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Caregiver Issues: My husband won't let me help with cancer care

Posted by sipka @sipka, Dec 27, 2025

I am my husbands caregiver for Lung Cancer . It is very frustrating when, he does not let me call about his meds or if I cook something he is very particular. He is stubborn and likes things his way,
I am afraid this is going to lead to a divorce!
I get angry at him and I know that is not good to do . I do not think I am the best caregiver to him but, there is no other choice.
Any suggestions on how I can handle things ?

Thank you

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kedim | @kedim | Jan 24 4:39pm

Many sizeable communities have an organization called the Area Agency on Aging. Do a Google search. On their website, under Services, there is a drop-down menu of resources at might include the following:
- Family Caregiver Support Center - as you scroll down on the page, you might see events that include Caring Conversations about various topics at the office. These events provide information and resources that can be helpful. But you also have a chance to meet folks who might help you connect with what you need.
- Long-Term Care Ombudsman
- Mobility Coordination
- Senior Information and Assistance Center
- Senior Insurance
It's worth looking into and even paying them a visit in person, if you live close enough. The office staff can be a great help in finding the right organization or non-profit that can help you find what you need during this time.

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | Jan 25 11:29pm
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Many sizeable communities have an organization called the Area Agency on Aging. Do a Google search. On their website, under Services, there is a drop-down menu of resources at might include the following:
- Family Caregiver Support Center - as you scroll down on the page, you might see events that include Caring Conversations about various topics at the office. These events provide information and resources that can be helpful. But you also have a chance to meet folks who might help you connect with what you need.
- Long-Term Care Ombudsman
- Mobility Coordination
- Senior Information and Assistance Center
- Senior Insurance
It's worth looking into and even paying them a visit in person, if you live close enough. The office staff can be a great help in finding the right organization or non-profit that can help you find what you need during this time.

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@kedim I borrowed this comment today, if that’s OK with you. I was trying to explain Area Agency on Aging and I wasn’t getting very far but then, I remembered your comment. I copied your answer and gave you full authorship. Thank you!

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