I'm just tired. . .so tired of this everyday battle

Posted by silverfox1455 @silverfox1455, Jul 21, 2023

Hello. I'm new here, but I thought it would help me to vent. I have been struggling with depression for 5 yrs, and just recently got diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. I have been on 4 different meds, and will soon be 5 with this new medicine not working. Daily I struggle to get out of bed. . .hurting and wondering about the daily life future. I also battle PTSD which doesn't make matters any better at all. I'm just so tired. I'm tired of feeling a little better, and then just getting worse all the time. I'm tired of constantly hurting 24/7. I'm tired of feeling like I'm not good enough, or do enough for anyone in my life. I'm tired of constantly wondering if one of the following days in the future I finally bite the bullet. I constantly work and do projects to try to keep me busy, but I know the projects can't last forever...I'm so tired of constantly breaking down emotionally, and everyone in my life just doesn't understand. This isn't a cry for attention, this is a scream for help. Thank you to all took time to go through a glimpse of what I'm enduring.

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@sisyphus

First, good for you you[re still not giving up!
As dfb has said down a few posts -- and what I (in my 8th decade) practice daily -- that just taking care of oneself what is In Your Control: nutritious food (unfortunately too much of what we eat is Not going to give you the needed ENERGY, because it's made up Ultra Processed Food ingredients. CDC or pehaps even Mayo might have reliable info on it.

dfb also mentioned daily strenuous-according-to-YOUR level exercise, something also in Your Control. A variety of stamina, strengthening and flexiblity moves are critical to give a boost tour "tired" feeling.

Finally, you say, you do do "projects" but still do not feel good enough about yourself. I'm at a loss -- unless it's work that you don't Like or has little meaning for you. Even when I used to work for sometime because I couldn't get work in my field, I felt good-enough because I was doing what was still a work helping me stay toward my larger goal: Finding "purpose" as dfb says. This is in fact the most important factor in getting a sense of meaning and fulfillment from work.
Good luck my friend...and i hope you'll reap rewards no less than mine: no doc visits for years, no tests, no surgeries, no meds.

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Depression breeds need for more sleep… or perhaps a distorted personal perspective of the word “need”!
I want to thank you for reminders of what to do to urge the depression away. I will try to include a bit of exercise each day and be stricter on the nutritious value of my snacks and what time of day I indulge. We can all make better choices and benefit a cheerier mood. Just smiling in the bathroom mirror is a good start. Best to you…

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Yes, so tired of being tired!

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Oh yes. We all feel that way. When we are able to count our blessings, that helps. And focus on what we can do rather than what we can’t. Sometimes I try to think what this can teach me, what am I supposed to learn?

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I have to force myself to get out of bed frequently. Exercise helps. Projects help. Journal writing helps. it is easier to feel I've accomplished something by doing simpler tasks, like laundry, washing dishes, sorting papers. Listening to books on my phone distracts me from thinking negative thoughts. Be sure to choose books that will lift you up. Anything to keep you living. Talking to someone on a hotline clears my mind. 988 is the national suicide hotine.

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I can understand what you're saying about being tired . Please hang in there and don't give up. Keep taking it one day at a time. But above all, KNOW that Jesus loves you and He suffered and died for you. Have a talk with Him. ❤🙏
I will be praying for you. Hold on.💕

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I don’t like commenting on this site the support groups are monitored. I stopped posting. But I saw your subject…and wanted to post my opinion…I have to take several deep breaths a day. I tell myself it’s one day at a time. You can’t look to the whole future. It’s just one day…and do whatever you want to or can. You don’t have to do anything. If u can wash your face that’s one day. I don’t know where exactly you are in this. But there’s not a requirement in life you have to meet. You live ur life however you want to. Be what you want to be. You can reach me.

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@stephcarney

Cardinal by James Crews

Be someone’s cardinal
glimpsed between leaf-shadows,
flit of brightness so startling
they have to blink to believe their eyes.
Be the reason someone looks up
from the cracked blankness of concrete
and remembers the world
is so much larger than what’s locked
inside head and heart. Be the red
swoop from tree to tree, the thread
that stitches one uncertain
moment to the next.

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Thank you sooooo much!

This is a gorgeous "word painting" ... not to mention my favorite (& my most energizing) color is RED.

Thank you....this IS inspiring.

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@mayome99

I don’t like commenting on this site the support groups are monitored. I stopped posting. But I saw your subject…and wanted to post my opinion…I have to take several deep breaths a day. I tell myself it’s one day at a time. You can’t look to the whole future. It’s just one day…and do whatever you want to or can. You don’t have to do anything. If u can wash your face that’s one day. I don’t know where exactly you are in this. But there’s not a requirement in life you have to meet. You live ur life however you want to. Be what you want to be. You can reach me.

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@mayome99, you're right. Mayo Clinic Connect support groups are moderated. Learn more here about:
- Why and How Mayo Clinic Connect is Moderated https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/about-connect/tab/moderators/

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Go ahead and scream, rant and rave through your house/apt/room, throw pillows, take those awful feelings building up inside you and scribble them as fast as you can on paper and then tear them up while you cry about the imperfections in your life. Then sit for a minute and have a glass of cool water. Watch the perfect people on TV playing tennis (OUCH!! Lol!) I don't know anyone personally who does all the things I see on TV but they sure make the rest of us look silly right ? Yet while they're "playing tennis" I just now looked out my window and finally saw the young doe who must have recently had twins as she had 2 tiny spotted fawns with her, but those fawns were eating my grass with a vengeance 😳😳😂😂 and it filled me with a joy at their intense survival instincts!!! They didn't need to play tennis. Or go skiing! Eating. Surviving. On to the next meal. Amazing me and making me smile for the first time today...I know very well the feeling of being alone. Of having no family or friends who understand what you are going through. I was basically alone for five years after my bowel burst and I almost died and had a colostomy and wound vac placed. 3 weeks in the hospital. 3 months with a visiting nurse who was my only visitor, diagnosed with CLL leukemia at the same time. Uncaring doctors. Five years and no friends visited me. However for me, no matter how depressed I am, how worthless I feel....almost dying from one of my diseases certainly puts things into perspective for me 😳 and I can feel the pull in my brain and my body to fight this. TO SURVIVE 🥹 because that's what we do. We survive. To see that doe and her fawns. To bear witness to the birds nesting and feeding their young. Watching that is not nothing! You are watching, and sharing, the life around you. I found out last night that my car accident two weeks ago was nothing like I remembered it!!! My own daughter, a police lieutenant for our town had to make the call of an EDP - an emotionally disturbed person!! I was told by my husband and my youngest daughter in CA who received a call from my oldest daughter telling her of the terrible shape I was in!!! I didn't even remember her being on site!! I actually had a serious tick borne disease, Ehrlichia, that was literally killing me by breaking down my kidneys and brain function, on top of my leukemia and newly diagnosed lupus....I was dying. And had no clue. The greatest gift of that car accident (I took out a telephone pole and street sign and airbags didn't go off!) I repeat the greatest gift was that there was no one on the road. There's always people walking, jogging on these winding country roads. That day there were none. My greatest gift that day was that I did not kill someone. I did not take a life. I didn't even get hurt from the accident. The doctors at the hospital gave me a blood transfusion my lab numbers were sooooo off. But they didn't know what was wrong with me. One physicians assistant who took tick tests knew what was happening. Unfortunately I was 2 days into a horrid hospital stay before labs confirming Ehrlichia came back. And the hospital never knew. I think they let me out because they were clueless. A whole week of incredible anger and sadness that my daughter was denying me my grandson in person and on FaceTime. A whole week before the truth of the story came out 😳🥺🙁. In responding to dfb somewhere here I realized what was keeping me from doing "the deed" was I did not want my grandson thinking I did not love him enough.....omg.
Talk to yourself. Talk to someone online. I talked one night to a Facebook friend in Scotland who saved my life!! I live in US. I'm wondering if your pain issues and other issues are undiagnosed medical conditions. Like Lupus. Like most auto immune diseases which creep into your body and are hard to diagnose. Pain can cause major depression when not dealt with. Even tick borne diseases can cause all sorts of havoc in your body and brain.
You are better than this. You are beautiful. You are most certainly worthy. You deserve to have some joy in your life. Yes. YOU DESERVE IT!!! Now you need to find it. Whether it's a kitten or a rescue cat. Even a fish. Something that you can love ❤️❤️ and hold (well, not a fish!) and cry with and laugh with. It is a good thing to have something that loves you and depends on you. Nothing like a warm purring body sitting in your lap 😊❤️
See a nutritionist. Maybe you need a change in diet. Sometimes things that seem so insignificant can change the world for you. Don't give up. A lot of us have been there. Might even be there again. Trust in yourself. You have a story to tell. And people to meet along your way.
Sending love and hugs and support and peace for your heart and soul.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😊😊

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@mayome99

I don’t like commenting on this site the support groups are monitored. I stopped posting. But I saw your subject…and wanted to post my opinion…I have to take several deep breaths a day. I tell myself it’s one day at a time. You can’t look to the whole future. It’s just one day…and do whatever you want to or can. You don’t have to do anything. If u can wash your face that’s one day. I don’t know where exactly you are in this. But there’s not a requirement in life you have to meet. You live ur life however you want to. Be what you want to be. You can reach me.

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