Best way to conceal Incontinence Products at work?

With some planning I don’t have to change often. Actually, I been wearing a pullup with a guard inside and I can just pull the guard out and throw it away and just use pullup. Always have a spare guard in pocket, but haven’t ever used it as just the pullup last for a decent amount of time. Actually at night I just wear the pullup (not an overnight) and it feel pretty dry in the morning, but weighs about .3 - .6 fluid oz. more.
Yesterday did try a regular pair of briefs with a guard, my first test with regular men’s briefs and a guard. Wanted to try it out as wearing the pullup and a guard out in this 95 degree heat, with 110 degree feel like temperature, was really causing a lot of sweating. It went okay until I got to digging with shovel out in yard, but still didn’t leak through. But today I tried it again and the briefs must have been looser or something. Just moving around house and working on computer, noticed wet spot on outside of my shorts, but I was home and not in public. Maybe will try again tomorrow with tighter briefs? If going to be gone a long time and in public places, I use pullups with a guard, but that is just too hot working outside, really sweat a lot.
Still don’t understand why at night I stay pretty dry and wake up with urge to pee and actually have good stream like a teenager. Like clockwork, 4 times every night and I don’t drink nothing after 8pm and go to bed around 11:30PM. Only add .3 - .6 oz. liquid. During the day, no urge to pee, but do go try and may get a little stream- just a lot of stress incontinence. Now if I sit and visit for an hour or lay around and be a couch potato, I will have an urge to pee. Just a lot to learn and figure out.
When I say guard, I mean pad as thtt seems to be terminology most used. The package they come in calls them guards.

@diverjer

When we say "pad" here we usually refer to "fluffy" , padded insert.
When we say "shield" we usually refer to very thin (almost paper thin) insert that truly is mostly shielding panties and can not absorb a lot of liquid.
So progression goes usually - overnight pull-ups, regular pull-ups, high absorbency pads, medium pads, shields.

PS: Please take care with that terrible heat !!! It is not healthy to exert yourself on that level of heat : ((. No need to make your heart work that hard now that you have some arrhythmia going on. Exercise is good but not in those temperatures. 😞

Thanks! Okay, I got Depends Guards with 5 drops on label and they say Maximum Protection. But the term I think you are using and I like better is Pads- as they just stick inside briefs or I also stick them inside pull-ups if going to be working, exercising or going someplace where it may be difficult to change. The term Pad just seems to fit better than Guards.

Then I got Walmart brand Assurance for pull-ups and they got 6 drops on label and say maximum protection. Seems the Walmart brand does just as well or better than the Depends. I think they weighed about .4 oz more than the Depends.

@diverjer Change in a stall and then walk out with it folded and throw it in the trash like the man you are and go about your day and be thankful that you haven't had to do it for a lifetime. All of the young and middle-aged men in my wife's office team knew of my cancer and couldn't have been more supportive of both of us. My sports official crews knew of my cancer and understood when I had to bee line to the rest room between periods during my urgency days. Many of us had in-depth discussions as a few had it themselves and a couple of others were high heredity risks. All were supportive. Many said nothing. Viewed it as an opportunity to educate and demystify the disease. We need to lead, not duck.

@heavyphil That 2-year-old flattened condom in the wallet cracked me up. Yep, that's a sign for sure.

@chippydoo Maybe 2 years, but the circular imprint lasts forever🤣

I suggest Eliminating the incontinence trips to the bathroom. Wear an incontinence clamp at work. Use a maximum absorption pad like the Tena Max. Life changing.

I don't understand the angst. Just say "something to help with the side effects of prostate cancer treatments". What's the big deal?

@surftohealth88

Glad to hear your husband is not experiencing side effects from his hormone treatment.

I wasn’t aware that he had a recurrence and had already started treatment. If you don’t mind my asking, what was his final pathology after surgery?

At what PSA level did he begin treatment? Was this considered adjuvant radiation therapy or early salvage radiation therapy?

How soon after surgery did he start treatment? And did the PET scan show anything significant?

Given my high risk genomic and pathological risk factors, I am on recurrence watch with undetectible PSA so far, but I’m always interested in learning from the experiences of others who are going through a similar journey.

@soli
Hi Soli ,
Final pathology was 4+5 with large cribriform and IDC. Decipher 1. Tumor burden was very small, I think just 10% of the whole gland but enough to cause havoc. He had uni-focal EPE on the area of 3+3 and inconclusive margin in area of 4. Margin was very small, 1 mm I think and burned by cauter and that is why it was inconclusive. BUT, since his recurrence is in lymph nodes, my suspicion is that cancer was already there even before RP , especially since one of the glands that is now definitely involved was faintly positive before the surgery, but was dismissed as "not positive" by UCSF doctors since SUV was small.

Since he is high risk case we had consultations with RO and MO and surgeon very soon after surgery and we were advised to wait for the first uPSA and go from there. Since uPSA came LESS than 0.014 , we were advised not to do adjuvant due to high risk of toxicity etc. , but option for adjuvant was open for us. I think that you had second opinion at UCLA and you got the same advice - to wait. Most doctors advise that because it is very small difference in results between adjuvant and early salvage.

We decided to wait but we did uPSA every month (on our own dime) to be able to catch early recurrence and act accordingly and it proved to be very smart move. My husband started having small rises every month and by March it started doubling at uPSA levels which are dismissed by many doctors - DO NOT DISMISS them ! We asked for PSMA when my husband reached about uPSA of 0.15 and since we did not want to miss that magical 0.2 for starting early salvage !!! The wait for PSMA was about 4 weeks and I sad NO WAY we will wait for that and we did PSMA in local hospital and started Orgovyx the next day.

PSMA came back positive for 4 nodes with very small SUV but obviously positive. So, it is no truth that low PSA will not show up on PSMA and also salvage starts at 0.2 regardless of if something is seen or not.

Due to high risk features my husband was advised to have whole pelvic floor and glands treated and also second ADT is added - Nubeqa. We had to insist to get Orgovyx and Nubeqa, so you have to voice your preference, otherwise it will be Lupron + Abiraterone. He will be on ADT 18- 24 mos.

I hope that I answered to all of your questions and please feel free to ask if you have additional ones.

Wishing you ZERO BCR in your future 🍀