Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder

Hi, @mattrix169 - Good to hear from you. I also wanted to introduce you to another Connect member, @jimhd.

And, yes, I was talking about the same thing as you are ... about seeing a counselor.

I've seen a counselor during different periods of my life (e.g., my parents' divorce, breaking off an engagement to be married), and as long as you see a good one who feels like a fit for you, I've found them extraordinarily valuable. Have you found counseling helpful for you?

HI @lisalucier I did send @jimhd an message just have been kinda busy so havent checked and Ive been in counceling for almost 3 yrs now and seeing a psychatrist on and off for many years but it just seems that when i get one step ahead i go 100 back

Hi @lisalucier I was wondering if you might have some advise on keeping my unstable anger toned down from full blown rage which i just came down from about 2 days ago I snapped pretty bad got into a fight with my brother dot regret it or have any remorse seeing as he provoked the situation but I dont think I should have to be told to relax or calm down.

Hi, @mattrix169 - I agree with you -- I don't care for people telling me to relax or to calm down. It just doesn't help and is pretty offputting.

We don't actually give advice here on Mayo Clinic Connect, as we are not medical professionals. Rather, the goal in this online community is to connect patients with other patients, who help and support each other tremendously.

I really commend you, as you seem very self-aware and are clearly trying to improve things in your life.

Hoping that @gingerw will return to the discussion and that @mlbaier @lighthouseceliac @parus will have some input on how to tone down your unstable anger. @jenniferhunter and @anncgrl have talked about dealing with explosive anger/rage with a loved one and may have some suggestions for you.

How is the relationship with your brother after the fight you mentioned?

@lisalucier it is not in the best place but Im trying to make him understand that i am very prone to violent attacks or being aggressive when told to relax I told my mom to remind him that those phrases will send me into a rage but i will keep you posted on how things are going

@gingerw I read the article on the aspd that you provided and the reason Im getting help is because I have antisocial personality with borderline and pyschopathic traits It was ordered by the hospital that I go into councelling and see a psychatrist because they consider me a threat so Im currently on medication and seeing a dr

@lisalucier Now, I am only speaking for myself. I can't respond from others' shoes since I haven't walked in them. But it seems to me those who claim they would be "okay" with being told to calm down or relax are just lying to themselves. So @mattrix169 my response to your anger issues and feeling like you are being attacked is, "congratulations that you recognize this in yourself and that you are trying to figure out how to have less dramatic responses reactions". I know for me, being able to see that I am triggered by something shows in sight. When you know where do these things come from you can start working on how to minimize them. For me, being told all the time I am too serious, too unsmiling, ect. meant I had to distance myself from those people. Those same people used to really trigger negative emotions in me and finally they had to be out of my life for me to try to survive.
Is it easy? Heck no. Is it rewarding if you manage to have some success, regardless of the method you do to get that success? Oh yes it is! I hope that you will continue to check in, let us know how you are doing and let us know how we can help you.
Ginger

Hi!! These are trying times to say the least!!
I grew up with a sister who was always angry. As I got older I understand why, but at the time it was very hard to deal with. I had such emotions about how my childhood was, that I got together on skype with a hypnotherapist. Now you can find audio sessions for free, google home is what I use.
Hypnotherapy teaches you how to deal with life, and the great news that your own behavior is the only thing that you can control. Once you learn and practice this, it helps to realize that no matter what happens around you, that you have control over your own emotions and reactions.
Weeding out the ones who don’t help you in this effort can be tricky, working with a therapist of any kind can help with that. Mine said to let past relationships be...don’t kick up the dust...surround yourself with the things and people who bring you joy and peace.
Good luck....life lived calmer can be achieved!!

APSD, Antisocial Personality Disorder
BPD, Borderline Personality Disorder

I'm looking for people who have been diagnosed with one or both of these disorders, to understand more about them. How do you manage the symptoms? What are the symptoms you experience?

I was diagnosed with BPD when I was in a post-suicide-attempt facility, but psychiatrists I've seen since then haven't ever mentioned it to me.
Jim

@jimhd, i have been diagnosed with both disorders and managing the symptoms of one over the other is very tricky