@janieak....how youve done all you've done blows my mind. Cared for oldest son stuck for 5 months in hospital bed at home, after surgeries to rebuild a leg and heal his broken back. But he had no mental issues. He was grateful and a pleasure to care for. Now my dad, on the other hand.....ugh...never an easy man when young....now with dementia, is another story. He knows he is confused. Knows he SHOULD know where he's at at any given moment. KNOWS he is losing it and it makes him mad as a hornet. His anger seems to come from anxiety and frustration.

Have you had to deal with combativeness? Dad has moments that indicate he's slipping further into his rabbit hole, and he knows it. We may have to bump up his care. Before entering his place, I get butterflies, not knowing just what I may find. Elderly care is new to me. How do you handle this, if you've had to.

You don't even have to respond. Just realized this has nothing to do with fibro, and there is most likely a group discussion somewhere here. As a matter of fact, I doubt my last ten posts have all been off topic. Apologies. Gonna have to lay low while I check things out here.