Online sex chat addiction: How can I stay quit?

Hello! Forgive me for being frank. “Otherwise he’s a great husband “. Total trust must be proven. You try to forgive……, you appear to be kind and forgiving - I don’t want that taken for granted, by your husband while he manipulates and deceives you. Did the texting with the ex continue, has that been eliminated?
Your kindness is his blessing - has/does he earn it?
Thank you for your openness and honesty.

The ex texting was years ago before we were married. I forgave him. He has no kids with her and she moved states away. I haven't heard anyone we know hearing from her. Talking to these half dressed fake women from FB coffee group happened a couple of years ago. He was having some sexual issues because he was put on some medication that made it difficult to get an erection. I didn't want to embarrass him by talking about it. I found out when I looked at his phone. Since then we went to counseling a bit. I don't suspect anything but it's so hard to ever trust again. It's easy to be open and honest without anyone else knowing who I am lol.

88 days alcohol free.. yaa me right.. no not really...life going well.. feeling better than I ever have. .. but..yes there's a but...wth is wrong with me and this sick twisted mind of mine.. i do good for a few days to a week at best...then my mind turns the darkness..ashamed doesn't describe it...will I ever be able to control my urges and addiction 😅 🙃...now to explain how my path goes...I typed everything before addiction...then the laugh til you cry emoji pops up. Then the next...is life telling me something...im pretty sure im bi polar. Severe anxiety...depression..im sorry for rambling on...#needhelp..oh and I buried my oldest child on 1-14-24..pretty much been on a roller-coaster hard since then..Zachary forever 34

When you wake up, decide that you are not going to chat for that day. Just that day. Look at everyday that way.

You are doing good!! 88 days is great. I found that after I stopped drinking I had other things I needed to address. When I saturated my brain and body for so long, the person I really was started to appear. As you already know, I did A.A. I also see a therapist and a shrink. Being an alcoholic was what I had always been. Now, I am still an alcoholic, I just stopped drinking and without the alcohol, I realized I have trauma in my background as well. Depression, anxiety, etc. I do the best I can one day at a time. A.A. and the people that understand helps as I know I am not alone. Hang in there! I know you are still grieving your son. Grief has no time limit. Just today, that is all you have! I know you can do it. Seek the help you need. You do not have to do this alone. I promise.

You are not addicted to online sex chat you’re addicted to the dopamine hit you get when engaging in those chats.

Dopamine makes you feel better and helps compensate for the other areas of stress in your life. You had a lot of trauma so you’re seeking relief from that trauma.

There’s nothing to be ashamed of you need to redirect your energies elsewhere that will also help express dopamine and if you can talk to people who care about you and you care about, you will also create oxytocin.

This is a physiological reality has nothing to do with weakness. It has nothing to do with willpower and you should not be ashamed.

We all react to trauma and handling it in different ways.

I exercise 2 to 3 hours a day, eat a very nutritious diet spending time in nature and lots of time with friends and family.

The only time I need to turn to sexual release is when I’m not able to find other ways to address the stress created by my trauma.

It’s time everyone, all of us stop judging ourselves for things that are physiological realities and address them at their root cause

I have been in prison for things that were caused by physiological responses in my body as well as the medication they put me on.

I have no shame mostly I just am angry. I channel the anger into purpose, and it helps me deal with the anxiety created by the trauma of experience.

I also find meditation practice in addition to the physical exercise to be extremely helpful.

I have not had nor do I have a porn addiction nonetheless, I do understand how it can arise. I have had plenty of other addictions.

I do not judge anyone because I don’t want anyone to judge me? I try not to judge myself, especially for those things that are simply part of being a human being.

I wish you good health and peace all your days.