Follicular Lymphoma: looking to connect with others
Hi everyone, I'm new to this group. I just received my diagnosis 3 days ago and am a bit lost about how to move forward. I have so many questions and concerns that I don't know where to start. My doctor didn't actually say what stage my disease is at, but I do know I have a tumor in my neck and another one in my groin, so I guess stage 3? I read my CT scan report and noticed it says something about what appears to be a 4cm cystic mass, possibly a lymphangioma, in front of my psoas muscle. My doctor didn't mention anything about that, but I'm wondering if I should be doing something to try to get rid of it.
My doctor seemed to think that since I'm so low risk, I should just go about life as usual. Well, my life as usual includes raising a 2 year old who is now constantly asking me if I'm ok. Do any of you have toddlers? How do you discuss this with them? Until this point, my husband and I were trying for one more child. As much as I hate to completely shelve that idea, I'm thinking we need to.
Thanks for reading. Advice would be appreciated, but messages from those who can relate will also be appreciated.
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What a great post, @jessica0. I know @caracello22 will appreciate it.
My favorite line from your post is "I enjoy taking back my motherhood duties that I fought so hard to have back."
I can't imagine how you must have felt being diagnosed just after giving birth. Thank you, jessica0, for your long and detailed reply. I put off responding until I had time and energy to put into a response. Well, that turned out to be a mistake lol. If I lived anywhere near my family, they would be more than willing to help, but they live on the other side of the world. My husband's family generally keep to themselves. We call upon his mother sometimes to babysit, but she's 74 and has gotten to the point where she's forgetful and doesn't have the energy to look after our very active 2 year old. My husband has just started a new job where the commute is an hour each way, so most of the housework, all the meals, and care of the little one (while he's not in daycare) is on me. I'm also up a couple times every night with the little guy to take him to the bathroom. I am exhausted, and also quite surprised at how well I've been able to pull through considering I have cancer. My husband has been sick for over a week, but not me. I frankly don't know how long I can go on like this, but I guess we moms of young ones find extra energy reserves when we need to? This mama is exhausted. I wish I had a strong support network, but I just don't. My son keeps me energized and focused. It's amazing how easily he can make me forget anything is wrong.
Maybe you have already looked into this but you could look into some local community support to help with meals. Our church would do a meal train for my family every time I was discharged from the hospital. They would of course always ask me if they could.
Another idea is if you have a another mom that you’re of course comfortable with and trust & who is also willing could maybe watch your son for a couple of hours so you could get a break and have an opportunity to recharge yourself.
I know our kids gives us drive but I hope you can also find someway you can recharge and receive a little self care yourself.
I would also highly recommend lymphomasurvival.com .
Highly informative site with great resources. I was successful at putting and keeping my f nhl in remission for 9 years using this site as encouragement and using a variation of his protocol.
I also loved green drink diaries blog! Courtney might be a great inspiration for you as a mom! She beat hodgkins naturally and has 6 children now!! Great site for moms! Anticancermom.com
I was diagnosed with B-cell FL a few weeks ago. The small lump that I discovered while shaving has grown a lot. I have been to 3 different hospitals for different tests, and was finally sent to the Southern Cancer Center for more tests and treatment. It was frustrating and nerve wracking. BUT; this morning I got great news; I won't need surgery, except install a portal below a collar bone. I won't need radiation, and I may be able to continue driving. The PET scan showed 11 tumors distributed in my neck, chest, abdomen, and pelvic area. That's 11 that were at least 1.5 cm, but there were plenty of others that were not measured. The oncologist says he plans on 4 chemo sessions. Treating a single tumor treats every one of them. Most of them will be gone after the first treatment. Any that remain will be greatly reduced. He has already prescribed meds for side effects.
Be of good courage, each one of you.
Amazing progress has been made in the treatment of Follicular Lymphoma! I hope that the new meds work as well for other malignancies. I found out this morning that I won't need surgery, won't need radiation, will probably only need 4 rounds of chemo at two week intervals. I have 11 tumors that are at least 1.5 cm (about 1/2 inch) up to about 2 inches, and several others that were not measured. Treatment of one tumor treats them all no matter how many, no matter how large. There is reason to hope, so don't be discouraged!
"Amazing progress has been made in the treatment of Follicular Lymphoma!" I hope for all our sakes that this is true. I was diagnosed last summer, and my doctor said at that time that about 3 or 4 years ago, it was thought that significant advancements had been made in the treatment of follicular lymphoma. He said that it responded really well to chemo, but after some time came back with a vengeance. Hence the reason for putting me on a watch and wait protocol (that is, testing every 3 months and one CT scan every year) until treatment becomes necessary. Until that point, I get to discuss my case with my doctor once a year, if I understand correctly. At the time of diagnosis I had two tumors large enough to be measured (one was 2cm and the other 10mm, in the groin area [left side] and neck [right side], respectively), but now the one in my groin has gone way down in size, to the point I can no longer feel it. Hoping this means it's actually gone. Would you mind sharing what you know about current treatments? For what it's worth, I'm living and being treated in Sweden.
Wishing you good luck and good health.
My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 small cleave cell indolent follicular lymphoma in 2008. He was given 4 treatments of a biologic medication and did very well. He has since had recurrence in 2011 and 2014, treated with the same regimen each time, and has done amazingly well overall. Since he was diagnosed, several new medications have been developed, so if there is another recurrence, there are many old and new options. There are many types of lymphoma but the treatments options are many as well.
Best of luck on your journey!
Katkir
I'm 6 years into follicular lymphoma. I've done chemo twice. First time remission lasted 2.5 years; second time 1.5 years. For the past 6 months I've been taking a drug called Tazverik. Anybody have experience with this drug??
I was diagnosed 9 years ago from an incidental finding from dermatologist on my r temple. Watch and wait as a stage 4 asymptomatic.
Post hurricane Ian devastation of our community and home, insurance cancelled, living in rentals, I found a small pea size lump unde my r ear in January.
It’s the size of a lime now. 3 new 1.7 cm lesions in spleen, a couple more neck, chest. Very active. Core biopsy shows the new who classification of UFL (unusual) high ki67 and MUM.
Still asymptomatic. Can’t decide if I should start Tx now (bendamustine/Rit) or watch & wait. Drs say I’ll probably need Tx in 6 mos. But this parotid gland is so unnerving as I’ve read how aggressive this tissue is…
Decisions