You are not alone ❤️

Posted by ClimbingMountains81 @climbingmountains81, Mar 22 3:00pm

Just wanted to share this message with others as I’m navigating mental health issues after restarting an antidepressant. The side effects have been really hard on me this time and I’ve been struggling since December. One of the side effects of mental health/anxiety/depression are often feelings of isolation and loneliness so just wanted anyone out there to know there are people here for you. If you need an encouraging word or just someone to read your story or about how your doing, someone to share a piece of your day with, know you’re not alone and we’re in this together! Let’s keep each other encouraged on our journeys! Would love to know what’s been most helpful for you on your mental health journey! I’m finding community is extremely important. I think I shied away from certain communities for a while to protect myself and am learning how important it is for healing. Anyway, just want you to know you’re not alone and we’re going to get through this. Love you and hang in there!

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@cstone

Found several online just by typing in “find local mental health support groups near near me.” There are some through NAMI and some through Emotions Anonymous:
https://emotionsanonymous.org/find-an-ea-meeting/general-info-about-meetings/general-information.html
https://www.nami.org/support-groups/nami-connection/

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@climbingmountains81 thank you so much for taking the time, means the world!
I will look at both.

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@cstone Please read though all these encouraging words!! Try to go outside and stand facing the sun. Science shows us how this act triggers vitamin D production in the body, which makes us feel better. Standing in the sun 10 minutes daily can help depression. Fact! I hope you feel better. Sending an air-hug!

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@charliegirl thank you so much for the advice and hug!

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@climbingmountains81 thank you so much for taking the time, means the world!
I will look at both.

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@cstone of course! I’ll let you know if I come across any more! And you could do a search for “mental health support groups near me” or just “support groups near me” or “walking groups near me” and probably find some additional options ❤️ Sometimes Meetup has some group options as well! Best of luck and keep us posted on what you find!

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Is anyone else living in Chicago alone and depressed? I am 67, living with chronic pain and have been passed from doctor to pt to spine surgeon and back to new doctors without answers. I have tried to find the way out of my bed day after day, but keep retreating. My therapist is there for me to talk to, but I have no one to come and get me out of my apartment for a walk.

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@cstone Hello...in Chicago, the DFSS Senior Services provides information and referrals for assistance under the umbrella of "Aging at Home", specifically in-home support. The City of Chicago website invites email inquiries at: aging@cityofchicago.org or by telephone during the day at (312)744-4016. You did mention your therapist, as in physical therapist? Could that person offer any suggestions for assistance, as an element of your ongoing therapy?
I apologize if this is a redundant suggestion, something you have already explored.

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been battling bi-polar depression wow finally listened to doc and started new med there is really no support for mental health here in Queensland Australia , unless they can lock u up. I have been in lock down at the local hospital several times under suicide watch , kept there for a few hours then let go back into it all again.

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Is anyone else living in Chicago alone and depressed? I am 67, living with chronic pain and have been passed from doctor to pt to spine surgeon and back to new doctors without answers. I have tried to find the way out of my bed day after day, but keep retreating. My therapist is there for me to talk to, but I have no one to come and get me out of my apartment for a walk.

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@cstone
Check with your local Senior center to see if they have resource info

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@climbingmountains81 The diagnosis came while I was in the hospital after very nearly taking my life. I feel it's accurate. It explains far too much about my personal history. Too many things line up. Additionally, the reaction I had to Effexor has been shown to be specific to bipolar patients. The studies I found were like reading my own experiences almost word for word. And since Lamotrigine has been shown to treat bipolar depression, and because it's working, I'm again finding support for the diagnosis. Additionally, while she was never diagnosed, I'm certain my sister was bipolar 1. And it's known to cluster in families. She would swing radically and suddenly. From the funnest person in the room to completely shut down. And without warning. My shifts were always more subtle. I slid in and out of it quietly, but not outwardly. She'd have full-bore manias. I mostly didn't. I like to joke that with bipolar 2 you don't much get the fun part (mania), just the bad part (depression). But really, you don't want either. I just have a dark sense of humor.

I'd suggest seeing a psychiatrist. Or even two or three for second and third opinions. And most importantly, advocate for yourself. Nothing changed for me until I took ownership of it. As I told my counselor, a few months after getting discharged, I went from being a passive recipient to being an active participant. I stumbled on the studies that described my life. I'm actually the one who figured out that the antidepressant had become the biggest driver of my depression. It's known thing, but uncommon enough that my psychiatrist had never seen it before. A while back she told me she's using my case moving forward as a reference so that if she sees similar symptoms, she'll consider the possibility of the same thing happening to another patient. So perhaps what happened to me will save someone else.

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@depressedbutnotdead thank you so much for sharing your experience so openly. I’m speaking to someone more soon about this possibility. I too had a “switch” back when I first started medication from anxiety to severe depressive symptoms and always thought it was strange but didn’t know it could be a bipolar thing, though it was maybe just negative side effects. They switched me from Celexa to Lexapro after that as I was well managed for like 18 years. Hoping this helps answer some of the questions about what’s going on. The dr. I just spoke to mentioned the sensitivity I’m experiencing is also commonly found in patients with bipolar in their system. Hoping I find some answers! Thanks so much for your message of hope and success. ❤️

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When I am depressed I cannot be around anyone. If I go out in the community it will just cause me to lash out at people. I have dealt with major depression my whole life and now, at 67, I have become bitter and resentful. It makes me feel even worse to see how others are happy and well and I am still stuck in the mud. And then, I hate myself even more for feeling so horribly towards others. It is a vicious cycle. I have found no relief from doctors or therapists. I cannot tolerate SSRI medications because they mess up my digestive system. I have never even talked to a mental health professional who bothered to explain to me how they could help me. I do not know why I continually reach out for help when I know damn well there is none.

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Talking. I'm blessed with a remarkable circle of friends that I've known for decades. And even more remarkable as we age, we're all still here. Outside of my immediate family, it's the thing I'm most thankful for. I've been across the board open with them about what I've been through. Every time I talk about it, I get support, and I feel relief.

Just yesterday I received an email from one of them. "We're glad you're still here." Even though my psychiatrist put me on a medication that has effectively ended lifelong depression, it's still good to hear those words. It's still good to know that I didn't hide it. That I didn't carry it alone. That was a good decision.

The depression has lifted, but the anxiety comes in fits because of how close I came to ending my life. That moment is a terrifying memory. I put a gun to my head. It's hard to live with. Last year I got hit with the anxiety that memory can provoke while my wife was out of town. So I texted one of our close friends. "Can we go for a walk? I need to unwind here." We got out on a nice trail, I recounted the day things almost came to a self-inflicted end and how some days that memory still clobbers me. I was listened to, I received new insight on it, was reminded of why I value my friends so much, got a big hug, and went home decompressed and able to get back to daily life.

Don't keep it corked in yourself.

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I'm new to this site and have just recently started exploring its content. I came across your (ClimbingMountains81) post " You are not alone" and it very much resonated with me. I'm in the process of increasing my meds now and am having a difficult time with it.
I was wondering how you (and others) are doing now?
It's nice to know I'm not alone, when I feel so utterly all alone, Thanks.

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