What are you best tips for being more patient?

@suefishrob good for you for writing to his doctor. Would you consider asking his doctor to discuss with your husband treatments that might be helpful? It's so hard isn't it? I'm glad the posts helped you - the helpful comments have resulted in a 100% improvement in my ability to be patient. Wishing you a day that needs less patience and feels calmer. You can do it!

It was a great idea to send a note to the Dr. If he is like my spouse. He ignores anything that needs intervention. He makes excuses for bad behavior by saying I caused it or I make him that way. Juvenile at times. It is hurtful and I just want to scream.It does not occur to him that others have feelings and choose to be treated respectively. We are in the process of getting our house ready for selling. It is constant. I cannot wait to move. ..but dread packing and upacking . The house I am interested in is nice and I hope I can get to the point where I am doing stuff for myself. Not always my spouse. He thinks that is my job and I should be honored to do so. I love him but, I am not his maid or the help. Respect goes a long ways. He is right always. Occasionly he apologizes. He says nice things. But it is getting less and less. I just relax when I can. Wellness is my health at thus time. I am healthy and thankful for that. I am sure you will finally get your spouse to get care. Persusion and encouragement worked me. I have found out that they eventually get help. Men tend to be proud and want to say they are ok, when women are quicker to get help. I love this site and thank you for sharing. Status quo today. Waiting for the bathroom floor to dry so I can get the dreaded shower for my spouse. He is petrified of water. I think I have a plan that works now. Have a wonderful day. Thanks for virtually listening. I really apprciate it. You can do the same with me anytime. Hugs and prayers💕

@mickey5455 In the beginning I would explain to my husband how things worked, such as the remote. Thinking if he understood better what was happening he would be able to remember or figure it out on his own. Now I realize that doesn't work. I show/tell him how to work the remote and we just move on. However, too often I find myself just doing it for him. Wrong! He just became more independent on me. So I take a real deep breath and try to talk him through it. That approach takes much more patience but it does seem to slow his decline a little.

@aliwood wow, that is a very interesting perspective. I hope I can get there. Right now, I'm in the stage of just doing it rather than explaining it ten to twenty times. Your comment has caused me to think differently - thank you so much.

@suefishrob ohh, the old ‘it is what it is’. My husband uses ‘that’s just who I am’ when he practices unacceptable behavior. Ohhh, the trials we face…

Oh my gosh, I am also not very patient. It’s a mix of unwillingness to accept what is in front of me (I don’t want him to be like this) and wanting to pretend everything is ‘normal’ and just downright impatience in general.
Ok, here’s an uninvited vent.
DH is also a know-it-all with a past occupation of being in charge AND very narcissistic, try adding a tablespoon of MCI to that! So fun!
Good luck getting your DH to the Dr. I do find that as MCI slowly progresses I am able to just make appointments and inform him of them without asking permission or leaving it up for debate. It works pretty well.

@trishaanderson boy, you weren’t kidding, his posts are great. Thank you for pointing them out.

@lkbous I'm sorry for what you are dealing with and I love your spirit! "Try adding a tablespoon of MCI to that!" needs to be a poster. Thank for your tip about making appointments first and informing later 🙂