The Journey of Grieving

Its 4am and have not slept. Dozed off at 11 and woke up at 12:30, up since then. Visited with a friend yesterday...we talked, laughed, and cried. I had a nice dinner afterwards came home and had a good evening. Watching TV...nothing good on, didn't know there were so many infomercials! I thought if I watched TV I might get sleepy...not working.

@rlealsan reading usually helps...I'm finally starting to read other than grief books...I was able to focus on something else to read..but in a pinch, I reread my grief books..works on getting my eyelids droopy..
Im a TV watcher, but I get what you're saying..not doin it for me..
Goid that you have company..most times, the best medicine...

I find it hard to focus I've been reading but then find I've read the same paragraph 5 times. I crochet alot so that helps. Today was an ok day. .its also my husband's birthday so tonight has been rough. I just miss him so much...my heart continues to break.

Saying an extra prayer for you tonight. The milestones in our life seem to trigger my grief. I can understand your husband's birthday causing great sadness. I dread my husband's first birthday in Heaven. I am currently in the process of moving to a new home. This was completely my choice and I dont regret my decision. It's necessary for me to begin moving forward. However, this milestone brings sadness to me because I'm leaving the home where he lived with me for his last 5 years. My coping mechanisms are to keep myself very busy. It's in the quiet times I grieve the hardest. Hugging you from a distance. Hang in there. The sun will shine again.

My 2 children and their familes came for the weekend and while it was truly lovely and I stay inhe moment with them, I feel the void of my husband so much when we are together and I know they feel it as well...I am so grateful that God let him see his grandchildren but how much of him will they really remember..I know my kids include him in their conversations with their little ones..I know I must not focus on what he's missing, but rather what he had...and what we had with him.
I get so melancholy when they leave and its back to my reality...
I'm beginning to hate Sundays...toughest day of the week for me..

I understand...while we didnt have any kids I have a 6 yr old niece that was very close to my husband that comes over after school. While its wonderful to see her once they leave...the dark emptiness and loneliness takes over like nothing I've ever known. I'm reading a book called experiencing grief. It doesnt help with the crying I dont know what will but it helps me understand I am still normal and somewhat on the road to recovery as much as I hate this new journey. Praying for you.

Hi, many of you have talked about your journeys with grief. I'd love to hear an update from you, and I believe your answers will be beneficial to others in this discussion.

Hi, @georgette12 - just wanted to check in and see it's going for you? How is your husband's recovery going from his open heart surgery?

@fara67 - how are you doing? How are your grandchildren?

@gingergirl - how are things going with you? How are things with your health?

I am doing ok. Recently sold my house in the country and moved back into town closer to my job. I have been experiencing some health issues that are probably stress related. So my focus right now is on trying to get that under control and start feeling better. My grandkids are doing ok. They are adjusting to the idea of Nana moving out of Papa's house. It was hard for them since that's where the majority of their memories were made with him. Thanks for checking in with me.

Feb 5th marked 2 months since my husband passed away. I started work on the 4th. I had a rough night coming home on Monday with him not being there to talk about our day. On the 5th it was hard to start the day. As soon as I got home that evening it started again. The emptiness, the loneliness, the uncertainty of everything. Wednesday came and I was fine. It's been a week and i have not cried. Now I'm worried something is wrong. I've been home since Thursday with the flu and thought it would be hard. I read or heard that when a loved one passes they have reached their destiny and completed the plan God had for them. Somehow I found comfort in that and wonder if that is why I havent cried. Like I said I'm worried that something is wrong with me or is this normal???

@rlealsan Each person travels their own path in grief. Take comfort in what makes sense to you. Remember that it is okay to cry, to feel lonely, just as much as it is to go for periods where you feel lighhearted, laugh, relish the day, etc. All of it is okay, and unique to you. We're here for you.
Ginger