Best way to conceal Incontinence Products at work?

I WFH, but if I was in the office, probably would head to restroom with toothbrush and toothpaste in one hand and dopp kit in the other, "going to brush my teeth" if anyone asks. I wouldn't over think it.

At the beginning when my husband was using pads he had one or 2 in his back jeans pocket. It never fell out or anything. In the other pocket he always has a face mask (when he goes for check-ups etc.) He wears skinny jeans so it all stays in place - never peaks out or anything. Shields are so thin that there is NO way anybody would see them in your pocket. Men in general carry tons of stuff in their pockets so any bulging would not cause any concern. You also might buy thin leather wallet and instead of bills put shields inside 👍 and place a wallet in your pocket ! You can buy cool fancy cargo pants and put shields in your side leg pocket 😎. If you have dark colored shirts with front pockets shield can fit in front pocket.

PS: "People" are idiots in general - so do not pay attention too much. They will always find something to gossip, even invent things to have reason to gossip - just ignore human beings ; ), very primitive creatures.

I do have a tooth brush etc that I could take along with a wallet of pads. I would have never thought to put a pad in a wallet! 🙂 Thanks Surf!
The people I work with notice everything and since I've worked here a while my lore/backstory is extensive and like you said mostly fiction. We have a new hire and they other day they told me that they had heard etc..... about me and I said "Whatever you want to believe about me, you can"
How is Mr. Surf doing?

@jayhall
You see - just impossible to avoid comments *eyeroll . I dealt with looks and comments my whole life due to jealousy and envy, I could write a book about all of that. I tried to be nice, tried to "explain", tried to pretend I do not see it and I will lie to you if I said I never cried over it in my younger years - now I give a loooong look back and smile. If anybody makes a comment I confirm it - "Oh yes, I just do that and that - I do not understand people that don't, yuck" , or "Oh I do not care about what is presently "in", I HATE uniformity, it is so blahhhh and non creative "!
You can say: "I always have toiletries with me, I have high respect for hygiene, I do not get people who don't, lol . Do you want some "WetOnes" - amazing invention ! There should be dispenser of them in every restroom like there is in Japan and other cultured places". Only that way they stop - yes, they will think that you are stuck up and pretentious but that is much more acceptable and even valued here lol ; ). Being nice, polite or god forbid shy is the end of a person's peace !

Thanks so much for asking about Mr. Surf 💗 : ))) - he is doing well, luckily no side effects so far from Orgovyx or Nubeqa , (thanks God and all angels 🙏) and I hope it will stay that way. He is exercising every day at home and he likes it. We are still debating of having another PSMA scan or just go with RT without another scan since we can not get definitive directions form our medical team of what is the best thing to do. So, the RT will start either end of July or end of August depending of that decision. Luckily since Mr. Surf is on 2 ADT meds he can wait with RT for extra 3-4 weeks with no effect on treatment plan because he will be on ADT for at least 18 mos. Otherwise he is in good spirits and that helps me stay "above the water" ; ) too.

Shields are so thin, I’d just slide one in my pocket and be done with it. FTR, I WFH, so it’s not an issue, but I wouldn’t see it as a problem.

My personality is such, though, that’d I’d be very polite and pleasantly deceptive until I was having a bad day, then I’d likely reply, “I’m about to go change my g—damn underwear shield! You wanna come watch?!” Lol

As mentioned in another message, just put the thing in your pocket when you’re about to go to the bathroom. Have a small plastic bag, If you have to take one out and replace it that way you don’t get your pants wet.

What's been a concern and I'm in that situation is what to do with the old wet one. I can get a new Shield in my back pocket no problem I can even put two in there. But getting rid of the old wet one can be an issue. I guess I could get a plastic bag like I get from the grocery store, but then people would say what's in the bag as I throw it in the trash.

@diverjer

I do not know how it is in other states but in CA every bathroom stall has either small trash can placed in a corner or metal trash receptacle attached on stall wall (inside). Multiple big trash cans in general bathroom area. If there are none in a stall, take bunch of paper napkins from the wall dispenser, go in the stall, change, wrap the wet pad in paper napkins and throw that in a garbage can. If they see that you hold something that resembles bunch of hand paper tissues nobody will even pay attention. We ladies have to do that kind of stuff our whole lives. And I mean who is asking "what is in your trash bag" ? - honestly, I would ask that person if he/she needs some mental health counseling, or what ? 😵‍💫

You guys are lucky.
One day I left a massive (unused) 6-drop pad in a laptop bag.
I had a pile of extra laptop bags & one of the other sites asked for some spares for their users.
They emailed pretty much everyone in Helpdesk that they found an "adult diaper" in a laptop bag.
Everyone would have known it was me & I was mortified.

@jayhall Yeah, take out that old, unused condom from your wallet and replace it with a wee-wee pad…
A TRUE sign that we are definitely NOT the men we used to be!🤣
Not to make things worse, your co-workers probably think you have a drug problem and your stash is in your bag; next time, sniffle a few times and let your eyes bug out when you return to your desk…that should get tongues wagging!
But seriously, I wouldn’t be too concerned; when I returned to work I put a bunch of heavy day and lite day pads in the top drawer of the desk I shared with my business partner; he took one look, gave me a knowing nod and never mentioned it again.
And should we talk about all the women who need to use the restroom during those special times of the month? It’s totally accepted, no one bats an eye and life goes on.
Phil