At what point are you considered alone forever?

My son is 58 and goes through the same problem with a girlfriend that wants to be married. He loves her but doesn't want to be married. They have a good relationship when she leaves him be.

yer' doin' the right thing -- pursue your own interests and let go of what he's doing--that's his problem. You might also try expanding what you do in the evening, it'll have shock value.

I understand your view, I am with you on the point if I marry again will, financial business stays the same, to many disingenuous people in this world for one reason, the other reason I don't see someone just walking in a owning what that hand no hand in earning, I really love your idea on just a true friend shopping, watching a movie,going places, just someone real to share the journey with👍

I feel so alone at times - I cry. As a single- no kids - hence no grandkids- I hate to go out with people who just talk about kids and grandkids- it leaves me out of conversation and makes me feel lonelier.

I'm 63 and been on my own for a number of years initially I did think I would meet someone after I was divorced but it just hasn't happened I'm now resigned to the reality that I am destined to be on my own until the end that's something I think about quite often I'm not looking for potty or sympathy I'm just explaining my situation I was brought up in the care system from the age of 6 has I didn't have a family so it's like I have always been on my own. Sometimes I feel like the grey mist has come down and I will scream at the sky and ask questions like why have I had to live the life that I have. I had never experienced what a close family relationship was I was in the care system until I was 17 and when I left I was on my own and totally lost I met my wife Julie when I was 20 and I fell in love with her almost immediately. We were together nearly ten years before we got married we had a beautiful home and two children both boys at the age of 30 my life could not have been better. And then things started to go wrong my eldest son Sean was killed in a road according the car was being driven by a very good friend of mine I'd known him nearly 20 years. He couldn't live with what he had done although I never blamed him it was an unfortunate accident he took his own life whilst speaking to me on the phone I pleaded with him please please don't do this to me I love you you are my world don't leave me but he did it in the most gruesome way. 14 months after the death of Sean my youngest son Anthony died of liver failure he was only four years old. Sean was nine when he died I couldn't believe how my life had been turned upside down I was unable to function and wanted my life to end I felt that life was no longer worth living and I kept asking myself why me what had I ever done I even started to think I was cursed in some way after years of sexual physical abuse in the UK social care system I had endured over ten years at the hands of these people who were supposed to look after me but instead I had an horrendous upbringing. I tried to carry on with life but I struggled every day. By this time I had been married to Julie for nearly 15 years plus I was with her for years before we got married so imagine the absolute devastation I felt when I discovered that the lady who I had loved for all those years was cheating on me with my brother the two people who meant everything to me who I reached out to when I was in the deepest of depression. I've never remarried and have lived on my own with justy wonderful memories of a life that I had, I know it's not right but some days I think please god just end my life I don't want to be here any longer my life has been truly horrendous since I was 6 years old no one should have to endure so much heartache. Thank you for reading and God bless you all x

@mansions11
Welcome to Mayo Connect. As I read your post, I thought how sad that one person had to deal with so much loss in their life. At 63, it is possible to still create new relationships and find purpose in life. I try to keep busy and volunteer to be socially active.

Do you have any activities that you enjoy and look forward to?

It’s the law of attraction…literally and figuratively. You attract what you think about. Turn it into a positive. Why is ALL dating out? You’re just looking in the wrong place. If necessary, wear a sign “marriage not available” lol, but in all seriousness, please don’t EVER close the door on possibilities that may come knocking on your door when you least expect them. If you’re happy then don’t change anything… just don’t settle. ❤️

P.S. this is from a 62 year old female who married a man 9 years her junior 8 years ago. Second marriage for me and third for him. Found each other on a dating site. Good luck!

I think Voyager 2's pretty much resigned itself to, at best, long-distance relationships.

Yes, you've been through a lot. This may not help, but when I start to ruminate about my life's considerable list of downs and regrets, I try to think about people who have lived through very trying circumstances and to count my blessings. I know it's probably cold comfort. But, that's about the best advice I can give.
Again, you have had some tough breaks and you have my sympathy.
Good luck!

Reading all these comments makes me really think I'm alone. My husband and l moved crossed country 19 years ago. Making friends at least where l am is difficult to say the least. I have 2 neighbors l talk to. One comes over periodically to chat. I have only one friend l met while working that we still text and on rare occasions meet for lunch. She has a retired life with 2 sons and 3 grandkids. I wasn't fortunate enough to have children. Never questioned God's will. I only have 2 single brothers older then me. That's my family. So do l think l will be alone, most differently and it scares me to the point that l talk to a therapist weekly for my anxiety. My husband went back to work pt after getting his 2 knees replaced. Most days other then taking a walk or running to the store l sit in the house with my 3 kitties which if not for then I'd really be alone. They put a smile on my face. So for those of you that feel alone l know the feeling. If you have kids or big family be thankful. You will never be alone.