divorce

When someone has been married to another all their adult life it is very difficult to imagine life without them.

I could not get a sense from your post, whether he is being violent or threatening towards you. But if he is only talking irrationally about divorce, in the face of a moderate to advanced dementia diagnosis, I would not take it seriously and would respond something like, That isn't a possibility, etc. My wife has asked me 100 times if I want a divorce and I just tell her, No. Once I asked her if SHE wants a divorce (just to get a response) and she said, I'm thinking about it. And she forgets about it between questions.

But if he's threatening, that's different and you need to talk with his doctor sooner than later and remove/hide any type of weapon. Above all, keep yourself safe. He doesn't know what he is doing.

We have been married over 40 years.

My mom has Alzheimer’s dementia, moderate. She stills drives short distances. My dad is no help at all and is even enabling as she often can’t find her car in the parking lot. I haven’t heard of independent drivers tests. How would I go about getting one for my mother?

He is taking medication and one of his meds made him aggressive . The Dr. changed his meds and he is slowly increasing them. No excusing his behavior. Trying to get him help.

Check with your doctor's office, or your state council on aging. I got one through the local rehabilitation center in Minnesota that deals with post-stroke, TBI and trauma patients.

The beauty was that she couldn't blame the doctor or the government. Of course, she did blame me, but I'm the oldest of 6 kids and pretty tough! As soon as the evaluation letter went to her doctor and the state DMV, we found a distant relative who "needed" to buy her car. This would not have worked if one of us or our kids bought, because she would have always seen it to and been reminded of her loss. And we could always remind her that someone who really neede it got a reliable car.

Thanks so much, I will investigate today! And good advice about getting rid of the car, thanks

I totally get it! My spouse is all over the place. The one thing he has not asked for was a divorce. I am sorry. Has he been violent or abusive before? He may not remember he said that to you. I would talk with your physician and see if something can be done or changed. So sorry!🫂

The state where I live, you can contact Motor Vehicles and they will notify her she has to take a driving test. It sort of leaves you out of the line of fire. Good luck. Cheryl