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Let's put some cheer : )))
This time of the year is for many (even for very healthy people) challenging and depression promoting, so let’s try to put some cheer in our small community by remembering “small things that can make us smile” no matter what ? The sight of our loved ones is an obvious choice, so let's think of the next best thing ; )- what sight, smell, sound or activity lifts your spirit at once ?
For me it is seeing any very tiny bird in my garden (warbler, finch, wren, vireo, hummingbird …) - I just melt instantaneously < 3 ! I LOVE watching their 100% enjoyment of every second of their life, always happy, always chatting, chasing, bathing - no matter what the weather looks like : )).
What is yours ? : )))
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@surftohealth88
| I was raised to be a perfectionist and early on got very clear message that I better be the best in whatever I do or it is just not worth doing it at all. |
Me too! I'd get a 98 on a test and my dad would say "what happened to the other two points?" That led me to, in high school and college, only take classes where I knew I could get A's.
Fortunately, I learned the concept of "good enough" and now pursue anything that interests me regardless of whether I'm good at it or not. But I do fully understand the perfectionist messaging. I do sometimes wish I were young again and back in college and could pursue some more challenging subjects vs. just going for grades.
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2 ReactionsI live in and around conservation and preserves community.
I and my do get a joy from seeing deer out and walking around. They don't fear us and look at us like what is that strange living thing.
Some times deer jump my back fence and walk around my yard.
We also have tribes (and I mean tribes of up to a dozen turkeys) of turkeys that walk around everywhere. Somehow they have learned to walk on the sidewalks and grass areas and not on roads. But like pedestrians we all stop and let them cross.
I love watching birds also. They love to get into my my trees.
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2 ReactionsThis is a great idea. I am heartened by seeing my 12 months old granddaughter, who was born very underweight, standing and talking out loud (not quite words yet...but still!) and showing other amazing progress.
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3 ReactionsInteresting how many recurring themes there are here and so many of the same things I enjoy—making music (classical piano for my own pleasure and my wife’s), nature (deer and birds, we even had a black bear in our yard last spring), cooking and baking (I recently perfected a consistent pie crust). Even when the radiation and ADT were at their worst, these things made life more bearable. My current favorite, however, is getting stronger, going longer, and losing fat after finishing ADT a little over a year ago. I still have deficits and may have some of them for life, but each time I conquer the next hurdle, it gives me a real high.
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2 Reactions@jeffmarc
Jeff, I think we're going to need videos of you and the wife dancing!!! 😂😂
@surftohealth88
That couple I mentioned that dries 50 miles comes from San Jose. I forget that you live in the Bay Area.
The club that I go to is Nick’s Restaurant and bar in Pacifica. You might come up one time and check it out.
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3 Reactions@dpayton
I have them but can’t really post them here Because the limit on images is five meg and videos are huge.
I will look into it.
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2 Reactions@mjp0512
Ha ha, I know, mine are very often reviewed, I got used to that XP. "Pet the cat" is very controversial thing ha ha.
What kind of cat do you have : ))) !? That sounds so cozy and comforting < 3. I can imagine her/him purring in the morning and saying soft "meow" greeting when you open your eyes : ))) Brings back my early childhood memories of spending summer days at my grandma's house. < 3 Thanks so much for sharing : )))
@scottbeammeup
Yes, *sigh, it effects person on many levels. When I came to the USA I spoke some English but was so ashamed that I did not speak it well enough for my standards (which were subconsciously parental standards) that I refused to communicate at all : (((. My poor husband had to "speak for me" in every possible situation like private interpreter until I became brave enough to actually communicate with people. I truly admire my husband's patience ha ha. To this day I "hate my English" and avoid communication - I know that I sound chatty here since I LOVE to talk with people but I look over every post 20 times and still there are mistakes that bother me. XP
@jc76
Hey JC- nice to see you here, I was wondering this morning how are you doing and if I you will stop by to share your favorite sights : )
That all sounds so lovely < 3 !
Turkeys are very big and powerful birds ! Do you ever feel little bit intimidated with such a big tribe walking a sidewalk , ha ha, I must admit that I feel fear when I am near massive birds (like turkey, swan, crane etc) since I was attacked by a huge rooster as a child he he he ...