Selfharm

My mom didn't self harm, but had severe reactions to her anxiety, but did not explain them to me as I was growing up. As a young child and into my teen years, I thought it was my fault. She would hyperventilate, shake, cry and tongue would swell. I urge each of you to explain what is happening to family and friends you are around. Most will be understanding and if not, you don't them in your life. I also deal with depression and anxiety and have spent time in the hospital. However, I have now learned to accept it and live a productive life, even at 85. 🙂

@liz223 Hi Liz: I appreciate you sharing your story. I so admire the progress you have made (and are still making) at the age of 85. You are a great example of how it is possible to live a productive life even though your early years sound like they were very difficult. Teresa

Hello everyone. I am back after several weeks...or even longer. I just find it hard to stay connected. First anniversary of son's suicide is august.
That is not why i am posting. This is in response to ryman. Have you tried homeopathic remedies for uncontrolled urges as you have described. Even Rescue Remedy...a popular remedy that works well. Go to a good health food store to the Wellness department. Or, way better, call a wellness practitioner in your area who works with remedies.
Acupuncture works as well. As does other chinese remedies.
I have used all of these to ease a lifelong series of symptoms relating to severe depression and anxiety. I also have been on countless medications. Sometimes meds worked...sometimes they didn't. You can choose your own healing modalities.

To add to that last post.....i do have to chime in and gently and firmly invite you to make it a priority to investigate healing techniques before you inadvertently do some damage. My instinct says that you just aren't gonna try more meds and see more doctors. I have definitely been there. I so get that.
For thousands of years people have used alternative means to get well. Think of it as a research project. Try different stuff. Until you find what works.

Thank you for your replies. I am so very sorry for your loss. No, I won't be seeking more drs or meds. I really don't know how to handle that as drs want to give you meds. That is what they do. I have heard of Rescue Remedy. Maybe I will give that a try. I am trying to deal with the stress and not let it build up, to try different means to control it. I remember my brother used to sit an jiggle his leg a lot. Now I think it was a means of dealing with stress. Thank you so much for your suggestions. I will look into alternative means.

Well...i will keep you in my prayers . please continue to share with us. This is a wonderful place to meet like minded people and get lots of good ideas. Also...i have found that people on this forum really do care about each other. Blessings...

@georgette12 It is so nice to hear from you! Thank you for your encouraging words in this this discussion group. How are you feeling these days? Teresa

@ryman
I was thinking of you today, and wondered how you're doing. People deal with stress in all kinds of ways. I've worked at finding ways that work for me for a long time, because it was partly stress that pushed me over the edge into the deep, dark hole of depression in 2005. Thanks to the help I've received, and continue to receive, I'm in a better place today. I hope you'll find those solutions that work best for you.

Jim

Thank you. I appreciate the concern. The depression is still a problem mainly because of my physical problems. That just seems to get worse. I keep having tests but getting no answers. I feel my family is also getting tired of all this and maybe blaming me. But I have no choice but to go on. Thank you again for your concern.