Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children
Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?
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@johnbishop
Dear John Bishop,
Thank you so much for your wonderful and true mention of that article on "Train Your Brain for Happiness !" I have an application on my phone, which asks me the three things I was grateful for each day! It's great and extremely helpful to myself because I honestly woudn't otherwise automatically think of these kinds of good and positive thoughts, especially when I am exhausted and in Physical pain every day!
Hi @rachelanne -- for folks that use apps on phones that is a great idea and I'm glad it helps. I was trying to remember to do it on my own and it's sometimes hard with life's daily challenges. I had heard Dr. Amit Sood speak a few years ago about the Happy Brain and it was very similar. There is a website that is a great source for positive energy and thoughts that help. If you scroll down the home page there are some short videos and also the VLOG section has some great videos.
-- https://www.resilientoption.com/
Here is the A Very Happy Brain video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?reload=9&v=GZZ0zpUQhBQ
Great article, @johnbishop
@kdo0827 I’m really sorry to hear about your tough times. My sons, who live in-state, used to never call me, either. I even heard from my sister when the oldest got a big promotion, not my son! Now, I text them and always hear back. They’d rather not talk on the phone. I’ve made good friends with their wives and they always keep me posted.
@becsbuddy I had some good news so called son at work to tell him he bit my head of so never again it wasn't a long conversation but thought he,d be happy to hear bad choice
@lioness So, so sorry. This type of thing is painful.
Sounds so easy. The depressed mind has a hard time grasping some things I suppose. Still a positive message.
@parus thanks I feel like they where happy I moved to help with there son and I loved it but now it seems like oh we have to talk to Mom like before .It does hurt .
@lioness Boy, did I learn that lesson early on! Both my husband and son were army officers and we were told to Never call them at work, no matter what! Never did.
@becsbuddy yes I don't usually but this was good news we both where waiting on ,won't do that again