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Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.
In my journey with the millions of humans who are brave enough to go down the path of recovery without alcohol, bad drug and more drugs, I have gradually more and more discovered how important it is to crawl out of my deep hole, bad attitude, self-importance, feeling sorry for myself, angry, sad, etc, etc, condition and more toward the LIGHT!!! That means changing and moving for me away from some friends that are very negative about everything. That means walking around the block when I get upset so I can calm down and see the light. That means taking care of myself, exercising, eating right and meeting new friends and keeping old friends that are well-balanced. Positivity in life is available to everyone and it's FREE. I have gone on a path throughout my early days of self-medicating with lots of alcohol, drug, etc. I cleaned myself up in 1996, OCT 13th but I still did not feel right until I could ask for help from a professional. Found out I was GAD (inherited from my MOM) and a few other close seconds. I went on medication for years on various meds until I found the chemical that keeps me pretty normal. BUT, BUT...something else was missing because I still suffered through the negativity of every situation that I could create in a moments time.
I love these groups because you are honest with yourself which is very important.
Finding good friends that understand you and the importance of staying positive with your journey through life.
Taking good care of yourself.
We all are unique so what works for me does not always work for you. I'm on 20mg of Lexipro.
What do other people do to stay positive?
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There is sound advice is this forum. Much more important to me is the fact I get to rub elbows with people who who really understand what pain and darkness is in our lives. This is part of pain management, letting it out, and know your screams are heard! Staying positive is the opposite, it means not going back to that surgery, hospital, horror, and uncontrollable pain.
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1 ReactionWhat I mean by staying positive is staying happy. Poor choice of word, sorry! I could tell my story from the nightmare or premonition a week before it started to 9 years later when it started getting better. I don’t look back, only here will I reminisce akin the rabbit hole. No tears, fear left can help. Scream together, know we are not in this alone! Find joy everywhere you can and hang on.
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2 ReactionsFirstly
You are amongst friends here
And well done on receiving your complete hip replacement
You are not too old had you been your surgeon would not have recommended your hip replacement
Now that you have it…use it😌
You will have difficult days ahead and congrats on being so independent so far
You are a strong lady,stronger than you realise.Do what I do ,just plan some little thing every day
I have just planted bulbs for the spring
Take small walks everyday
Maybe a little baking for neighbour or family,some little thing so your family will know you are coping,even though your heart is broken 😞
Keep in touch with this forum
The little family here are here for you
Remember that
God bless
Have a good today..🥰
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5 ReactionsThank you for this message which made me feel good. I am getting ready to see my primary care physician this morning. Ironic that I have to drive almost an hour for a meager 10 to 15 minute appointment. Unfortunately my family is not close to me and in more ways that one. My youngest son and his family were there, but not for me. I have discussed this rift with him and it is partially mended but it will never be the same. Right now I just want to be alone. Perhaps that will change with time. We will see. But it is people like you who keep me going. Thank you again.
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3 Reactions@thisismarilynb I hope your appointment goes well, and you take the opportunity to do a few more errands or tasks while you are out. Then treat yourself to something frivolous! Make it your day!
A partially mended rift indicates to me that there is still hope for more positive stuff to happen there. It takes time. It won't all happen at once. "Go with the flow" as they say, and keep an open mind to build on the mending. That's what I did with a family member, whom I have been estranged from for decades. It is a slow process, but it is a process going forward and getting better. Rome wasn't built overnight, and neither are mended relationships.
Ginger
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5 ReactionsYes, the appointment did go well, thank you. I came straight home. Driving an hour (each way) on the freeway doesn't make me want to do anything or go anywhere except home. A friend is coming over in about an hour and we will have a cup of tea. I am not a coffee drinker.
I am not sure there will be any more mending with my son. I believe his wife is behind most of this. He has to live with her, not with me. Every other year we have always gone to them for Thanksgiving. No mention was made this year. Of course I am disappointed but not surprised. At my age don't know how much longer I will be here, although the doctor said I was very good for an old lady.
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4 ReactionsHow wonderful you are able to drive and not depending on anyone,and your friend coming for tea☕️☕️🍰🍰
You are very capable driving for an hour each way👏Take yourself off to a garden centre today ,maybe your friend will go too.
Do not give too much energy on your son ,you are much too independent to need him.
Yesterday was positive..make today positive too,if only a little thing💖
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3 ReactionsI believe that a big reason I am able to be so independent at age 88 started many years ago. I am an immigrant to this country. I came in 1958 by myself. I found a job and a place to live. It wasn't until a year later that I met the man who was to become my husband. So being strong, having to fend for myself came early to me. I do not physically feel my age, which is a great plus. My doctor agreed that for my age I am in very good shape. The big elephant in the room is that even though I feel good, logic says there are not that many years left.
Regarding your son, @thisismarilynb, all families seem to have some dysfunction. Frequently we have to overlook areas where we do not agree and just dwell on the relationship. We go through that with my step-children. We never see them and they do not put themselves out at all to see us. This despite when my husband and his ex-wife divorced he had custody of his children and that was what the children wanted! I feel bad for my husband because I know it hurts him but thankfully our son and daughter are both very close to us.
I hope your son will call and invite you to Thanksgiving. We are going to my stepson's, it's the one time a year when we see him. It's been a couple of years since we last saw his daughter.
If you don't hear from your son I hope you have other friends or relatives who will want to include you in their celebration.
Hugs, JK
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1 ReactionThe rift with my son is very deep and hurtful. He told me not to come to my granddaughter's wedding because I was not welcome. It was like a knife to my heart. This will take a long time to get over. There is no way I will be invited to join them for Thanksgiving. Quite likely I will be spending it alone. This is now a situation I will have to get used to.
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