Living with AYA cancer: Introduce yourself and meet others

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Hi everyone! My story is that I got sick in my junior year at ASU and was diagnosed with myelodysplastic syndrome in 2017. I had a stem cell transplant from a donor in Poland in January of 2018 and was able to go back to school later that year, and finish my degree in 2019. Activism has been a huge part of my healing process and I have been volunteering and involved with an organization called Be The Match since diagnosed. BTM is the organization that registers bone marrow donors for these transplants and it is so amazing to be able to give back this way and honor my donor. The hardest part of this whole process for me was stopping my education for treatment and then reintegrating into society and figuring out what I was/am supposed to do with my life post-treatment (especially since part of that healing has occurred during covid). The friends I have made in the Mayo support group have been invaluable before, during, and after treatment. I never felt alone with them, and I hope that anyone who joins us here or in our virtual meetings can find the same solidarity and kinship that I have. If you relate to anything I have said or want to know more, please feel free to reach out!

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@jessica0

In 2011 I was diagnosed with undetermined colitis and was prescribed Humaira as an immune suppressant to manage the symptoms. For five years it was managed and during that time I was able to live my life by getting married and starting my family by having a little boy with a little girl on the way.
When I was in my third trimester of pregnancy with my little girl I was extremely uncomfortable with coughing and itching everywhere. I did delivered a beautiful & healthy little girl on October 2016, but my symptoms seemed to be getting worse. After many doctor visits they conducted a biopsy & then they diagnosed me with stage four Hodgkin’s Lymphoma cancer on November 2016. My daughter was only three weeks old and my son was close to two.

After the second chemo treatment I came home and had the worst back pain that would also shoot down my legs. In December 2016 they diagnosed me with Transverse Myelitis and I was paralyzed from the waist down. I spent a month in the hospital after that & did physical therapy daily while continuing my chemo. My husband traveled between both towns to visit me and my in laws would bring my children in once a week to visit. I ended up heading back home in the New Year with one foot brace and a wheeled walker.
After a few scans it started showing that my cancer was not responding to the chemo anymore. So we tried a different chemo and that one didn’t work either so we went back to the Mayo Clinic. They suggested that we get started on the paper work process for a stem cell transplant and in August 2017 I received my Stem cell transplant. After the stem cell transplant they had me do radiation on my chest too.

In the beginning of 2018 I got influenza A, I also became allergic to the maintenance chemo & soon after I became septic. The doctors allowed my children to visit me & the moment they walked in my room was the first time in days I sat up and visited with anyone. My husband still believes that bringing our children up to my hospital room was the medicine I needed to help me keep fighting. After that I got better and was discharged from the hospital so I went back to The Mayo Clinic to visit about what our next step might be. At this point my Mayo doctor told me that I have stage four Refractory Hodgkin’s Lymphoma cancer & she recommended an immunotherapy treatment called Keytruta (pembrolizumab).

The immunotherapy was going great, but then it allowed my Crohn’s disease to start flaring up. I had to make a decision if I would like to stop the immunotherapy or would I like to get ileostomy surgery. In July 2019 I decided on the surgery to help me better control my Crohn’s disease which would allow me to continue my immunotherapy to help control my cancer.

It’s now March 2021 and I am now living a better quality of life than I ever have. My goal in life is to be able to spend as much time with my family/ loved ones and watch my children grow up. My son just turned six and my daughter is four. I also have two little dogs who act like my children from time to time, but my family keeps me busy and they are my reason I keep going. They are a great distraction too.

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@jessica0, I'm sure you and @haileyc and @stephtubman have immunotherapies experiences to share.
I bet your son and daughter are your inspiration and distraction from cancer. But I can also imagine that discovering cancer while pregnant compounds all the worries of both cancer and parenthood. Where did you find your emotional and mental support?

Hey @taybro4, congrats on finishing school and your activism. I hope you'll let other AYAs at BTM know about the Mayo support group here and the Zoom meetings. COVID has interrupted life for everyone around the globe, but for the pandemic to hit just as you were figuring out post-treatment life is also a double blow. Has the fact that the world kinda stopped or slowed down, too, been helpful and given you more time to reflect and make a plan? Or has it been like holding back a bull ready to get out of the pen? What did you study as ASU?

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@colleenyoung

@jessica0, I'm sure you and @haileyc and @stephtubman have immunotherapies experiences to share.
I bet your son and daughter are your inspiration and distraction from cancer. But I can also imagine that discovering cancer while pregnant compounds all the worries of both cancer and parenthood. Where did you find your emotional and mental support?

Hey @taybro4, congrats on finishing school and your activism. I hope you'll let other AYAs at BTM know about the Mayo support group here and the Zoom meetings. COVID has interrupted life for everyone around the globe, but for the pandemic to hit just as you were figuring out post-treatment life is also a double blow. Has the fact that the world kinda stopped or slowed down, too, been helpful and given you more time to reflect and make a plan? Or has it been like holding back a bull ready to get out of the pen? What did you study as ASU?

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Thank you! I have found a few friends with chronic blood disorders within my BTM connections, but none that are on track for transplant or have a cancer diagnosis at this point. I am always happy to share about this group with those who would benefit.
I think that COVID has definitely slowed down my progress and your analogy is on point! I had to stop shadowing a doctor and some of the activism I was doing was also paused. It made me pivot in my plans. Instead of applying for medical school right away, I decided I would try the workforce first and in a couple of years I would decide if it was still something I want to do. I just actually accepted a job at the NMDP/BTM so I am so excited I get to continue this work and have found something amazing to be apart of even when the world is paused. I will get to contact, educate, and help our donors that are identified as matches. And if I ever do decide to apply for medical school, I believe I will be more ready, mature, confident, and prepared.
I studied biomedical engineering at ASU, so by the time I got sick I already knew a fair bit of biology and tried to look at my illness as a case study at times. I have learned so much about hematology and the whole experience has really shaped my goals for my future and my career.
Even though covid slowed everything down and brought a lot of the same anxieties about not working towards my goals that I had when I first got sick, I feel I am in a good place now and have made the best of my situation.

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@taybro4

Hi everyone! My story is that I got sick in my junior year at ASU and was diagnosed with myelodysplastic syndrome in 2017. I had a stem cell transplant from a donor in Poland in January of 2018 and was able to go back to school later that year, and finish my degree in 2019. Activism has been a huge part of my healing process and I have been volunteering and involved with an organization called Be The Match since diagnosed. BTM is the organization that registers bone marrow donors for these transplants and it is so amazing to be able to give back this way and honor my donor. The hardest part of this whole process for me was stopping my education for treatment and then reintegrating into society and figuring out what I was/am supposed to do with my life post-treatment (especially since part of that healing has occurred during covid). The friends I have made in the Mayo support group have been invaluable before, during, and after treatment. I never felt alone with them, and I hope that anyone who joins us here or in our virtual meetings can find the same solidarity and kinship that I have. If you relate to anything I have said or want to know more, please feel free to reach out!

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Hey! I also got diagnosed during undergrad. It was a crazy time but I was lucky and had a ton of support from my Hall Director and the professors I had at the time. How was the support for you? I hope it was good.

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Hey @annalise and welcome! How many years ago was your diagnosis and how are you doing now?

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@amandajro

Hey @annalise and welcome! How many years ago was your diagnosis and how are you doing now?

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Ah I see my introduction note didn't upload! I was 1st diagnosed with hodgkin's lymphoma in 2016 when I was in my 2nd year of undergrad and I did ABVD chemo and 15 days of proton radiation. I went into remission for 3 years then I had a relapse in symptoms and did ICE chemo and an auto stem cell transplant and another 15 days of radiation. Now I'm back in remission and doing a bit of maintenance bleomicin chemo!

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@annalise

Ah I see my introduction note didn't upload! I was 1st diagnosed with hodgkin's lymphoma in 2016 when I was in my 2nd year of undergrad and I did ABVD chemo and 15 days of proton radiation. I went into remission for 3 years then I had a relapse in symptoms and did ICE chemo and an auto stem cell transplant and another 15 days of radiation. Now I'm back in remission and doing a bit of maintenance bleomicin chemo!

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Hi @annalise, I am so glad you are in remission. What a good feeling. Can you tell me a little about your maintenance chemo? How does that work?

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@amandaa

Hi @annalise, I am so glad you are in remission. What a good feeling. Can you tell me a little about your maintenance chemo? How does that work?

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I'm glad too! So the way I understand the maintenance chemo is that my scans are all coming back clear but because I had a reoccurrence of the cancer, we are doing a year or so of very low dose of chemo to ensure that any cells that might be cancerous but not show up on a scan are taken care of. I am able to work full time and do classes as well so it doesn't interrupt my life too much which is great.

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@colleenyoung

@jessica0, I'm sure you and @haileyc and @stephtubman have immunotherapies experiences to share.
I bet your son and daughter are your inspiration and distraction from cancer. But I can also imagine that discovering cancer while pregnant compounds all the worries of both cancer and parenthood. Where did you find your emotional and mental support?

Hey @taybro4, congrats on finishing school and your activism. I hope you'll let other AYAs at BTM know about the Mayo support group here and the Zoom meetings. COVID has interrupted life for everyone around the globe, but for the pandemic to hit just as you were figuring out post-treatment life is also a double blow. Has the fact that the world kinda stopped or slowed down, too, been helpful and given you more time to reflect and make a plan? Or has it been like holding back a bull ready to get out of the pen? What did you study as ASU?

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I didn’t know I had cancer till after I delivered my daughter which looking back was a blessing because I don’t think I would have wanted to know while pregnant. I had to really lean on my husband, mother in-law, and father in-law to take care of my kids and I got to just come along for the ride.
I didn’t really have a particular mental or emotional support resource, but I would share whatever I was going through with my closest family. My husband is definitely the one who took on my most honest moments. Also just playing or holding my kids was a huge stress relief for me too. My goal was to be here for their next birthdays and to do normal things that mom’s do independently.

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@ana15vankoeverden

Hello!
I was diagnosed with a Pilocytic astrocytoma in the brainstem at 3 years old in 2008. I have been battling cancer for 12 years!! I have had lots of chemotherapy, radiation, lots of pill taking, and surgeries. I just had neurosurgery in May 2020. I have been on chemo for the last 3 years, and just had shrinkage from my latest MRI scan. If you have any questions or would like to get to know me more, feel free to reach out! I am always looking for survivors or warriors to connect with!

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Hello Ana! My name is Molly ( quirkygirl35) and I also had a brain tumor at a young age, I was 10 at the time though.
So did'nt they need to give you any radiation? Mine was also on my brain stem and I had radiation. This was all back in 1992 though so I don't know how much medical technology has advanced...

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