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My life turned from great to awful and back to good

Posted by tmmmrlts @tmmmrlts, Mar 1, 2020

My name is Melissa and I was a caregiver for my husband until he passed away 6/14/19. Since he passed, I was a mess for the first few months. I was just mad at the world and I wrecked my car and that made me feel like crap, it was one of the 2 cars that he had put together. I was always trying to do stuff to stay away from people.

Then a switch happened i started going to grief meetings,and started going to church, got saved and baptized I started back to school to get my diploma, I graduate in May. My children thought I wasn't grieving. But now they are proud of me for doing what I always encouraged them to do.

I will always love and miss my husband. But when you realize you have to do what is best for you. Then you can start a different life and make it better for yourself. It's not easy but if I can do it so can you.Thank you to all the wonderful people on here for keeping me strong. I graduate May 29th 2020 from the mers goodwill excel center.

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tmmmrlts | @tmmmrlts | Mar 5, 2020
In reply to @colleenyoung "@tmmmrlts, fellow member @rmftucker also talks about cultivating social ties while caregiving and how helpful those..." + (show)
@colleenyoung

@tmmmrlts, fellow member @rmftucker also talks about cultivating social ties while caregiving and how helpful those friends and social connections are when you experience loss. I concur.

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When my husband was in Barnes hospital. Jackie and I were friends and we have kept in contact ever since. We made stuff for each other

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tmmmrlts | @tmmmrlts | May 2, 2020

12 more days of school. They are rescheduling graduation. I am so happy then off to college I hope. I am doing okay I still have a bunch of breakdowns. But I will be okay. My son works in Texas he made it home safe and sound. He has to leave out again. I'm so proud of my son. I love him so much. He is such a blessing from God..

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | May 7, 2020
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@tmmmrlts

12 more days of school. They are rescheduling graduation. I am so happy then off to college I hope. I am doing okay I still have a bunch of breakdowns. But I will be okay. My son works in Texas he made it home safe and sound. He has to leave out again. I'm so proud of my son. I love him so much. He is such a blessing from God..

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@tmmmrlts- This just makes my day! How wonderful. I hope that you are proud of yourself! I'm glad that your son has been such a help and comfort! So what is next for you?

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | May 10, 2020
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@tmmmrlts

12 more days of school. They are rescheduling graduation. I am so happy then off to college I hope. I am doing okay I still have a bunch of breakdowns. But I will be okay. My son works in Texas he made it home safe and sound. He has to leave out again. I'm so proud of my son. I love him so much. He is such a blessing from God..

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@tmmmrlts I echo @merpred! Your graduation is SO wonderful. You have persevered through a very difficult year—I am so pleased for you!

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tmmmrlts | @tmmmrlts | May 15, 2020

I have got my grades and I will get my diploma as soon as this coronavirus calms down. Until then I am enrolling In college and getting ready to start in the fall. I have chose to do my best with the life I have been giving. I thank God and everyone who has supported me in my journey.

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | May 15, 2020
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@tmmmrlts

I have got my grades and I will get my diploma as soon as this coronavirus calms down. Until then I am enrolling In college and getting ready to start in the fall. I have chose to do my best with the life I have been giving. I thank God and everyone who has supported me in my journey.

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@tmmmrlts - You must be hopping up and down with excitement! What courses will you take in College?

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tmmmrlts | @tmmmrlts | May 19, 2020
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@tmmmrlts - You must be hopping up and down with excitement! What courses will you take in College?

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Merry Volunteer mentor (@merpreb) I am very happy because I did all this and my children are all happy for me. I am going to start out with earning my Associate of Arts-General Education.. I am still trying to get everything in place to start in the fall. I am trying to find out what classes I need for either a respiratory therapist or physical therapist. Even if I can't get off oxygen I want to try and help people like my husband, mom, dad, grandma and uncle that all had breathing issues of one form or another.

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | May 19, 2020
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@tmmmrlts

Merry Volunteer mentor (@merpreb) I am very happy because I did all this and my children are all happy for me. I am going to start out with earning my Associate of Arts-General Education.. I am still trying to get everything in place to start in the fall. I am trying to find out what classes I need for either a respiratory therapist or physical therapist. Even if I can't get off oxygen I want to try and help people like my husband, mom, dad, grandma and uncle that all had breathing issues of one form or another.

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@tmmmrlts- I'm so happy for you! I love your goals, and also that you are taking your time and being cautious. I had no idea that you were on oxygen. May I ask, why you are on oxygen?

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | May 19, 2020
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@tmmmrlts

Merry Volunteer mentor (@merpreb) I am very happy because I did all this and my children are all happy for me. I am going to start out with earning my Associate of Arts-General Education.. I am still trying to get everything in place to start in the fall. I am trying to find out what classes I need for either a respiratory therapist or physical therapist. Even if I can't get off oxygen I want to try and help people like my husband, mom, dad, grandma and uncle that all had breathing issues of one form or another.

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@tmmmrlts I am so excited for you! This is going to be difficult but so rewarding! I was an ‘older’ student when I went back to school for my nursing degree. I am so glad I did it! You might consider respiratory therapy over physical therapy. You could help many more people without having to lift anyone! It can be exhausting.
And, remember, you have lots of “moms” watching over you!!

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tmmmrlts | @tmmmrlts | May 19, 2020
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@becsbuddy

@tmmmrlts I am so excited for you! This is going to be difficult but so rewarding! I was an ‘older’ student when I went back to school for my nursing degree. I am so glad I did it! You might consider respiratory therapy over physical therapy. You could help many more people without having to lift anyone! It can be exhausting.
And, remember, you have lots of “moms” watching over you!!

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