House Repair Issues now that my husband can no longer do these tasks

Just a thought, maybe ask him to fix the leaky faucet first. If your suspicion that he’s incapable of doing that, and he fails, you can simply shut the supply valves off feeding the faucet and then call the plumber. Maybe that will show him it’s best to call the expert.

Ultimatum time. Tell him you're calling a plumber that afternoon. It either lights a fire or he admits he's not interested or capable, at which you make the call and get those annoyances fixed. You're right, such things only get worse, and so does the damage they can do.

I went thru this for about 6 yrs. My husband saying he would fix, even had a new set of faucets, but he never got in the mood. He wouldn’t let me call a plumber. Move forward in time, and we had a major water problem that he sure didn’t feel like dealing with, so I called a plumber. While he was here, I made a time when he would could come fix the rest. My husband never said a word, he realized it was now beyond him. Any temporary unpleasantness you may have to deal with , after making a decision without his approval, will be just that. Temporary.

blisst, I love your gentleness. I'd be doing exactly what you are, though drips aren't usually that complicated. If I thought it wouldn't frustrate him. I'd look on you tube and see if he will tell you which of his tools to use.

@blisst We are not dealing with cognitive impairment (yet), but lack of energy and ability to finish these tasks. I wait a reasonable amount of time (depending on the task) then go ahead and look for a pro. This year that has included painters (I was always the primary painter, but it now takes me 5 times as long), sheet rock/tapers and flooring pros - all things we used to tackle without a second thought. That led him to seek someone to redo the garage floor.
Next up - after remodeling, I have been waiting 4 months for the chimney flue to be removed from the family room - 3 more weeks and I call a handy man.
My friends in Washington have just come to the same conclusion...
All that said, we are working hard to simplify so we can "age in place" - that includes passing on many tools from our younger years, or bringing in young helpers who we teach to use them.
That leads to an idea - do you have a young friend, relative or neighbor who can come and do the job with his verbal assistance? It could lead to a "win-win" where the other person would gain a new skill.

I feel like this might be a harsh response to your just wanting to give your husband the opportunity to fix the leaks (but leaks = quiet damage = at some point, odors, ants, and the like, and lead to hidden mold. And many of the insurance companies don't cover it, at least here in Florida. So, my take, is to call a plumber, get someone in, even if it's uncomfortable, and get it resolved. I remember before my husband had MCI on our house on the Cape, my husband refused and/or didn't have the time (or interest) to fix something, that turned into a huge problem, (gray water (not obvious) from a flushing toilet, that resulted in our entire wood floor being pulled up). And me calling someone in to finally fix it.
Hope this helps.
Karla

It's difficult to realize you have to take charge and overrule your husband. That might include finances as well. Health, financial security and safety for both of you has to be your primary goal. Your husband may not remember how to do the repair this he's stalling. Find a good plumber.

Perhaps you could approach it as a luxury to have someone else fix the leak.....a special "treat". My husband and I used to tackle pruning a tree which is on a slope. Realizing it created a major fall risk I started calling a landscaper to prune. Each time my husband comments that we could do and I say "I know we can do it but it is so nice that we can have someone else take care of that". On plumbing issues never a question as my husband never tackled that repair. A balancing act to keep their self worth intact and keeping the household together.

My husband could repair just about anything. Then he couldn't. I didn't have any reason to think this but I thought maybe he was getting lazy in his retirement. I realized it wasn't that he didn't want to....he didn't know how anymore. All of that was gone. I knew I couldn't keep the house up by myself and didn't want to hassle with companies that do a poor job. So, I sold our house of 30 years. He totally agreed with me. Now he doesn't even remember the house.

@jenniferkr Absolutely! 💯