How to Help Myself with Depression, Anxiety and Panic Attacks

Posted by littleonefmohio @littleonefmohio, Mar 19, 2018

I have had depression most my life. I have took medication for it but I do not stay on it long because of being scared of the side effects or the withdraws from coming off of it. I do not want to become addicted to medication. I have never been addicted to anything so not sure why I feel that way. I have my ups and downs like most people do with mental health I guess. Its hard to talk about it to doctors because I do not trust them either. So how do I get help for myself. I always feel alone even though I am not. I was blessed raising my granddaughter 3 years ago which has helped me stay focused off of me and on her but I constantly feel alone. I live with my ex husband because he helps me with my granddaughter both raising and supporting her. I never want to go anywhere. I have no friends. I have siblings but they have their own life. I do go out once in a great while just to get out and I do enjoy it when I am out but then I come home and right back not wanting to go anywhere. I feel guilty all the time about my life for one reason or another. I have panic attacks, anxiety, along with the depression. I have tried talking to doctors that just want to talk it out but I don't stay long with that because I feel guilty talking about me and my problems and my past. So can someone tell me what they do for this that works if anything? Thanks for letting me vent this.

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I have never heard of a genetic swab? What is it for? I am blessed to be raising my granddaughter for sure. She is a blessing and I do not let my depressed side show with her. Her happiness is more important. Thank you for your advise.

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Welcome to Mayo Connect @littleonefmohio. I'm a Volunteer Mentor and not a medical professional so I can offer you my personal experience but I don't diagnose or prescribe medical solutions. We're here to share our experiences with you, listen, and give you support.

I think I understand where you are right now because I've been there myself, and not that long ago. I have struggled with depression and feeling alone, different, outside much of my life. Even though I felt those things inside, I am an extrovert and thought I had everyone fooled by my laughing and pretending everything was great. One day when I was in my late 20's, I found myself in bed just laying there wishing I could just go to sleep and never awaken. I didn't know that was depression. Eventually I sought counseling, participated in many groups over the years, but still had that underlying anxiety and at times panic of being left alone. Yet, I am the one who chose to be alone most of the time.

About 6 years ago I saw a friend at the grocery and she was so different and happy, I asked her what had changed for her. She told me she started taking Celexa and it changed her life. I had always been opposed to taking antidepressants because earlier I thought they were bad and talk therapy alone should work. After thinking about it, I talked with my PCP about how I was feeling and all the counseling I had been through, and I asked him to put me on Celexa antidepressant. It took a few weeks to titrate to the 20 mg half pill. But, I could tell in the first 2 weeks that I was already feeling lighter. I am so happy I decided to try the Celexa, which I take the generic version, Citalopram. After 18 months on it the doctor put me on the full 40 mg dose.

My life is so good now at 69 years old. I'm happy and have joy doing anything I choose to do. If you can get genetic testing to find the right medication for you I think your life can change for the better. I realized that I needed medical help with my depression all my life because I probably have a chemical imbalance that the medicine corrects. I'm sure I will be taking this the rest of my life. My panic attacks and anxiety disappeared. I can now fly and go wonderful places I thought were beyond my reach. Two years ago my family decided on a family vacation in Costa Rica. I flew there without fear, and zip-lined down 7 lines. I loved it. My husband and I then flew to Panama and lived in a town in the mountains for 1 month. What great adventures that I could never have done without the Citalopram. Tomorrow, my husband and I take off for 15 days in Tahiti, to vacation on a sail boat. I never would have been able to do that before. So, I am not afraid to take this for the rest of my life.

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Has anyone else had issues not being able to go in grocery store, or any social events without having a panic attack

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@rick63

Has anyone else had issues not being able to go in grocery store, or any social events without having a panic attack

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I become nauseated and light-headed in grocery stores. I have panic attacks.

In the SmartPatients.com conversation ( link below ), we discussed ways to handle anxiety.

In the article on Breath Work in this conversation, there is a breathing exercise developed for panic attacks.

I am beginning to use binaural listening for anxiety.
https://www.smartpatients.com/conversations/resources-for-anxiety#top

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@aczatx47131

I become nauseated and light-headed in grocery stores. I have panic attacks.

In the SmartPatients.com conversation ( link below ), we discussed ways to handle anxiety.

In the article on Breath Work in this conversation, there is a breathing exercise developed for panic attacks.

I am beginning to use binaural listening for anxiety.
https://www.smartpatients.com/conversations/resources-for-anxiety#top

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When I am very anxious, wall sitting helps.

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@aczatx47131

I become nauseated and light-headed in grocery stores. I have panic attacks.

In the SmartPatients.com conversation ( link below ), we discussed ways to handle anxiety.

In the article on Breath Work in this conversation, there is a breathing exercise developed for panic attacks.

I am beginning to use binaural listening for anxiety.
https://www.smartpatients.com/conversations/resources-for-anxiety#top

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Yes I feel
your terrible pain . I
Must take klonopin , even though I don’t want too. I have terrible anxiety, my husband has cancer . I feel
your pain . Do you
Take anything ? Or therapy?

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@skullbasecancer4

Yes I feel
your terrible pain . I
Must take klonopin , even though I don’t want too. I have terrible anxiety, my husband has cancer . I feel
your pain . Do you
Take anything ? Or therapy?

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I have had years and years of therapy. I don’t take any medications for my anxiety. Never have. Sometimes I know why I am nauseated. Sometimes I don’t have a clue.

If I sit quietly, sometimes I will remember what event from my childhood is similar to my current situation, I recall the event, my feelings and then I comfort myself with self-care.

I use most of the techniques in the SmartPatients.com conversation, Resources for anxiety.

Currently wall-sitting, Breath Work and binaural music are very good for my anxiety. I also eat the DASH diet and exercise daily.

I am so sorry your husband has cancer. I have cancer too.

I hope your anxiety lessens.

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Most of our problems would be gone if we only (RE)remembered that our bodies are meant for movement -- we knew it as we got out of the lying position and started to Crawl On FOUR. Whoever had told us That?

That's the beauty -- and benevolence -- of our kind creation. It is also a reminder that our bodies Yearn to move, from climbing hills, to plunge in waters and a thousand other ways WE Invent.

It's when these pleasures are disdained that we get into the state of ILLNESS, statrting with pain as a signal to shake us out of our morbid ways.

Let's take back our pleasures; that's the way to reclaim our full-throttle living.

P.S. In my 80 y.o. skeleton, I can attest to not having seen my GP for maybe less than a dozen times...with never any meds, surgeries, tests, why do I need tests if my BODY is telling me 'U R OK' ... and also when I am Not OK (yes I'd an anxiety attack once that stopped my breathing and cleared with self-CBT) usually because I'd forgotten the sublime pleasures of living a life of curiosity, play and social engagement. All this within limited means. BTW healthcare is free in Canada.

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@gailb

Welcome to Mayo Connect @littleonefmohio. I'm a Volunteer Mentor and not a medical professional so I can offer you my personal experience but I don't diagnose or prescribe medical solutions. We're here to share our experiences with you, listen, and give you support.

I think I understand where you are right now because I've been there myself, and not that long ago. I have struggled with depression and feeling alone, different, outside much of my life. Even though I felt those things inside, I am an extrovert and thought I had everyone fooled by my laughing and pretending everything was great. One day when I was in my late 20's, I found myself in bed just laying there wishing I could just go to sleep and never awaken. I didn't know that was depression. Eventually I sought counseling, participated in many groups over the years, but still had that underlying anxiety and at times panic of being left alone. Yet, I am the one who chose to be alone most of the time.

About 6 years ago I saw a friend at the grocery and she was so different and happy, I asked her what had changed for her. She told me she started taking Celexa and it changed her life. I had always been opposed to taking antidepressants because earlier I thought they were bad and talk therapy alone should work. After thinking about it, I talked with my PCP about how I was feeling and all the counseling I had been through, and I asked him to put me on Celexa antidepressant. It took a few weeks to titrate to the 20 mg half pill. But, I could tell in the first 2 weeks that I was already feeling lighter. I am so happy I decided to try the Celexa, which I take the generic version, Citalopram. After 18 months on it the doctor put me on the full 40 mg dose.

My life is so good now at 69 years old. I'm happy and have joy doing anything I choose to do. If you can get genetic testing to find the right medication for you I think your life can change for the better. I realized that I needed medical help with my depression all my life because I probably have a chemical imbalance that the medicine corrects. I'm sure I will be taking this the rest of my life. My panic attacks and anxiety disappeared. I can now fly and go wonderful places I thought were beyond my reach. Two years ago my family decided on a family vacation in Costa Rica. I flew there without fear, and zip-lined down 7 lines. I loved it. My husband and I then flew to Panama and lived in a town in the mountains for 1 month. What great adventures that I could never have done without the Citalopram. Tomorrow, my husband and I take off for 15 days in Tahiti, to vacation on a sail boat. I never would have been able to do that before. So, I am not afraid to take this for the rest of my life.

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@gailb my biggest fear about taking an antidepressant is weight gain. Everyone I know who has taken antidepressants has gained weight despite being very active. I already struggle to keep my weight in check and don’t want to have to add another reason to battle weight gain.

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@aczatx47131

I have had years and years of therapy. I don’t take any medications for my anxiety. Never have. Sometimes I know why I am nauseated. Sometimes I don’t have a clue.

If I sit quietly, sometimes I will remember what event from my childhood is similar to my current situation, I recall the event, my feelings and then I comfort myself with self-care.

I use most of the techniques in the SmartPatients.com conversation, Resources for anxiety.

Currently wall-sitting, Breath Work and binaural music are very good for my anxiety. I also eat the DASH diet and exercise daily.

I am so sorry your husband has cancer. I have cancer too.

I hope your anxiety lessens.

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I started having really bad anxiety about 4 months ago. I’m not sure why. I’ve taken antidepressants for years and they’ve always taken care of it. Now in January I was hospitalized and even had ECT with no positive results. I wake up each morning and have a pit in my stomach most of the day. I guess I would be classified as treatment resistant since I’ve tried about 4-5 medications. Any suggestions?

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