Is yelling and over-talking a part of dementia?

Posted by maryflorida @maryflorida, Dec 23, 2020

His doctor said he has early onset dementia. Normally he is very pleasant, but about once a month, he answers a my question (not an angry one) with a tirade of "explanation" which is loud and overtalking me, lasting for maybe 10 min. Sometimes I leave, but I can't always if it is late at night. This last time I got angry back, which is scary and not part of my personality. We live far from our children so I have no one nearby. My question is: is yelling and overtalking a part of dementia?

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@becsbuddy

@larryh123 and @teacher502 i, too, have thought about all the ‘what if’s’. I’m trying to use this time to research and figure out what is available in the community. Sure, i can ask the neighbors, but not on a regular basis and we don’t have family near by.
I found the following programs that have offices in every state. Might be worthwhile investigating. Do you think any would be helpful?

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The above are all good resources. Most states also have programs that are exclusive to the state and even the county sometimes. Take a look at the local programs - dont just rely on the bigger sources of info. Many are not aware of hat might be available locally.

There are also social workers that your doc might have some info on. For instance - I have a social worker assigned by Mayo. Haven’t had to use her yet, but just knowing she is there and has a wealth of knowledge with contacts in the community is comforting. Might be worth looking into.
Also - many churches have different ministries that will help folks with chores, housekeeping, meals, sitting with loved ones so you can get out of the house, rides to appointments, meals and more. Check with your church - you will be surprised,

Peace
Larry H

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@snowwhite77

He had a colonoscopy and his blood oxygen went down to below 60/ We knew he had sleep apnea. He found this out years ago but couldn't handle the CPAP machine. He has REM sleep disorder also. So now we are wondering if some of his MCI is from these disorders.

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My husband was the same way with cpap machine and two years ago got the Inspire implant, and it works perfectly! He was diagnosed with MCI about a year ago. Is there a connection, probably. He is still a light sleeper.

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My wife went from Type A to Type B.

She has the random capacity to step back into A and come inches from assaulting me this past Monday.

I think this was due to her daughter coming to take her shopping and out to dinner.

She received "strength" from family involvement - only 2 of four adult children even care. (a little)

So she came at me with the F-bomb - twice! And, the swing at me for "always trying to find a medical solution aside from a "Mild" brain CT scan!

Linda has chosen to not go out - since last June! And, here comes June again.

So far, her thyroid was off. Next is UTI infection. Earliest appt is end of June.

And, there she goes out with her daughter

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@keithcarey84

My wife went from Type A to Type B.

She has the random capacity to step back into A and come inches from assaulting me this past Monday.

I think this was due to her daughter coming to take her shopping and out to dinner.

She received "strength" from family involvement - only 2 of four adult children even care. (a little)

So she came at me with the F-bomb - twice! And, the swing at me for "always trying to find a medical solution aside from a "Mild" brain CT scan!

Linda has chosen to not go out - since last June! And, here comes June again.

So far, her thyroid was off. Next is UTI infection. Earliest appt is end of June.

And, there she goes out with her daughter

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Suggest you consider Urgent Care for the UTI infection.

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@keithcarey84 I would also strongly recommend you do not wait on the treatment for the UTI. As a crisis clinician, I can’t tell you how many calls are made from families or staff at nursing homes because of aggressive and other behaviors caused by untreated UTIs. She could become psychotic. and have hallucinations. It is one of our first screening questions.

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My husband does the same - yelling and loudly talking over me. He has vascular dementia; I have not figured out a way yet to successfully handle it. I stopped talking as I found he just got louder and angrier. He does calm down after a period of my silence. I can not leave as I am disabled, and he now has added yet another medical problem - Ventricular Fibrillation (Vfib). This is a life-threatening emergency where the lower chambers of the heart (ventricles) contract rapidly and uncoordinatedly, resulting in the heart not pumping blood effectively and can lead to a heart attack. So, leaving him alone is not an option.

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@elisabv2u

@keithcarey84 I would also strongly recommend you do not wait on the treatment for the UTI. As a crisis clinician, I can’t tell you how many calls are made from families or staff at nursing homes because of aggressive and other behaviors caused by untreated UTIs. She could become psychotic. and have hallucinations. It is one of our first screening questions.

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Thank you SO very much for this!

Even her Primary Care scoffed at me regarding this causing mental confusion.

Cannot see her Urologist until the last week of JUNE.
grrrr
I feel like a General Contractor trying to "Network" these people.
"out of sight; out of mind" with Doctors.
I will be most happy to keep a dialog going with you!
I have exhausted my 10 covered Care Giver counseling .
Even her family will not get involved!
Prayer support too, please?Keith

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