Online sex chat addiction: How can I stay quit?

I just came across your statement about online sex chat. Are you married or in a serious relationship? If you are, this could ruin your marriage. I found that my husband was on social media/sex sites. We are still together but it has completely ruined my trust for him. On a day to day basis my relationship is great but I will still never have trust for him. I also don't understand it. Maybe you could give me some insight. There have been 2x's that I have caught him doing something. Once sexting with an ex and second on a site through FB "picking up" fake women who probably only wanted money. Neither time did I find any evidence of physical cheating. Third strike and he's out!

I understand how you feel, it’s a huge problem in our world and easy to keep hidden but if you’re in a relationship it can most assuredly cause problems. Some believe that they aren’t being unfaithful because they don’t have any physical contact with others, this not true. It’s been a source of addiction for years and can most definitely break down your relationship, the addiction can and will get worse with time, it works the same way as any addiction. It might get difficult for you now that you are aware of it but how do you deal with it, if you start monitoring him he may become more sneaky and find ways to keep it from you, desperate people do desperate things. I think that you should bring it up in the open and suggest counselling perhaps for both of you, it’s still a helpful choice for you and him, there is usually reasons why people can get addicted to this and therapy is a good choice to get better results.

I hesitated to reply because of my past trauma. My first husband now deceased had an online porn addiction. He could not focus on his health his work etc. He lost his job due to this. He died in 2012. What he did falls under domestic violence. I wore myself out caring for him working as a nurse.In May 2014 I got bacterial meningitis of my brain..I was coded on a vent in multi organ failure. A lot of work medical treatment recovery led to me being able to write this post. I got domestic violence trestment.in 2017. I learned the full impact of hos actions my codependency etc. I learned how my family of origion dysfunctional dynamics contributed to this. I am very sorry you are caught up in this. Please get help. The ramifications of what you ate doing are serious.

There are 12 step sex addiction groups to be found. Also, the program Narcotics Anonymous deals with addiction, all types of addictions. I would start there. Do not be fooled by the narcotics name.

I myself have a online sex addiction..its ruining my life and marriage..hope you are fighting the good fight...I myself struggle..I lost a son on 1-14-24..since then I have drank and taken drugs daily..then I turned back to online sex. I feel as if I'm spinning out of control..58 yrs old. Thought I had my life together...almost destroyed my family..thats why I decided to start here..please don't judge me

I don’t think anyone would want to judge a human being looking for help from an addiction. I’m so sorry for your loss, it shouldn’t happen for a parent to see their child go before them but sadly it happens. I think your brave to admit that you have a problem and it’s the best thing you can do, this is half the battle and the next step is therapy…there’s a lot of good treatments and support for you and need help to find it. I hope that you get the help you deserve, best wishes for your road to recovery, 🙏

Thank you for your kind words..they go futher than most people think ..I pray 🙏 God watchs over you 🙏

I am sorry for what you went through. I am glad you are doing better. I'm not sure he has an addiction to porn or if it was just tempting to click on the facebook pictures of these half dressed women. And of course they write to you because they want to flirt with you because ultimately they want your money. This is all I know. I saw his messenger and he was talking to half dressed women and I haven't seen anything since. Before we were married he was texting with an ex. It kind of sucks. Otherwise he is a great husband. No complains anywhere else. Thoughtful caring family man. So I try to forgive but keep it in the back of my mind.

I have been struggling for a few years now on and off now and i feel like it has spun out of control all it takes is a few clicks and you could get these girls to do whatever u want.
I am ashamed of myself and have deep feelings of guilt my self-esteem the lowest it's ever been i need help.

Im seeking help myself. For online sex addiction..its easly to get caught up in...its the attention and excitement of it..I will add. An maturation addiction to...nothing I'm proud of either...my life has spun out of control due to life's events.....its ruining my life....so you're not alone...sending good vibes you're way