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I think I might have PE…
Ok, so I’ve always ejaculated within a minute of masturbation all my life and struggled with control, but only recently have I learned that this isn’t normal. I’ll share a list of some things I’ve noticed. Please let me know if what I’m experiencing is real and if I should be concerned.
- it’s always been this way
- last roughly a minute
-little sense of control over reflex
-arousal builds quickly
-Lidocaine helps! But only a bit.
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I was pretty much like you for most of my life. Very difficult to control how quickly I came to conclusion. Either through masturbation or sex act. However, after my second marriage to a wonderful gal who is very understanding. I began having her on top of me. For some reason that I can't explain, I was able to go several minutes without "climaxing". Early in our marriage, we were able to have sex twice a day. I had never done that with my first wife(I seem to remember that she was very inhibited). So, we have enjoyed 34 years of wonderful love and sex. This is just MY experience.
Thanks. The thing is, me and my gf have talked and we both really wanna have sex (both 18), I’m just worried because I know it will be an embarrassing experience and a total let down. What can I do short term to make it a good night, and what can I do long term with medical care to overcome this?
@hugh27 I understand that you and your GF want to have sex. Let me give you some advice from someone who has been in a monogamous marriage for 34 years. My wife and I decided to save sex for marriage. I know, what am I? An old prude? Not really. I just know that you are only young once. Some day you will meet the love of your life. Do you want to be able to look her in the eye and tell her that a) I have slept around with lots of girls, or b) I am saving myself for you.
My first wife and I had sex before marriage. That union did not last. Married sex was not all that good. My second wife and I did not have premarital sex. We have been married for 34 years and have had a wonderful sex life. I can remember when I was 18 how much I wanted to have sex. I don't think that someone that young is ready for the responsibilities that come with ahving sex. Just my humble opinion. I wish you well.
The early days of having sex and are new and exciting it’s normal to cum quickly and this will change once you’ve got some experience under your belt. Always use protection, be certain both you and your gf have had the HPV vaccine. Since you’re both discussing it remember to be kind to her and yourself because you’re both in the same boat learning as you go. and do not try and learn from porn videos because that’s not real life. Get a book for you both titled “She Comes First” and your lives will be much fuller.