How do You Deal with Dangerous Doctor, Abusive Provider? Tips?

My Dr also ignored my SE blood test for 7 yrs. A day b4 my 58 th birthday I got another dr to get that test done. Talking on the phone with him yesterday. He says my CT scan. Without dye. Never showed my kidney or UTETER stones. Nor my belly button hernia. Have had it for a year. I had to call Cancer Care Manitoba for my results. So now all my problems have disappeared!!! WOW! REALLY??!!
If you Have MGUS WHAT TYPES OF TREATMENT OR MEDICATIONS ARE YOU USING. ALSO HAS ANYONE HAD INFECTIONS?Constant. Starts like a small pimple. But it comes from inside pushing it’s way to the surface. Scars. Had so many antibiotics I stopped taking them. No Drs have ever told me what infection I have. EVER! On trigger points,nerves,face,legs. Oh pain in the legs. Lord help me!! Ok Thanks so much. Will be back to read and reply T

First of all it is difficult to hear there is more anxiety created by a sufferering patient with not much knowledge of understanding of what is going on. A trusted caregiver and conversation needs to be established to address one issue at a gimme to address your complaint, treat it , know what is wrong get you to your doc , connect in confidence, get hood support, no confidenc or mistakes; you need to get better. Get the right tests , doc get results , get along make sure it does not happen ; get a nice whole pic with no problems . Glad you shouted for help and know people care and maybe you need the right connection one step and a time. None the less, you hang in there (. Docs are good people. Boundaries are tuff do the part but trust is key and initial conversation

@dbeshears1 Debbie, this was in Medscape+ WSJ today. Hospitals are installing 'black boxes' in Operating Rooms. You were ahead of the curve!

"In an effort to improve performance, 24 hospitals in the U.S., Canada, and Europe are using the what's called the OR Black Box to gather detailed information about what goes on in operating rooms (ORs), the Wall Street Journalopens in a new tab or window reported.

Like the black box on an airplane, this system collects information that can be reviewed later, including video, audio, patient vital signs, and other data from devices in the room. The data can then be used to reduce errors, improve patient safety, and make OR processes more efficient. It also allows hospitals to try to figure out how an operation went wrong if there was an error.

Some OR staff were initially skeptical of a technology that they worried could be used against them, but the chief quality officer at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center told the Wall Street Journal that after staff were reassured about the data that would be collected and used, "it quickly became an accepted part of the hospital's culture."

Device maker Surgical Safety Technologies said the system blurs out faces to de-identify patients and personnel.

UT Southwestern Medical Center is using the system to understand what practices high-performing operating teams use. Duke University Hospital is using their black boxes to improve patient positioning and improve skin and nerve injuries. It's not yet clear whether or not the technology could be used in medical malpractice litigation."

Thanks. I wrote the post as I was unpacking the experience under incredible distress. I am going to edit it and replace it with a simple summary.
Betrayal of trust is traumatic. No one expects it in the medical profession. I certainly didn't.
I have a new treatment team+ am getting good recovery. I had core problems identified + treatment is going well. I have yet to address the Dr in a response to be incorporated into my medical records, but I will in the near future.
What you described is the exact process a functional provider should follow. This man was not a functional provider. Not interpersonally and not fully medically. But he was board certified and looked presentable enough. I still don't have trust rebuilt right now- but I am wiser for this. I'm planning on creating policies + perhaps getting legislation for patients rights and advocacy in my state. I've taken steps in that direction.
Thanks for responding. Hope all your medical care goes well.

Hi, all.
I think @rsfcowgirl had some great ideas for setting a good tone for a doctor visit.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/comment/829021/
I had a bad experience when my doctor wouldn’t agree to an MRI. This really delayed my diagnosis and treatment. Several months later, when i was better, I had an appointment with her. I took a small plant as a ‘peace offering’. Since then, everything has been great between us.
What positive thoughts or experiences have you had?

Are there threads that discuss abuses by doctors?

I would like to discuss these difficulties and learn what people are doing to resolve these abuses. Seems like every doctor and every dentist I turn to has horrible office staff and a variety of abusive behaviors. By staff and sometimes by the doctors themselves.

It has been a very very difficult journey.

Thank you for listening.

Sam, You may wish to review this discussion that includes strategies:

- How do You Deal with Dangerous Doctor, Abusive Provider? Tips?
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/dangerous-doctors-abusive-providers/

I went to an ER for something unrelated to the issue they found during a routine CT scan. They found an aortic aneurysm with a tear in it so they told me I was being transferred to a trauma hospital for emergency surgery.

Once I got to this trauma hospital they checked and confirmed what the other hospital found. But he said that I would need to go back to the hospital for surgery however it wasn’t bleeding so he said that he felt I was stable enough to discharge me and to contact my cardiovascular surgeon.

I made the appointment for the next day as the hospital had said to see him ASAP.
He was immediately annoyed that I made an appointment with him.
I was due for my annual checkup the following two weeks.

He downplayed the whole encounter and said I had nothing to worry about. The echocardiogram confirmed the aneurysm with the tear but he didn’t tell me the size and I forgot to ask him..

He abruptly said “see you in a year “ and walked out. Before he left I asked him if it could burst ( mostly a quick fatal occurrence). And he nonchalantly said “it could but we have ways to treat that” Hospitals always say ASAP, don’t worry “

No there isn’t. You don’t know it unless it burst and then it’s an emergency where you could bleed to death. He actually laughed and said it wasn’t a big deal!

Maybe it was small and didn’t need surgery right away but knowing how small or big would have given me a benchmark to monitor by.
He rushed the appointment as he had other patients waiting for him and I was interrupting him.

Two different hospital cardiovascular surgeons said I needed surgery but my doctor made light of it and told me to see him the following year.

What a jerk he was. Made me feel like I was being a baby and I shouldn’t have been there. The receptionist was not a happy camper either and rushed me out. I’m thinking of getting another opinion as I don’t trust this guy but I’m reluctant to do so. Any clue?