Does anyone feel old and useless with age?

Thank you so much for your kind words. My husband feels the loneliness and isolation, too, as the male friends he had in our neighborhood who organized the “guys’ night out” get togethers have passed away. My husband has one friend left who is 95 years old but he doesn’t live nearby. Both my husband and I are extreme introverts so we just can’t go out and make friends. My anxiety is at such a heightened state that every little task I have to do makes me feel ill. I have a therapist I can talk with and have told him everything about my life as an abused child. I don’t have the strength to make it to some of my appointments as I am frozen with fear. Thank you for your prayer. Yes, I would like continue to communicate with you.

I currently am not on any medication and after reading so many horror stories on utube about anti anxiety and anti depressant meds, I don’t know what to do. I have been on and off so many meds in the past 6 months but none have helped. Most of them just made me feel worse with their terrible side effects. I don’t know if I can push through without any medication. I have no appetite and have to force myself to eat. I need to get well so that I can take some of the burden off of my husband who has Parkinson’s disease. Every night when I toss and turn in bed, I pray to God to help me sleep, but so far I am still plagued with total insomnia.

@dorothy1914
I don’t know if this helps but you are not alone in your challenges. I have had insomnia with resulting anxiety and depression for 5 years and have also tried so many drugs with unbearable side effects. I have always been sensitive to drugs. I am 71 years old now and in good health if not for what this unrelenting insomnia is doing to my body. One of the natural supplements that has helped me with anxiety is Lidtke Tryptophan. It works best if you empty the capsule on your tongue and let the saliva mix with it for as long as you can before taking a drink of water. In about 15-30 minutes you should notice a calmness. Just swallowing the capsule may work, but not as well. Depending on how bad your insomnia is, taking 2 or 3 capsules before bed may help you sleep. Recently while having blood drawn the nurse asked how I was and I told her how the insomnia was ruining my life. That day I was almost in tears. She told me she would pray for me and for me to recite the 23rd Psalm every night and she would pray it with me. That meant more to me than she will ever know- the compassion and kindness of a stranger. And if you will recite the 23rd Psalm every night, I will pray for you Dorothy. Together, may God hear our burdens and prayers and heal us. I am here for you and understand your suffering and believe there is an answer for us.

@amberpep, hi Barb, I was saddened by your post and thought perhaps you might need another perspective on your life. I’m sorry that you feel that life is passing you by, it really isn’t, you have been blessed with reaching 80, I know that I won’t get to that age…you also have good health which is amazing, this enables you to get outside and make friends to talk to, our families are a gift but often they are not going to have a lot of time to spend with you. I stopped relying on my family for pretty much anything so if they seek me out I’m always happy. I believe that we’re better off finding others that can relate to you and understand your feelings. Perhaps you can look into social gatherings and find a hobby or even learn something new. It’s a tough world today and easy to get lost but you’re a survivor and I think that you will find your place when you want to.

@dorothy1914
I don’t know if this helps but you are not alone in your challenges. I have had insomnia with resulting anxiety and depression for 5 years and have also tried so many drugs with unbearable side effects. I have always been sensitive to drugs. I am 71 years old now and in good health if not for what this unrelenting insomnia is doing to my body. One of the natural supplements that has helped me with anxiety is Lidtke Tryptophan. It works best if you empty the capsule on your tongue and let the saliva mix with it for as long as you can before taking a drink of water. In about 15-30 minutes you should notice a calmness. Just swallowing the capsule may work, but not as well. Depending on how bad your insomnia is, taking 2 or 3 capsules before bed may help you sleep. Recently while having blood drawn the nurse asked how I was and I told her how the insomnia was ruining my life. That day I was almost in tears. She told me she would pray for me and for me to recite the 23rd Psalm every night and she would pray it with me. That meant more to me than she will ever know- the compassion and kindness of a stranger. And if you will recite the 23rd Psalm every night, I will pray for you Dorothy. Together, may God hear our burdens and prayers and heal us. I am here for you and understand your suffering and believe there is an answer for us.

I understand how you feel as I feel the same way. I am a senior woman, married but with no children. Through the years, I have monetarily helped one nephew in particular and one of my sisters. I am having terrible anxiety/depression issues with no help in sight. He never even calls to see how I am doing. I am very isolated with no friends.

@dorothy1914
I don’t know if this helps but you are not alone in your challenges. I have had insomnia with resulting anxiety and depression for 5 years and have also tried so many drugs with unbearable side effects. I have always been sensitive to drugs. I am 71 years old now and in good health if not for what this unrelenting insomnia is doing to my body. One of the natural supplements that has helped me with anxiety is Lidtke Tryptophan. It works best if you empty the capsule on your tongue and let the saliva mix with it for as long as you can before taking a drink of water. In about 15-30 minutes you should notice a calmness. Just swallowing the capsule may work, but not as well. Depending on how bad your insomnia is, taking 2 or 3 capsules before bed may help you sleep. Recently while having blood drawn the nurse asked how I was and I told her how the insomnia was ruining my life. That day I was almost in tears. She told me she would pray for me and for me to recite the 23rd Psalm every night and she would pray it with me. That meant more to me than she will ever know- the compassion and kindness of a stranger. And if you will recite the 23rd Psalm every night, I will pray for you Dorothy. Together, may God hear our burdens and prayers and heal us. I am here for you and understand your suffering and believe there is an answer for us.

To @1oldsoul

This morning I had a total meltdown from lack of sleep. I pleaded with my husband not to call 911 as here in Arizona they throw you in a lockdown facility. It’s very barbaric. You don’t get treatment. It’s like the movie “One Flew Over the Cukoo’s Nest.” I am very frightened. I am blaming myself for creating this anxiety. I canceled my provider appointment for next week as she was going to drop me if this latest round of meds didn’t work. They didn’t.

To @1oldsoul

This morning I had a total meltdown from lack of sleep. I pleaded with my husband not to call 911 as here in Arizona they throw you in a lockdown facility. It’s very barbaric. You don’t get treatment. It’s like the movie “One Flew Over the Cukoo’s Nest.” I am very frightened. I am blaming myself for creating this anxiety. I canceled my provider appointment for next week as she was going to drop me if this latest round of meds didn’t work. They didn’t.