
afterward to Pilates.
It’s been 14 months of different medication‘s therapies now I’ve developed heartburn and I’m sick and tired of it. Sometimes I feel really long sometimes I feel really sick. I’ve had maybe three days in the past 14 months where I felt normal. I need help I have a doctor who’s working really hard but he’s the medical model and I have a counsellor who’s really good who’s going to try something new today but I love walking with my friends and going out for dinner with my friends and doing fun things with my husband and I’m really missing at all because the damn anxiety is getting in the way.
And now I am up so much of the night taking stuff for heartburn so I’m missing sleep
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I am so lonely and cry a lot. My spouse of 47 years has found on line porn as his outlet. He has nothing to do with me anymore. I am so broken.
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4 ReactionsYou are not the 'broken' one. I am not saying your hubs is 'the broken one,' or broken either. What I will say is what he is participating in has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is his 'thing.' May I suggest forming some healthy relationships with family and friends? Find the answer to your loneliness and leave him to do 'his thing.'
If you have moved to Florida it is most definately a culture shock as Florida is outgrowing it's appeal with a population explosion, housing explosion, traffic explosion and on and on. We are trying to move back to South Carolina where the people are courteous and friendly and one can breath fresh air and drive on a beautiful road with lovely trees. We are tired of Florida...Florida is NOT the south. Good luck. Church sounds like a good place to start.
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1 ReactionI moved to South Carolina from Arizona where there is a population explosion, housing explosion and traffic explosion, increase in crimes, illegal immigration problems, etc. Culture shock for us, too. It depends upon where you go in South Carolina. Just in the short time we have been here, out-of-state developers have bought acres and acres of the beautiful woods we saw when we were first here 1 1/2 year ago. Flattened the woods, built one HOA neighborhood with cookie cutters houses one after another after another. I rarely meet a Southern here. The few I have met are friendly and kindhearted. I want to assimilate to South Carolina, not the northern eastern state's culture, but it has taken over. I believe this is happening all over the country.
So very true. The builders are killing our forest clear cutting to build hundreds of cookie cutter homes for the thousands. Our roads are not set up for all this traffic.
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1 Reactionin reply to @rusty3104 I am sorry to hear about your dilemma. Can you find some kind of outlet for yourself? Art? A group of women whose husbands participate in what yours is doing? A good therapist is probably in order, if you can find one. I wish I could offer you something more concrete other than support on this website, Having said this, I care about you and how you must be feeling. I suppose "we all have our issues" and your husband sounds like he has his. However, you are stronger than you think and you will persevere
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1 Reactionfor one thing I have constant ringing in my ears & it is driving me crazy. I have lived in this neighborhood for 10 years and do not know or see or talk to my neighbors except one. She welcomed me & was divorced and still kept in touch with her husband and they have now been back together for about 2 yrs. She never stops to see me and stay and talk. She comes in at least once every few months and only stays no more than 5 minutes. I am lonely, depressed, scared, nervous and crying and shaking. I live in a house my son bought for me about 10 or more years ago. I have no friends close by, sold my care a few years ago cause I was afraid to drive anymore, spend most of my time here alone in this big house. I am shaky and scared. The ringing in my ears drives me nuts. I wish I could sleep forever cause I can sleep and not hear ringing. I cry and pace all day. No one comes to see me and my daughter lives about 30 min. away from me - is a nurse and retired but does work helping older people in their home 3 days a week, has a son here and he has 2 kids & a camper and spends time with his mother who does not live far from them. She takes me to doctors and is a tough nurse and really a sweet girl but she does not understand me and my tribulations etc. The constant ringing in my ears makes me cry most of the day. Is there anything to stop it? I am 89 yrs. old and I used to be so active & went out dancing etc. I can't drive (afraid to). Is there anything anything at all for ringing of the ears. I just bought hearing aids for $3,000.00 and they make the ringing seem so sharp. Now my church down the road is closing due to not enough people go and contribute money to it. It is a catholic church. I have lost most of my hair (wear wigs). I now have felt a big bump on the back of my head and am scared. I let my doctor know and have an appt. next week. Getting in to see dr. is a chore. They are so booked up. I have no friends to speak of - they have either died/moved to warmer climate etc. I cry most of the day. My kids have grandchildren and still working and can't see me too much. I wish my friend across the street could at least visit me every day and at lease just 10 minutes but she doesn't. I am sad and lonely. I used to go to see my favorite Elvis impersonator but he plays far from me and I can't/won't drive (no car). Where can I go? What can I do beside cry etc. Another thing I sometimes get so nervous that I am too scared to go out. I used to dance so much - but now 1 yr. later I feel wabbly dancing. Fast dancing you don't hold on to anyone - you are facing each other but no contact. I wake up with ringing ears and nervous crying and loneliness.
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