How to deal with aging anxiety?

@mir123

Thanks so much Miriam. I checked my area....nothing yet. I may talk with a friend about helping to start one.
Sure raises anxiety when people talk about it though.

@gravity3 Starting one can be a great idea!

@judyingenes Thank you for my morning laugh.

For me what makes this forum a safe place to share ideas, experiences and thoughts that have been helpful to us and may be for others is simple.
Be careful about making light of or mocking others. We have no idea what someone is going through. It can be hurtful and also cause some to leave or stop sharing things that may be helpful to a member.
Thank you for listening.

A death Cafe makes sense if you are squeamish about discussing it with your family or vice versa. It doesn't mean you accept or expect it in the immediate future, it just means that you accept the reality that your path leads to it eventually, although none of us knows when. My mom arranged and prepaid for her funeral ten years before she passed at 101. We come to this community forum to commiserate and share our common journey through aging and illness, so why not try at least once for something we know will eventually happen?

I appreciate the comments of the people who have been supportive of others. Having been criticised in this forum in the past I know how hurtful that can be. Death cafés have their place those of us who live in constant pain every day and although we want to be alive, struggle with how difficult the journey is may find this helpful.

Not to be offensive but the saying,” opinions are like assholes, everyone has one”, there is truth here. Yes we have opinions but if they are expressed solely to hurt, condemn, or abuse etc what has one gained? We have all been the recipient of negativity whether in be comments, looks that can wither, or just rejection. My point is this, in our short walk through this life, how much better humanity would be if tolerance were to be practiced regularly. A smile takes less effort than a scowl .

@judyingenes It depends who you would want to ask. It's a reality we all have, no matter what our age brackets are.
Would you be comfortable going to one alone to see what it's like?
I've never heard of these. I'd imagine there would be people there who you could relate to, maybe even enjoy talking with.
It may not be a "pick me up" experience but there could be a sense of community.
And if there are people you find that you take to, go for a coffee afterwards or perhaps stay in touch with them.
Maybe this sugarcoats the whole thing but those are my thoughts.

I am going on 71 and had 2 organ transplants the past 26 years. I find today, I fear death more today than when I had my first transplant and my son was going into 4th grade. Our government is getting worse and worse now. Its sad and scary. I thought I was for sure, going to die when I was waiting on my second transplant 9 years ago. According to my many doctors things seem to be going fine. I am surprised but happy im many ways. However, after brushing up against death 3 times in my life time, you would think my mind would have accepted the end could be right around the corner. One big thing that has help me deal daily is my dog. I know not everybody likes or can be around animals. But he has been a blessing each day. He takes my mind off things and causes me to focus on him. When I feel sad, I can hugh and kiss him. He is a Golden Retriever.

@bobweller

You have certainly been through it. So glad you are still with us and thriving. What a gift to have your beloved friend...a golden retriever. So loving and kind. What is his/her name?