Toxic adult children

I have dealt with depression since I was very small. I am 73 now. I was coming out of it when I turned 70. Then my oldest child started criticising me harshly. She and I almost pulled through it, but then I didn't email her for some time (the only way she would communicate.) and began "attacking me" while I responded with denial. This extended to my two boys. My middle son stopped talking to me for another reason, my youngest hung on to me and my husband, although he had some rough times. it's been about four years and it still hurts. I beat myself up for mistakes I made. I did a lot for my children as they were growing. Now I felt that I didn't know my children at all. I've gotten to a place where I can hide the pain. I try to do the things that I love such as writing and art, but I think the pain won't go away. I do things with my youngest. My husband is the best. I'm blessed to have him. My youngest is a treasure. There are no grandchildren in site, but I have a nephew to send presents to and some close friends. Thank you for listening.

I know this hurt. I have found on Youtube some very special motivational talks
by, of all the people, Denzel Washington and he is a very good speaker.

Just go to wherever you watch Youtube and search Denzel Washington Motivational
Speaker. He has many sharings and one of my favorite is "The Blessing of Being
REJECTED by Your Child in Old Age."

Just check it out I think you will like it.

Thanks!

My son got married 2 years ago and they exclude us from their lives. His wife blames us for ruining their wedding. Wife did not include me in the wedding and when people asked I told them the truth. She says that I threw her under the bus and does not trust me. She has not come to family events and when she does she is cold faced to me and everyone notices. My son was coming alone to X'mas, birthdays, mother's day, father's day. This year my husband said he and my younger son are treating and if the older one is joining (he usually does). He said he has appts and is not coming. When my husband called him and asked him what he is doing for Mother's day he said he would call me. I am quite sad that this situation is getting worse. Why are they behaving like this?
All year we have been trying to reach out to the wife and being nice but she ignores us. I want to give up trying with them.

I feel your heart break. I have no idea why these children are so awful.
At least you have your younger son. Both my kids have abandoned us.. we
have no one. Hang in there! It's not your fault. These new ge elation
are cold.

Thank you for your encouragement. I am sorry to hear that both your kids have abandoned you.
It's like we give everything to our kids for a better life and then they turn their back on you.
I will try to focus on our younger son but my heart is broken. I will wait and hope one day my son will remember us and the wonderful family that we were.

I am constantly thinking about how much things have changed, especially people all ages are different, much more aggression and anger is often rage filled. I also have two sons and most of the time it’s tolerable in our relationship but my pain always lies with the grandchildren, I find myself hurting because of a hurtful comment and instead of saying something about it I just hold it in, the problem is that I don’t function well when I hold in my feelings. I always fear that they will make it harder for us to get together if I speak my truth, I agree, our children are very different especially when we compare them to ourselves, every generation does it. I think that we have to think more about ourselves and let them do what they want, things always keep changing and one day they will understand what they have been doing to their parents, at least I hope so.