Downsizing, To Move or Not to Move? That is the Question

Posted by Rosemary, Volunteer Mentor @rosemarya, Apr 12, 2020

At some point as we age, we will have to make a decision about leaving our homes and downsizing. Maybe in our own town or to another town. Maybe to smaller home, condo, apartment, or assisted living/senior community.

When the time comes to downsize, seniors can struggle with a multitude of emotional, physical, and financial challenges.

How do you make an informed decision about when to downsize?
What tips do you have to share?

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@adry

Hola a todos: recién me incorporo al blog pero contenta de ver este tema. Vivo con mi Mamá de 91 años y yo tengo 65. Nuestra casa es amplia y cómoda pero las recamaras estan en el 2o piso y estoy enfrentando retos de adaptación pues mi Mamá ya no tiene fuerza para levantarse y caminar. Me he enfocado en sus necesidades sin considerar que pronto tendré las mías. Gracias por hacerme ver que urge planear.
Una pregunta: qué significa ADA?

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Welcome Adry, Are you able to convert a space downstairs to a living and sleeping room? Do you have a bathroom on the main floor?

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My advice is to think carefully about the options and listen to yourself. My first downsize from 3100 square feet to 1800 was forced due to divorce. I uprooted my children and bought a fixer upper that was a nightmare and a money pit. It was in a blue collar suburb that I hated, except for the great nature around me. After my girls left for college, I moved into an 850 square foot condo. It was fun at first. I stored a lot of my things. But, then the people in the condo began to show their true colors. They would not turn on my heat, even in winter when my youngest came to visit and it was 61 degrees in my bedroom. I had to beg for heat. One of the men was verbally abusive. The lady who lived downstairs would tell me, "you are walking too loudly" and other things. I could not rest in my own home. So, I bought a house again. This time in a very good suburb and it is just perfect. It's a bit crowded, but I am very happy here and will never go to a condo, town house, etc. again. I have great neighbors. I can live alone here and will be fine, after my oldest gets back on her feet again. (She is living with me now.) Yes, it's work. No, I cannot afford to do everything I want to do here, but I am safe, comfortable and away from verbally abusive and mean people. Good luck with your search. I hope you find the best place to be without going through what I had to go through.

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@sueinmn

ADA is the Americans With Disabilities Act, which defines certain standards and regulations for accessibility for individuals who have difficulties with seeing, hearing or mobility. For example, wide doorways for wheelchair access, or ramps instead of stairs into public buildings.
Sue

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Muchas gracias Sue

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@colleenyoung

Welcome Adry, Are you able to convert a space downstairs to a living and sleeping room? Do you have a bathroom on the main floor?

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Hola Coleen.
Hice la ampliación de un medio baño en la planta baja con la intención de bajar la recámara de mi Mamá en una biblioteca que tenemos a un lado de la entrada principal, incluso hay espacio suficiente para mi cama también.
Empecé a mover sus muebles pero ella no aceptó, argumentando que perdería su privacidad y el trabajo que sería mover la biblioteca.
A pesar de su falta de movilidad y sus años su mente está muy lúcida y es muy inteligente, me pidió mejor vea la posibilidad de poner un elevador. Estoy en eso.

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@adry

Hola Coleen.
Hice la ampliación de un medio baño en la planta baja con la intención de bajar la recámara de mi Mamá en una biblioteca que tenemos a un lado de la entrada principal, incluso hay espacio suficiente para mi cama también.
Empecé a mover sus muebles pero ella no aceptó, argumentando que perdería su privacidad y el trabajo que sería mover la biblioteca.
A pesar de su falta de movilidad y sus años su mente está muy lúcida y es muy inteligente, me pidió mejor vea la posibilidad de poner un elevador. Estoy en eso.

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@adry You are a great daughter, to help your mother out like this. I really hope the elevator works out for you both!
Ginger

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@artgirl2

My advice is to think carefully about the options and listen to yourself. My first downsize from 3100 square feet to 1800 was forced due to divorce. I uprooted my children and bought a fixer upper that was a nightmare and a money pit. It was in a blue collar suburb that I hated, except for the great nature around me. After my girls left for college, I moved into an 850 square foot condo. It was fun at first. I stored a lot of my things. But, then the people in the condo began to show their true colors. They would not turn on my heat, even in winter when my youngest came to visit and it was 61 degrees in my bedroom. I had to beg for heat. One of the men was verbally abusive. The lady who lived downstairs would tell me, "you are walking too loudly" and other things. I could not rest in my own home. So, I bought a house again. This time in a very good suburb and it is just perfect. It's a bit crowded, but I am very happy here and will never go to a condo, town house, etc. again. I have great neighbors. I can live alone here and will be fine, after my oldest gets back on her feet again. (She is living with me now.) Yes, it's work. No, I cannot afford to do everything I want to do here, but I am safe, comfortable and away from verbally abusive and mean people. Good luck with your search. I hope you find the best place to be without going through what I had to go through.

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Great share! Helps those who haven’t downsize to make better informed decisions.

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@artgirl2

My advice is to think carefully about the options and listen to yourself. My first downsize from 3100 square feet to 1800 was forced due to divorce. I uprooted my children and bought a fixer upper that was a nightmare and a money pit. It was in a blue collar suburb that I hated, except for the great nature around me. After my girls left for college, I moved into an 850 square foot condo. It was fun at first. I stored a lot of my things. But, then the people in the condo began to show their true colors. They would not turn on my heat, even in winter when my youngest came to visit and it was 61 degrees in my bedroom. I had to beg for heat. One of the men was verbally abusive. The lady who lived downstairs would tell me, "you are walking too loudly" and other things. I could not rest in my own home. So, I bought a house again. This time in a very good suburb and it is just perfect. It's a bit crowded, but I am very happy here and will never go to a condo, town house, etc. again. I have great neighbors. I can live alone here and will be fine, after my oldest gets back on her feet again. (She is living with me now.) Yes, it's work. No, I cannot afford to do everything I want to do here, but I am safe, comfortable and away from verbally abusive and mean people. Good luck with your search. I hope you find the best place to be without going through what I had to go through.

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You said things you want to do but cant afford them what kind of things are you looking at doing

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@gingerw

@adry You are a great daughter, to help your mother out like this. I really hope the elevator works out for you both!
Ginger

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They also make a chair that is mounted to a track that goes up the stairs and this may be a cheaper and flexable option

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@davej

You said things you want to do but cant afford them what kind of things are you looking at doing

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Hello Davej:
Thank you for the note. Like most people, I have a list, but no need to mention it here. My artistic and human nature always wants more. So, I just keep learning as I go. Hope you are well.

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