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Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.

Posted by BoneHead @stsopoci, May 27, 2019

In my journey with the millions of humans who are brave enough to go down the path of recovery without alcohol, bad drug and more drugs, I have gradually more and more discovered how important it is to crawl out of my deep hole, bad attitude, self-importance, feeling sorry for myself, angry, sad, etc, etc, condition and more toward the LIGHT!!! That means changing and moving for me away from some friends that are very negative about everything. That means walking around the block when I get upset so I can calm down and see the light. That means taking care of myself, exercising, eating right and meeting new friends and keeping old friends that are well-balanced. Positivity in life is available to everyone and it's FREE. I have gone on a path throughout my early days of self-medicating with lots of alcohol, drug, etc. I cleaned myself up in 1996, OCT 13th but I still did not feel right until I could ask for help from a professional. Found out I was GAD (inherited from my MOM) and a few other close seconds. I went on medication for years on various meds until I found the chemical that keeps me pretty normal. BUT, BUT...something else was missing because I still suffered through the negativity of every situation that I could create in a moments time.

I love these groups because you are honest with yourself which is very important.
Finding good friends that understand you and the importance of staying positive with your journey through life.
Taking good care of yourself.
We all are unique so what works for me does not always work for you. I'm on 20mg of Lexipro.
What do other people do to stay positive?

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Depression & Anxiety Support Group.

Ayesha, Alumni Mentor | @ayeshasharma | Jul 9, 2019
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Hi, @christinelouise - when you want to be sure that another Connect member sees your message, you can use their @username, such as Teresa's would be @hopeful33250. Hope this helps.

You talked about learning to take baby steps toward self-care rather than huge, unreasonable leaps that are impossible to achieve. Sounds like an important lesson. Have you had experience with taking too big of a leap with self-care that didn't work out?

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That's a great idea, @christinelouise. @lisalucier, for me, absolutely. A year ago, I was exercising 4-5 times a week. I started traveling, and wasn't able to maintain that due to not having access to a gym and reshuffling my priorities. Going from exercising 0 times in the week to 4-5 times was going to be a process in terms of personal discipline and bodily adjustment. Setting a reasonable goal for myself to get back into exercising as a routine was what I needed!

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BoneHead | @stsopoci | Jul 14, 2019

My life partner is a constant daily walker. She loves to get her 10,000 steps in. So I go with her even though I sometimes don’t want to. Attitude is changed when I go and enjoy the scenery and my body reacting to moving and restoring a balance throughout the walk. We talk about the day and upcoming events and sometimes just listen to birds singing. Go outside, it’s good for the spirit.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 14, 2019
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My life partner is a constant daily walker. She loves to get her 10,000 steps in. So I go with her even though I sometimes don’t want to. Attitude is changed when I go and enjoy the scenery and my body reacting to moving and restoring a balance throughout the walk. We talk about the day and upcoming events and sometimes just listen to birds singing. Go outside, it’s good for the spirit.

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@stsopoci Spending time outdoors is great for the spirit. Thanks for reminding us of that!

Here is an article from the National Insitute of Health about the value of spending time outdoors,
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4204431/

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Jul 15, 2019
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@stsopoci

Thanks for the thoughts, I’m interested in how others feel the warmth of positivity in different ways. I know my brother moved 280 miles up north to escape from everything. It didn’t work for him. I find myself feeling really good when I accomplish a task that is somewhat challenging or brand new. I also have gotten into birding both watching, identification and photography. It’s an easy way into nature appreciation here in Minnesota because we have a main migration path for the birds up and down the Mississippi. Take care.

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@stsopoci- Good morning. When I'm happy I can feel it throughout my whole body. It's like an awakening. I am not a person who was brought up or influenced by positive thinking mom. So I find that just letting my mind wander or being mindful helps. I love the Mississippi Flyway. @parus- it's a fascinating cite that Decorah is sharing with us. Also there's a sub-adult visiting mom in Decorah! Have you visited the nest recently?

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smilie | @smilie | Jul 16, 2019
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@stsopoci

My life partner is a constant daily walker. She loves to get her 10,000 steps in. So I go with her even though I sometimes don’t want to. Attitude is changed when I go and enjoy the scenery and my body reacting to moving and restoring a balance throughout the walk. We talk about the day and upcoming events and sometimes just listen to birds singing. Go outside, it’s good for the spirit.

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Hi. I want to go for a walk but my emotional state and mind don’t let me. I feel so very depressed, angry, frustrated, frightened, anxious, confused and I just can’t go.

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trellg132 | @trellg132 | Jul 16, 2019

Lately I've been going through depression and anxiety

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 16, 2019
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Hi. I want to go for a walk but my emotional state and mind don’t let me. I feel so very depressed, angry, frustrated, frightened, anxious, confused and I just can’t go.

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Hello @smilie,

It can be difficult to begin the process of getting out and walking. It is probably good to think of it as a process. For example, one day you might try and get out of the house and walk 10 steps away from your door, the next day increase that by 10 more steps, etc. If you take "baby-steps" when you are trying to make a change, it is much easier to make some progress. Do you have anyone who can walk with you?

Also, there are some great indoor exercises that you can do that will get you moving in the security of your home. Take a look at YouTube for seated exercise videos that you can do at home. Here is a link, https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=seated+exercises

Whatever movement you can get into your life will help you feel better both physically and emotionally.

Will you give it a try?

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 16, 2019
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Lately I've been going through depression and anxiety

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Hello @trellg132

I'm sorry to hear of your depression and anxiety. Can you relate these feelings to any triggers such as a personal loss of an individual, job, health, etc.? Sometimes recognizing the trigger to a mood problem can help you deal better with the mood.

Have you found anyone to talk to about your feelings? I'm thinking of someone like a friend, neighbor, family member, pastor, counselor, etc.?

I look forward to hearing from you again.

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trellg132 | @trellg132 | Jul 16, 2019
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Hello @smilie,

It can be difficult to begin the process of getting out and walking. It is probably good to think of it as a process. For example, one day you might try and get out of the house and walk 10 steps away from your door, the next day increase that by 10 more steps, etc. If you take "baby-steps" when you are trying to make a change, it is much easier to make some progress. Do you have anyone who can walk with you?

Also, there are some great indoor exercises that you can do that will get you moving in the security of your home. Take a look at YouTube for seated exercise videos that you can do at home. Here is a link, https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=seated+exercises

Whatever movement you can get into your life will help you feel better both physically and emotionally.

Will you give it a try?

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Yes I think I have a little social anxiety

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trellg132 | @trellg132 | Jul 16, 2019
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@hopeful33250

Hello @trellg132

I'm sorry to hear of your depression and anxiety. Can you relate these feelings to any triggers such as a personal loss of an individual, job, health, etc.? Sometimes recognizing the trigger to a mood problem can help you deal better with the mood.

Have you found anyone to talk to about your feelings? I'm thinking of someone like a friend, neighbor, family member, pastor, counselor, etc.?

I look forward to hearing from you again.

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No I haven't not yet

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