Am I coddling?

I remember when I was having trouble there was no name for it, and I was called many names by family, friends, and even medical people.. I was lying. I was faking it and I could hardly put 1 foot in front of the other..
To me, your sister sounds very judgmental and very self-centered.
She don’t know or understand what your daughter is going through. Give her the best support you can and encourage her to learn about fibromyalgia Google is a good place to start as well as Google scholar Google scholar has more technical information and no false advertisement and so much.
And you need to also take care of yourself so you don’t get rundown
I wish the very best for you and your daughter during this very difficult time

Hello,
Yup, I've been through the, You're a faker. Attention seeker. Etc. Etc. too! It's not fun. You have nothing to back yourself up. You usually look just fine! And, you hear, "Oh, Come on. It's can't be THAT bad!" Well it CAN!
It might help to see if there is a support group nearby. I know I would be even doubting myself off and on...maybe this WAS all in my head...Others going through the same thoughts and feelings and PAIN and exhaustion and fog...and...and...AND will help her through the tough times. Because, there will be some very tough times with your sweet daughter looking like there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with her, at all!

Just tell your sister to....Well no, that wouldn't be nice. But you could tell her to Google it. There are so many invisible illnesses or conditions out there now: Autism, mental illness like manic depression, cancer, heart disease, our families all have something. You would think we would be kinder to people close to us who need our understanding. There will be times, however, that feeling like a pile of wet grimy newspaper or not your daughter will have to get on with life and "Do it anyway." She still will have to learn how to carry on through the times when she must show up for herself until she is able to let everything go but what she can manage at the time.

And you, Dear loving Mom, as minnesota10 said, you take care of yourself...It's the "Put the mask on yourself first rule" ya know? And try to keep things as light as you can about it with her. I have a couple of friends and my sons who can kid me (they know when and when NOT to) about sleeping in the afternoon or was my head on straight today...so that I know I am still "Okay."

Mamabear, I think you are a wonderful Mom! I have had Fibromyalgia for 31 years and it's a very hard thing to live with. My faith in the Lord is what keeps me going and my wonderful family. Your daughter needs you, but, as posted above, do take good care of yourself.

I have 2 close friends that have Fibromyalgia and we talk and pray for each other. We understand each other.

It's a very misunderstood malady....some folks don't (doctors included) believe in it. Why would anyone want to pretend they have pain & fatigue all over and other symptoms for attention? Makes no sense. My primary doctor told me Fibromyalgia was brutal. He is right.

Praying for you and your daughter right now. Blessings & Prayers....

Never do we need tough love. Fibro is hard to understand cuz the population is so small folks usually don’t hear about it. And we always look good on the outside. We are usually in some pain any given day. Go to the American Fibromyalgia Syndrome Association website. They have oodles of articles and studies. After you and your daughter read this forward a few to your family. Know that you are saving your daughter her precious energy for other activities that will enrich her life. Mothers know and you know best. Hang in there.

Don’t believe you will ever regret giving encouragement and support to your daughter.
Knowing someone else is trying to understand is huge!
You may also want to offer to join her in some kind of activity - walking; craft; getting out and physically active in whatever degree both can handle.
Don’t let others non thinking comments stay with you.